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ace
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 Posted: 04/10/06 - 11:36 Post subject: delayed ejaculation or no ejacualtion while sex |
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hi,
i am experiencing a problem during sex with my wife. we got married a month before and have a good time together . Coming ot the problem, from the day i started having sex with my partner ..i experienced a problem with me that i cant ejaculate or reach orgasm during sex rather i have to masturbate myself or she has to do it for me to cum. i am afraid that how can we have a baby .what should we do?. We are really experiencinga tough time becoz of this reason. i hope i get some good reply from u people.
about our past ...i was a bit addicted to masturbation that i did masturabtion 1 or 2 times a day. she dont have any sort of problems at all.i think i am addictive to masturabtion techniques such that i dont feel the sex pleasure inside her ...both of us dont have anyother sex life before marriage. we love each other soo much that we are willing to adjust our sex life according to the partners need !!!! I dont have any problem with errection or any other STD.
i read a lot articles related to delayed ejacualtion,but not satisfied .finally i found this forum as a best way to clear myself ...is there any solution for this problem ??
how can i sort it out ..ur advice is very valuable to me
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DennisD.
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| Posted: 04/17/06 - 15:00 Post subject: |
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Hi! First of all, I don’t think that masturbating 1-2 times a day is an addiction. Secondly….i haven’t had that problem but what makes me really wanna cum is when she squeezes her pelvic muscles and makes her vagina appear tighter. I also enjoy when she holds a vibrator around my genitals….penile, testicular or anal. This makes me cum in a few seconds. I also like when I am inside her and she puts her hand between us and starts stimulating her clitoris and the base of my penis and slightly masturbating me while I am inside of her.
You could also try watching porn during sex. I noticed that really turns my girlfriend on especially if the sound is on and when I watch her going mad and when I watch this porn….i want to ejaculate myself.
I can’t say what your problem is……are you too anxious or worried during sex or is everything cool while you are doing it?
I reckon that these small tips are what could help. If not these, look for other that could help you! Good luck! |
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| Posted: 04/17/06 - 23:56 Post subject: |
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| Hi When I first got together with my partner he had this problem as well. It took a very long time for him to finish and usually I had to finish the job by hand. It took maybe a couple of months, but the problem disappeared by itself. I would just give it more time, maybe try the porn as suggested to make you more aroused. I am sure it will happen eventually |
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| Posted: 04/18/06 - 11:26 Post subject: Thanks |
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Thanks for ur valuable support. I am happy to hear that it goes eventually. anyways these two replies give me confidence and happiness.
thanking u again
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| Posted: 09/23/06 - 10:01 Post subject: Thanks a ton |
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hi guyz,
Atlast i made it
i ejaculated during sex...we are soo happy abt it
thanks for everybody who gave their suggestion.
guyz who have the same problem ..please listen
dont get depressed..this is not a BIG problem at all
it will come to normal eventually..Love ur partner and make love as much as u can.dont get upset
I think this post will help peopl who suffered the same problem.
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| Posted: 01/23/07 - 19:57 Post subject: ejacualtion |
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Ace ,
how did you succeed ? iam having same problem.
did u stop masterbation totally?
did u try any therapy ? which position do you orgasm now
is it missionary?
iam also trying for baby but i cant ejacualte inside vagina
pls help |
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| Posted: 02/21/07 - 21:34 Post subject: Re: delayed ejaculation or no ejacualtion while sex |
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Hey there,
I read all your comments and none of it works,
I am not depressed and i am very attracted to my sexual partner.
I feel like a freak who cant blow i see everyone and they can and i cant its horrible it turns me off having SEX and i my sex partner hasnt realised that i dont blow cause of constant use of condom i have tried to relax and after sex and she's doing oral i dunno i just feel dirty if i blow
can you help me?
thanks
EmPtYsPaCe[/b] |
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| Posted: 04/26/07 - 03:03 Post subject: it worked after so long |
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i'm new to this forum, but i just wanted to drop by and say that finally after so many years i've managed to crack RE....
I had several girlfriends in the past that didn't last mainly i feel because i wasen't able to orgasim during sex....
in fact i had to bring myself off every time.
I did alot of reading up on the subject over the past year and finally found out that my RE was due to mastibation process that i was used to + a bit of anxiety about performance....
anyway I abstained from wanking for about a couple of weeks and then started using my other hand and taking it very slow...
then i got my girlfriend to do it and I just closed my eyes and went off into a fantasy...OMG it worked she pulled me off..
then she gave me a BJ and after using my pelvic floor and going off into a fantasy again if done properly this worked too....
now i was really quite worried about sex and coming...the first couple of times nothing and just embarisment on my behalf as usual...
then after she played with me for a little bit and worked me on top, which means i'm lying down and always in the position when i mastibate normally....the dam thing worked.
i hope i'm not pre-empting the whole thing and hope this is just not a one off.....but i find that if you re-work any matibation pattern and try to fantisize in your head instead of using porn this works....
if you wanna chat msg me back, becuase this was such a long standing problem with me i want to help others with RE |
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| Posted: 05/14/07 - 06:13 Post subject: sometimes it works sometimes in don't! |
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I had intercourse at the weekend, but could not finish.
I posted the update on my RE condition (see above), which indicates that I did come with my girlfirend after some pre-intercourse masterbation...
At least I can say that I have had sex and finished and I'm sure I can do it again...
I made the mistake of going back to my old materbation technique for a couple of days....and this is not good if you want to finish during sex....
so i'm back on course now to re-work myself to the position i had a couple of weeks ago....
trial and error with RE i guess....but hope for the future |
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| Posted: 07/17/07 - 17:19 Post subject: Re: ejacualtion |
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| Guest wrote: | Ace ,
how did you succeed ? iam having same problem.
did u stop masterbation totally?
did u try any therapy ? which position do you orgasm now
is it missionary?
iam also trying for baby but i cant ejacualte inside vagina
pls help |
hi there,
i am very sorry for the late reply ..and i hope u must have succeded by nw. if not ,this is my cure to this problem. and would like to explain how i come over this problem...
first of all this is nothing to deal with you physically and all i have to say is its all related to ur mind. My actual problem was i used to be very concious during sex that others could hear my sound ( we were in a shared accomodation). I was not concenterating in sex ..all i was doing was making love and thinking about my problem. thinking about how and when i am going to come....becoz of these silly things ,i was not relaxed and aroused.
Now the solution i found was
1. Not thinking about the problem while making love (which is practically impossible) ..so think about it and make ur mind clear that u will come or u maynot and it is not going to affect your life (we tense about things which are unsure).
2. Do what you like. try different positions..find what you like and what makes you more aroused.
3. Read this post with your partner. dont hide from them about this situation. let them see the solution ( as they have already seen the trouble part)
4. Last but not least...Make your fantasies workout during sex...that makes you forget about everything and makes ur mind more concenterated on what you r doing ...
about the position, i ejaculated when we tried Rear entry style...gives more pleasure and less stress on ur body. I didnt stopped masturbation but ofcourse the freq went down. I didnt try any therapies( u dont need any)....
I am very happy to answer any sort of questions regarding this topic
Feel free to ask me as i experienced the pain and mental stress..i was in ur shoes and ofcourse i understand you.
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