i am gay but i dont want to be !! what shall i do ???

R2B · Newbie Joined: 16 Jun 2007 Posts: 5

Look at that 3 more months have passed since I last posited and still nothing new as far as answers go… Well at least on my end. The comment that the Guest posters made about Electroshock therapy brings a whole new level to this topic. Wow. Just wow.

Seriously though Electroshock therapy?

Your making this up.

No really.

You come and make some shocking comments and then swiftly leave.

Lets review shall we?

“There are extreme methods u can use. Which unfortunately I did”
Go on... this has to be good.

“basically shock the gay out of you whilst you are in a semi unconscious state”
So… they still do that! Do you have any more details that you can provide for us on this? I know your probably want us to do our own research but with all the stuff that’s out there throw us a bone or something. Ok I wasn’t that interested and would never do such a thing to my body. The idea is just nuts. No offense.

Oh and it gets better

“It did make me straight”
Well you’re the first one to come out with that bold statement in this thread, thus the reason I am giving you a hard time or is it because of a statement you made before this one

“I too am in answers to try and become fully straight or more than 90% straight”
Err, So your not really straight. Your now just quite better at blocking your self from reacting or dwelling on sexual thoughts?
I can do that to. I also become almost emotionless in the process and constantly get asked “What’s Wrong” by everyone around me. It’s not so much a fix as it is locking the problem in a box and not actually dealing with it.

“I too was feeling this way, confused, annoyed at yourself, finding yourself jacking off to attractive and muscular men.”
By the way that’s worded it sounds like you still are struggling like the rest of us, like you might actually get it and understand why change is needed. Or maybe not after reading your next statement.

“But sometimes isn’t it easier to accept yourself for who you are”
Yah, not so much. See, it does not work when two different defining core aspects of your self are in constant strife. I can not be Gay, Socially Conservative, Fundamentally Christian, have an overwhelming desire to get marred to a women and have a family of my own. Many people here believe that you can make it work by removing the religious aspect of this and allow for the flesh instinct to be the real you. Yet they fail to understand that the core being of everything I have ever wanted is the later and my faith drives me to resist the flesh at every turn. That is something that someone who has no faith does not understand. In short both sin and my consciences make up who I am and as long as they are both there I cant accept myself until the conflict has been removed so its time for me to kick sin out.

“I am pleased and am thankful everyday that I will have a wife and kids.”
I know I am being cynical and pessimistic but based on what you already said you’re no where near the stage where that is going to happen. I sincerely hope it does happen for you and I love the optimism. But face it we are probably at the same point in this journey. Sitting on the side lines trying to decide what to do next.

“My Parents do not know”.
This one comment makes me know you’re younger individual and probably still living at home. But not to young because who would let a kid sign up for Electroshock therapy so you must be in your late teens or early twenties? You know, just saying.

“They thought I was ill for a while.... but sometimes just ask yourself.. is it worth the trouble... if you think it is... fight it.”
Where to begin with this comment. How about I don’t.

“Those with an unpure heart always lose the battle.”
Now that statement is just loaded. I know how you feel but there is always forgiveness when you ask God. You can only lose when you don’t ask and yes there will be times where you fell like your not worthy and just unpure. But that’s when you need to ask the most and fight harder to seek what is right.

“gd luck to all”
Thank you and God bless you I will be praying for you.

Many of the things I said here apply to the other resent posters but for whatever reason I picked on this pore guy. Probably because I don’t see the relevance of replaying to comments such as this “Watch "Videos" without guys in it 0_0”.

Or go into grate explanations to people like the poster right above this that truly does not get that fact that there is accountability for our actions in the life after this. I work with people just like this guy who feel pity for people like us by making comments like “You sound like you are living a horrid life full of lies and deceit” then boast about how happy they are in there Gay life. Dude! This is not the place to say why Gay life is better, everyone that is posting here is asking for help to get away from that existence not embrace it. Trust me when I say we would hate our selves more then you can possibly imagine if we embraced homosexuality and would be lying to our core being more so then hiding the shame of what is our greatest weakness.

Well that took forever to write and I would be amassed if any one actually reads it. Never the less thank you. God bless you all.

Guest · Guest

Being gay is nothing you can change, unfortunately religious people do not know what they are talking about. Its really sad that we do not live in a society where we can be accepted for who we are. Life would be so much easier if i were straight.

Anyways make the best out of it and dont deny your true feelings, its not something that goes away and you should not get married to a woman just because people tell you too, you will just end up hurting someone else.

Remember you only got one life, so enjoy being who you are and dont let anyone bring you down

Guest · Guest

hey i think that you might be born with it. my parents are hardcore christians and they dont like gayness lol. so for the last couple of years i have had a bf and al this . i was raised st8 but i cant get over the fact that im atracted to guys way more then girls. i like girls as friends and they are so fun to hang out with but nothing more. i just dont know hot to well me parents or even if i should.

R2B · Newbie Joined: 16 Jun 2007 Posts: 5

Well I am the worst person to try and answer your questions seeing as how I haven't even told anyone in my family and probably never will. It's not that I don't want to but like your parents mine are old Christians and would probably go into shock. That and I just don't have a clue on how to tell them. I tried onces to talk about it to them and before I even got close to the topic my dad looked at me and said that he does not know how to relate to me because his personality is different then mine.

Unlike you I never intend to act upon my physical desire making it easy for me to keep this from anyone, at least for the foreseeable future. In your case however they will find out probably sooner then you would like and what you need to do is decided if it will be your choice with your conditions or by means out of your control. I could be wrong but the later of the two situations would probably have a less preferred out come.

Guest · Guest

I know exactly what your all saying and theres nothing wrong with being gay its just I dont want to be!
I can understand what your all saying coz I've had these feelings for years now... If I am remembering correctly since I was about 13/14 and I'm now 19... Now there are those who will say that Im definately gay etc but others might see it as confused of curiousity. I mean I've looked at gay porn and been on gay chat sites but I have never had gay sex even if the offer has been there coz I just don't want to. I actually lost my virginity to a girl when I was 18!
So to all of you guys who are a bit like me... Don't let it get to you.
I know it's tough and can hurt sometimes but just do what you feel is right and things will be ok. Me for example if I want to flirt with the hottest girl a the bar, I do, If I want to watch some gay porn on a quiet night, I do!
I may be a bi or still finding my sexuality I don't know... but whatever you do don't put things out of proportion.
If your gay it ISN'T the end of the world, you can still have a long and fun healthy relationship. I know a gay man at work who is married or in a 'civil partnership' and they have kids! He's a great dad and his kids love him. The worst part of being gay for the majority.... is that day when you come out to family.

Look after yourselves guys.

EnigmaNZ · Newbie Joined: 26 Apr 2007 Posts: 22

At 52, the thing I miss with being gay is children and grandchildren. I love kids, but have none, I can't get involved with other peoples as I may have done in the past through scouts etc because of the abuse paranoia here. The other area, to be blunt, is when I get older and need looking after more, I am on my own. While straight people can fall back on their adult children to help. It scares me. I don't want to be old and alone, or old and living with other old people, I want to have younger family around me.

I have too prayed etc as a Christian, but God keeps reminding me of Paul who asked God to remove his problem, only to be told "My grace is sufficient" I have also been told by a number of people that God wants me to forgive myself, as He has forgiven me. So if your Christian, do your best to live how you believe God wants you to, and when you fall from time to time, as you will, don't go on a guilt trip, that pleases only satan, instead use the grace provided and ask for forgiveness, then know you are, then forgive yourself, and move on. God doesn't expect you to be perfect everyday, He knows humans fail over and over again, but His grace is sufficient to cover those times.

We are all battling in this area, we are all coping as best we can according to what we believe in. All you can do is find a way that works for you, that you find exceptable. Others that believe and act differently will no doubt be critical, but in the end, you have to live with yourself and be true to yourself, their negative comments are irrelevant.

Guest · Guest

hi. im 16 + i started questioning my sexuality wen i was 11 or 12. later on i came out as bi however i knew,(however much i did not want to admit it) that i was gay. i have since then struggled with myself for the last 2 years whether i am or not. it isn't a case of if im gay or not, its a case of whether i am prepared to live with it.

R2B · Newbie Joined: 16 Jun 2007 Posts: 5

@ EnigmaNZ: Thankyou

Guest · Guest

I also believe being gay is wrong. I have feelings for guys sometimes, and Im in my 20s

But the fact is, there is a lot of temptation out there, and you have to face it. Resist. It is easy to "go with the flow" and the new coolest thing out there is to be gay. There is nothing natural about anal sex. It's gross. It's compelling to steal but you manage to resist that. Theives could claim it is a natural and born instinct to steal. There is no evidence that homosexuality is genetic as much as there is no evidence burglary is.

The fact that you are not attracted to girls is the way you have wired your brain. Your synapses have not connected the imagery center where you imagine girlies to the blood flow center in your penis. Look at girls and find something beautiful about them, there is a lot. Imagine you are in a vagina, that wonderful feeling. Rewire your brain, you are the only one who can.

Point is, its easier to lower the moral standards of society and begin accepting more things as right than to change ourselves to be higher moral beings. Homosexuality is not a viable way for our species to survive, and therefore is of no use to humans. Your reproductive organs are there for you to reproduce. The point of pleasure in reproduction was to get us to do it in the first place. Your anal cavity is storage of feces. That's what it does.

keep up the good fight
become good people
help society and the human species survive

stevo

Guest · Guest

i am gay but i dont want to be !! what shall i do ???

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