dealing with relationship going bad

norrie · Veteran Joined: 16 Sep 2005 Posts: 513

Hello! I am engaged for more than two years now but lately I have hard time dealing with relationship going bad. I tried to be tolerate and understandable but it seems I don't get anything in return so I started thinking seriously of giving up all this though on the other hand I can't stop thinking of how it would be awful to break up something that lasted almost a decade. But yet again I got tired of making all his wishes come true without satisfying my needs I think all of this has exhausted me and I was doing it just to cover the real problems in our relationship but now I got seek of dealing with it. What do you think I should do?

cheri · Veteran Joined: 24 Aug 2005 Posts: 550

It is very simple just turn around and leave. You shouldnâ€™t have started this game at first place but you obviously were its main player through all these years so now your five minutes has come and use it the best way think of yourself and of your wishes-want do you any harm. He is a big boy he will manage the new situation donâ€™t worry. Usually my advice to the persons that are dealing with relationship going bad is try to talk it over with your partner for the communication is the best way dealing with the problems of that kind. But in your case I donâ€™t think itâ€™s worth it. Wake up girl, he is not the only one on this planet pretty soon after you leave him he would figured out what he has lost but usually it is too late. I would like to give you the encouragement words but I know people like that they are like a child that needs to be kept like a baby and I donâ€™t think you should be his golden fish. Donâ€™t waste your life for itâ€™s too short to be thrown on wrong persons.

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Yeah...cause assuming its all the man's fault is the best way to solve a problem. You hear one side of a story and assume that the man is wrong...wonderful. I see thats how women think all the damn time. It would be nice to see the other side of this story--instead of women telling other women to go and f*** up someones life, confidence so she can go out and party on the town.

Happy Life Space · Supporter Joined: 23 May 2008 Posts: 22 Location: USA

Hey there,

Have you tried to talk to your partner about how you are feeling? Perhaps find a quiet time, sit him down and tell him exactly how you feel. Let him know that you are your wits end unless he changes some of his ways. Relationships are all about balancing give and take. As you know it gets very wearing when you are the one who is constantly giving. Telling him exactly how you feel and also how close you are to leaving may be enough of a wake up call for him.

I wish you the best of luck!

Cassie
Happy Life Space

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