| I am seeking some advice on this. I hope someone can help. About five years ago, my wife had a complete hysterectomy through LAPH due to endometriosis. It included removal of the uterus, ovaries and cervix. Afterward she was in a lot of pain, which her doctor brushed off as normal. Since then that doctor left town and my wife had to see someone else. She complained about intense vaginal pain, especially during intercourse, and low back stiffness and soreness. The gynecologists don't seem to think there is anything wrong with that. My wife also has intense hot flashes, mood swings and emotional instability. Now, as she prepares to see a different gynecologist, she doesn't want to mention the pain any more - or her inability to have sex. I have been as understanding and patient with her as I possibly can and have honored her decision not to have sex. So far it has been impossible for me to convince her that there is something wrong and it needs to be fixed! Instead, she gets upset and insists I am now a pervert. She won't talk about it with me any more. Even the various gynecologists she has seen have been decidedly hostile toward me. Hormone replacement therapy has been a dismal failure. She won't consider counseling. I have been fighting for her right to live without pain and getting back to normal against her and the doctors wishes for five years. Since that operation her personality has changed completely. She is a different person. I think I am in love with who she used to be. Do I have any right to look out for her best interests? Do I have any right to want our relationship back? The warm, caring, passionate, loving person that my wife used to be is gone. She has been replaced by a monster. I don't even want to go to her next gynecologist visit. I can't take the emotional abuse from her or her doctor. Any suggestions on how to cope with this mess? |
