confused about my virginity

burn · Newbie Joined: 18 May 2006 Posts: 1

i'm 14 years old and i had sexual intercourse with my serious boyfriend after many days of fingering and oral sex. but what confuses me is that no blood came but i'm sure i have lost my virginity as we had sex a lot after the first time. i had pain when i peed the first day of sex. but everyone says that if you lose ur virginity blood would come. is it a problem thet this did not hapen to me? also i remember a little blood came before sex with serious fingering. and 3 days after the first day of sex i got my periods which was unsual as a lot of blood appeared.please help me in this

Natalia · Supporter Joined: 27 Mar 2006 Posts: 365

Some women don’t bleed at all after their first intercourse because their hymens were just way to flexible and stretchy or something and they did not bleed.
You did bleed as a matter of fact but it was when your boyfriend fingered you. This doesn’t mean that you lost your virginity when you did the fingering but your hymen did break then. This is why you didn’t bleed when you had sex.

A woman loses her virginity when a penis enters her, not when her hymen breaks. Of course that there are different opinions about the topic but none of it really matters actually. Of course it does in some countries where women must keep their hymens (read virginity) until they are married.

Anyway, it is not abnormal that you didn’t bleed during your intercourse. Many women break their hymens when inserting tampons but it doesn’t mean that they lost their virginity with a tampon (heheh).

You are perfectly ok, and there’s nothing to worry about. It would be wise if you visited a gynecologist now since you had your first intercourse, so that you could learn about good ways of protecting yourself, so that you wouldn’t get pregnant and that you should know how to protect yourself from STD’s once you start having sex with other men (in the future).

Don’t start taking birth control pills on your own, consult a gynecologist about this because you may need to undergo certain tests to see if it’s ok for you to take them.

crzyfl · Veteran Joined: 07 Apr 2006 Posts: 1159

I didn't bleed when I lost my virginity either. Some girls have a small hymen, and some sports such as horseriding can cause it to reduce so there is no actual breakage during sex

Confused1023 · Newbie Joined: 27 Nov 2008 Posts: 1

I had sex a few months ago but I didnt bleed and it didnt hurt at all. I'm in a serious relationship now and we talk about having sex, but he still thinks I'm a virgin. I don't know if anything broke or stretched and I want to be perfect for him but i don't know how to tell if physically I'm still a virgin. I'm SOO confused.

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