borderline personality disorder

rogers · Newbie Joined: 18 Feb 2005 Posts: 6

Hi there, I am a guy who is 32 years old. My sister has a problem. That problem is borderline personality disorder. I don't have a clue about this condition and because of that I really need your answers about it. Can it be treated and that kind of stuff? Everything you know will do, but it would be nice if I hear from you fast.

anjanette · Newbie Joined: 06 Mar 2007 Posts: 7

Hi there, I will do my best to help you out. This is a condition where a person has "black and white" thinking. There is no middle for those persons. Self cutting is pretty common for this condition. Suicide rate is around 10 percent. There are many types of therapy. Cognitive behavioral therapy is most used type of therapy. Group therapy may help also. Antidepressants and antipsychotics are medicines which are used. There is also family therapy and Dialectical behavioral therapy. I can't remember if there are more but I am pretty sure that this is not all.

Brian1234 · Supporter Joined: 18 Jul 2007 Posts: 21

People with BPD are sometimes described and being predictably unpredictable and consistently inconsistent.

Boundaries MUST be establised with your sister. The boundaries must be fair, clear and understood by her. YOU must be firm and consistent in your response to her breaking boundaries. If for example you tell her "you can't call me after 10PM, and even if you are in crises you still cannot call me, call the crises hotline not me" and then should she call you after 10PM you must follow through with whatever the rules were to begin with should she break boundaries such as she cannot call you at all for one week or whatever you told her.

Manipulation is the backbone of getting needs met for many with BPD. Boundaries must be set and enforced. You are helping her to learn.

Each person with BPD is very different. It's kinda hard to tell you much without knowing both you and your sister.

Time also helps but this doesn't do anyone anygood right now.

Don't set yourself up as being your sister's keeper. If she is an adult then you are not her caretaker or parent. You are her adult brother and keep it that way as you will both be better off and mentally healthier.

DBT is helpful as well as CBT. Most therapists do a combination of CBT-DBT. These therapies teach real life thinking skills and real life coping skills.

Your sister needs to learn and needs to have clear and consistent boundaries with everyone in her life.

You can help by setting boundaries and the consequences for breaking them with her.

Be kind be fair but don't ever give in to her.

Most people with BPD can create a crises in under ten seconds and suck in anyone they can.

Be a good brother, be helpful but don't get sucked into her drama.

Good Luck

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As a person with BPD i would suggest that you try to be very open with her and make sure that any co-dependent behavior is not rewarded. make sure that she knows she is loved, but dont be manipulated by her. also, it is hard for many people with BPD to distinguish their feelings from the intentions and feelings of others. sometimes just the wrong look from someone can set off a flood of emotions: insecurity, self doubt, anger, resentment, betrayl...the base of it is feelings of unworthiness and detachment from certain social behavior. it causes anxiety, paranoia, and depression. keep that in mind when youre interacting with her. example: she looks at you and reads into your facial expression (it may have nothing to do with her). She reacts angrily or later seems hurt and nervous. This does not mean you should be hyper sensitive to her feelings, but it may help you to understand her condition and where she is coming from.

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