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malinda
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| Hi. I am a 37 years old woman, and I have been married for 10 years now. Few nights ago, I spotted a light in the main room, and I saw my husband watching porn on the TV. I was pretty shocked. I thought we were doing fine. Not have a clue how this happened. Is it possible that he doesn't love me any more? |
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calla
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| I don't want to be rude… But I think you are being just too much conservative. I know that my husband is watching porns all the time – in fact, I watch them with him! I don't think that anything is wrong with your relationship. It could only mean that your husband is not getting enough "attention" as he would like to. And you could easily fix that. It would be ok to talk to your husband about your relationship, or better, don't talk, just do! |
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| Posted: 06/27/07 - 23:43 Post subject: Love is not possible where other women are concerned |
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| Yes I do think its possible , i dont believe my husband loves me or ever did. It started when I was pregnant with my first . He insists he does but I dont believe thats possible, especially when I found alot of pictures and videos he actually "saved" to view at a later date. I never put much time into perusing porn sites , they bore me. Apparently they dont bore him though and thats where we differ. Love is not possible, not when he put so much time into looking at other women. Even though he doesnt look at them anymore I know he wants to. Leave him if you can , i would if I could. |
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MisterHo
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| Posted: 09/16/07 - 01:33 Post subject: Re: Love is not possible where other women are concerned |
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| Guest wrote: | | Yes I do think its possible , i dont believe my husband loves me or ever did. It started when I was pregnant with my first . He insists he does but I dont believe thats possible, especially when I found alot of pictures and videos he actually "saved" to view at a later date. I never put much time into perusing porn sites , they bore me. Apparently they dont bore him though and thats where we differ. Love is not possible, not when he put so much time into looking at other women. Even though he doesnt look at them anymore I know he wants to. Leave him if you can , i would if I could. |
breaking a marriage over porn is stupid. It's an issue that can easily be resolved by just discussing the issue with your spouse. |
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lty_patt
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Porn to women is different to men. i use to get upset when i would catch my husband watching and whackin off to porn, but i understand now that that is just what guys do. men are more visual than women, and women are more physical than men. i know he watches it and he knows that i know but i don't care anymore. i guess it's just the fact that i know im not unattractive and can get another man anytime i wanted.
i wouldn't say that he doesn't love you because he watches porn, he probably just needs a little spice in his life. Don't let it bother you so much. REMEMBER, if he can do it so can you. one day let him walk in and catch you watching some sexy man with a huge penis and slick body humping some chick and act like you don't even care that he is in the room. see what his reaction is. if he gets upset say "so it's ok for you to look at it but i'm not allowed to? What comes around goes around." maybe you two can discuss it. Or you can come in and watch it with him, maybe give him a little action while watching porn. it could be stimulating for both of you. |
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karcot30
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| Posted: 07/26/08 - 21:01 Post subject: too much porn can be a problem |
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I have tried the toys on a few occassions, I have even purchased the ramp/wedge combo by: *****. We haven't even used the ramp, I have done over $800 in enhancements in the bedroom. I have even done the romantic approach with candles, music etc. All he can think about is him, very selfish. We just have no sex life, it stinks really bad. I can't even blame it on he is a firefighter and work 24 on and off. He can figure out PS3 games and porn but, not his wife. I will beg him for things that I want him to do and it's been 5 terrible sex yrs. We have had sex 5x's in 2008 from Jan-almost Aug now. I work another job now, not cause I need it but to just stay busy. I am a computer techy so, I know what he does but, oh well now. This is my 2nd marriage, 1st marriage it wasn't even about the sex. It was more of he was physically abusive..anyways....I am 35 yrs old and I don't want to get married again..tears:-( he is pushing me away, he promised me happiness. We are good in all other aspects but, I sex life is down right sad! I have started to masterbate.. Funny, he told one of his friends 2 yrs ago that I was a sex fien and I only got it every thurs. I am just convinced, he would rather do anything else but me. tell me what you think about that
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| Posted: 07/27/08 - 02:00 Post subject: |
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| lty_patt wrote: | Porn to women is different to men. i use to get upset when i would catch my husband watching and whackin off to porn, but i understand now that that is just what guys do. men are more visual than women, and women are more physical than men. i know he watches it and he knows that i know but i don't care anymore. i guess it's just the fact that i know im not unattractive and can get another man anytime i wanted.
i wouldn't say that he doesn't love you because he watches porn, he probably just needs a little spice in his life. Don't let it bother you so much. REMEMBER, if he can do it so can you. one day let him walk in and catch you watching some sexy man with a huge penis and slick body humping some chick and act like you don't even care that he is in the room. see what his reaction is. if he gets upset say "so it's ok for you to look at it but i'm not allowed to? What comes around goes around." maybe you two can discuss it. Or you can come in and watch it with him, maybe give him a little action while watching porn. it could be stimulating for both of you. |
This is just MY opinion, but...No, NOT all guys watch porn, especially on a regular basis. Many have much better things to do with their time than to do that. Personally, I really don't understand the attraction of porn. It's just not something that I have ever been into. Not in the least bit...And to say that he watches porn because he probably needs a little 'spice' in his life is just making excuses for the guy. For all we know, he could have a full blown porn addiction! If so, he could probably benefit from professional counseling to help in his addictive ways.
Like I said, this is just MY opinion. Take it for what it's worth... |
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My husband watches porn as well, on the internet. It used to bother me to the point where we would fight about it. He says he is doing nothing wrong. I did not agree with him at the time and had a million reasons why.
Today, after all the bitchin and complaining about it, i really don't care any more. It is not worth getting all pissy and in a bad mood just beacause hubby is looking at some big boobed chick that wouldn't look at him twice. That may sound crude, but thats how it is. I am in good shape for my age. My boobs are still perky, i am slim, blond, nice butt, no flab and a hugh personality. I take care of my body, my teeth, my hair and i look damn good. The men still notice me. I have had 5 kids, am the gramma of 4 boys, you would never know it.
So ladies please, hang up the porn thing. If he is out night after nite, hang up calls on the house phone, sweet smellin after shave for no reason, late gettin home from work...the list goes on. Then you got a reason to worry. My hub goes his way and i go mine and we meet in the middle. We know that neither one of us crosses that line, and if that ever happened, there would be a problem.
Keep yourselves healthy and attractive, do some kinky things in the bedroom, keep that sex life spicy. |
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| Posted: 07/27/08 - 10:00 Post subject: Re: too much porn can be a problem |
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| karcot30 wrote: | I have tried the toys on a few occassions, I have even purchased the ramp/wedge combo by: *****. We haven't even used the ramp, I have done over $800 in enhancements in the bedroom. I have even done the romantic approach with candles, music etc. All he can think about is him, very selfish. We just have no sex life, it stinks really bad. I can't even blame it on he is a firefighter and work 24 on and off. He can figure out PS3 games and porn but, not his wife. I will beg him for things that I want him to do and it's been 5 terrible sex yrs. We have had sex 5x's in 2008 from Jan-almost Aug now. I work another job now, not cause I need it but to just stay busy. I am a computer techy so, I know what he does but, oh well now. This is my 2nd marriage, 1st marriage it wasn't even about the sex. It was more of he was physically abusive..anyways....I am 35 yrs old and I don't want to get married again..tears:-( he is pushing me away, he promised me happiness. We are good in all other aspects but, I sex life is down right sad! I have started to masterbate.. Funny, he told one of his friends 2 yrs ago that I was a sex fien and I only got it every thurs. I am just convinced, he would rather do anything else but me. tell me what you think about that
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I think that some sex counseling could help. I know how much it hurts to be neglected by the man you love but it happens, every day. Sounds like hubby has an addiction and not to you. You guys need some help if you want this marraige to last. Come right out and ask him what's up. You must break the ice here as far as communication. You be the first one to bring it up and see what he says. Sitting on it and wondering is going to drive you nuts. Poking around on his computer will drive you nuts. Each time you see a site on the new where he has been your going to get madder and more hurt, this won't help you. Open your mouth and tell him that you must talk to him if this marraige has got a snowballs chance to survive.
Just for grins, join him when he is looking on line, see what response you get. You may get embarrassed a few times, but you will know. If he tells you to go away, go, if he invites you to join him, stay. Many couples enjoy porn, together. |
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