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luciano · Newbie Joined: 27 Jan 2006 Posts: 7

hey, jst wanted to ask.. i used to do a fingering to my gf, and after few days of that, she went to the ladies room, and noticed that she had some blood on her pannties.. so im so scared.. BY the way she is virgin.. so cld it be that she lost her virginity .

P.s ( i wasnt fingering so hard or push a lot..)

anotehr P.s ( her cycle started a day after that, so cld that blood be pre-cylce)

thanks 4 ur time.

Lori · Veteran Joined: 23 Jul 2005 Posts: 510

Hello! How much blood was there?

This could have been both, her period and her hymen breaking. If you just entered vagina with your finger, you could have ruptured the hymen. I don’t see it as a big deal!

How old is your girlfriend? In my opinion, losing virginity is when you have sex for the first time or when a penis enters a vagina at least a little bit. She could have ruptured her hymen with a tampon, bicycle seat or a vibrator for example and she would still be a virgin.
Is she upset about all of this?

The blood on her panties could have been from the irritation if you for example made a small cut with your finger nails inside her vagina while fingering.

luciano · Newbie Joined: 27 Jan 2006 Posts: 7

well its like a spot of blood, and it ddnt cum out with fingerin, she found it later wen she went to the toilette, and she is nt upset about it at all, bt i was scared on her, and that if she lost viriginity in such a way, and btw i ddnt push insider her vagina hard at all, jst small pushin, as i ddnt feel my fingers tear sumthin, or that it entered inside more, or that a blood came to fingers or anything... bt a day after her cycle begins. so wt that may show? z it 4 cycle thing, or i broke her hymen.?

and btw i heard about surgeries for makin the hymen again, tell me about t!! and how much does it cost.. everything..

thx again

Lori · Veteran Joined: 23 Jul 2005 Posts: 510

It doesn’t mater if you push too hard or not. Some girls’ hymens are very sensitive and thin membranes, usually very elastic.

Considering she got her period the following day, I would say it was her period although no one can tell for sure except maybe a gynecologist after an examination.

Who of two of you is considering hymen restoration? I think it is a necessary procedure, and yet it costs a fortune. It should be pretty simple, and is done under local anesthesia. However, the recovery period would last somewhere from 6-8 weeks.
Are you ready for the price?

Weeeell, it costs between 2000 and 5000$$$$$! It depends on a surgeon and a country.

Are there any religious reasons for this kind of procedure?

luciano · Newbie Joined: 27 Jan 2006 Posts: 7

well im in Jordan, and i asked how much does it cost, they said about 280 Jordan dinars, which is about 400 $ which is nt that much, and im the 1 who suggest for the surgery even she is nt convinced and she is afraid to do it and afraid to go to a doctor to check if she is even virgin or not, so is there any other way to know if she is virgin or not. i heard if she lost it that time, the next cycle, will be little later than usual, IS THAT TRUE?

Lori · Veteran Joined: 23 Jul 2005 Posts: 510

What you heard about first sexual experience and menstrual cycle is not correct. Sexual act has nothing to do with periods neither it should affect them. Her period won’t come earlier and it won’t be late-unless there are other reasons for it.

Listen, if the girl is not upset about losing her virginity this way, there is no need to push her to have the hymen restoration only because you feel guilty about her hymen breaking. And yet, you don’t even know if it broke or not.

There is no need to undergo such treatment and throw your money away just like that. You never know what kind of surgeon you may ran into and you shouldn’t expose this girl to such a procedure.

What does she say about all of this?

luciano · Newbie Joined: 27 Jan 2006 Posts: 7

well maybe u r right of not pushing her hard, bt even so, here in Jordan, it is very important for the girl to be virgin!! and i shld make sure i ddnt ruin her life or anythin, i luv her so much, AND i kno f i really loved her, i shldnt do that, bt that was a mistake.. well another question about the same situation, u said it doesnt matter f it was hard or smooth pushin on the vagina, cuz maybe her hymen is sensitive, right? f that is true, y ddnt it break before, cuz i hv been doin the same fingerin act, and the same pushin force, for about month, so y it ddnt break before,

( NOTICE, last time i made it, it was smooth push, Nt hard, bt even so, she checked later the blood)..

Lori · Veteran Joined: 23 Jul 2005 Posts: 510

Luciano, like I said, there is no way to find out unless she is checked by a gynecologist.
We can only speculate this way. Here is what I think you should do but of course, it is up to you to decide.

You could use the money that you wanted to give for hymen restoration and make an appointment at the private gynecologist’s office who could give her a proper pelvic examination.
This way you will know if the blood was her period, hymenal breaking or maybe even something else.

You could have also made a small cut on the inside by your fingernail or a hangnail and that she produced some blood.

Talk to your girlfriend….see what she wants and how she feels….and then make a decision together on what to do next.

Let me know how it went! Good luck!

luciano · Newbie Joined: 27 Jan 2006 Posts: 7

Hey again, well i mentioned before that my girl friend saw a blood after fingering in the ladies room after 3 hours. well as i told u i thought its cycle or she lost virginity, and u said i cnt kno unless a doctor, bt few days ago, she told me somethin new, that the blood was wet and she cld wipe it. i mean it wasnt from before!! so does that confirm its her cycle? i mean can she bleed after tearin her hymen after 3 hours.. shldnt it bleed at instant.??

thx

Lori · Veteran Joined: 23 Jul 2005 Posts: 510

Well, I suppose you are right. I bled instantly and there was blood on sheets as well.

If the blood was wet when she first saw it, and her period started right away, then I think it was her period.

Have you been fingering her again? Did you take a look down there to see what it looks like now?

Maybe you can see yourself is there is still some tissue left, then you will know for sure.
But don’t be surprised if you see both tissue and a hole, because there are both at the vaginal hole because menstrual blood goes out through the same hole.

I hope you don’t mind me asking…..are girls allowed to have boyfriends before getting married in Jordan? I mean, this virginity thing seems to mean a lot to you and an important issue in your country, so I was wondering about these other rules.

I had a boyfriend from Jordan actually when I used to live at Cyprus and he wasn’t conservative and didn’t have such religious believes.

Are you planning to marry this girl? Are there still fixed marriages in Jordan?

I really hope you don’t mind me asking such questions but I am really interested! Thank you

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