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 Posted: 10/15/07 - 00:37 Post subject: |
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| this whole thing makes me sad.... ive wanted a child for sooo long and i cant get pregnant now...and i want to cry when i hear people who get pregnant and then they dont want the baby...there are soo many women out there that want children and cant have them and here you have the gift and dont want it |
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| Posted: 10/23/07 - 10:05 Post subject: |
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| Guest wrote: | | this whole thing makes me sad.... ive wanted a child for sooo long and i cant get pregnant now...and i want to cry when i hear people who get pregnant and then they dont want the baby...there are soo many women out there that want children and cant have them and here you have the gift and dont want it |
i know exactly what you mean. it really makes me mad. and the fact that she waited until she was 6 months to ask about an abortion/miscarriage??? she's mostly done with the pregnancy and she wants to get rid of the baby. i can't imagine doing that. when you have sex, you take the risk of getting pregnant/std's. so why are people so shocked/angry when they find out?? it's disgusting to me. |
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| Posted: 05/12/08 - 10:29 Post subject: |
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| its discusting.three abortions its murder.you are a whore!!!! and you contemplating an abortion now! think of your baby! not yourself. and the other ones whos pregnant by a married man deserves all she gets.dont brag it nothing to be proud of.im 7months pregnant and am loving everyminuete.the dad buggered off im struggling with money.but id never kill my baby. |
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| Posted: 05/12/08 - 10:58 Post subject: |
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i am also pregnant, and have never had an abortion, but i don't think that any of you have the right to judge. what a women does with her own body is her business. calling someone a whore, or a murderer is not going to change the fact that they have had an abortion. the only thing you are doing is making yourself look like a judgmental hypocryte. you talk about a baby being God's gift, but if you were so worried about what God wants, you wouldn't judge people.
and after 20 weeks it's not considered miscarriage anymore. it's considered still birth. and causing a miscarriage would be the same as having an abortion. you are still terminating the pregnancy willingly, except an abortion would probley be safer. |
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| Posted: 05/21/08 - 19:14 Post subject: :( |
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| wow... its crazy im 23 i have a son that just turned 3.. im 23 weeks preg and i DONT want this kid either.. But for some reson i tried over and over to get an aportion and they wouldnt do it cuz i have a bad history with bleeding to much and my veryyy low cervic... im also not ready for another kid. i was told i could no longer have kids.. i have no clue what to do.. i know i dont have the heart to adopt.. id just keep it and thats also not what i want.. |
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| Posted: 05/22/08 - 14:54 Post subject: |
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You don't have the heart but you have the heart to abort? I personally don't undertand that. I am pro-choice but only in early pregnancy- by this time you have a baby - A completely formed baby that feels and can hurt...this is proven.... Baby's born at 23 weeks have survived. Just recently they have been able to save them but they can. Please consider adoption...they have open adoptions now and you can change your mind even after the baby is born and not have to pay anything back...You can have your bills paid and everything. Even get college scolarships....I am not saying by any means to take advantage of adoption agencies or family praying for the blessing of a child but I am asking you to give this baby a chance....a chance at life. Everything happens for a reason. I got pregnant while I was seperated from my husband to someone else....when my husband and I got back together i seriously considred abortion because I couldn't imagine making my husband raise a child that wasn't his. I thought it just wasn't fair to him. Well, now OUR son (i say our because he has accepted this child in every sense of the word dispite everything) is now 8 months old and I couldn't picture our lives without him.... I can't even say out loud that I was going to do that. I cry when I even think about it. I did consider adoption too but when the couple I was considering asked me to commit I couldn't do it. Now I know why....he was MEANT to be ours....no one elses. Yes, financially it isn't easy but there is WIC and even food stamps (I haven't did the food stamps thing yet but I would if I had to) along with a TON of other assistance programs for moms- My sister only has to pay 25$ a month for a beautiful apartment in a good neighborhood. Find a social worker to point you in the right direction-
I even gave up a great career to be home with him (nursing) BUT... I am happier then I ever have been. SO this child could be a blessing to you or another infertile, couple that pray nightly for their own miracle.... there are so many women who regret abortions after the fact...please dont be one of them.
At least think about it long and hard....i can understand having an early termination once for almost any reason...after you make one "mistake' you learn from it...get on the pill, use condoms whatever it takes - both if necessary-those few minutes of passion are not worth the stress of an unwanted baby. Never believe it when you hear "you cant have kids" without SOLID proof AND a second-even third opinion Good luck |
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| Posted: 08/25/08 - 10:38 Post subject: |
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| ok, im having a child with a girl whom i had no intention of staying with, i CANT STAND HER! we were drunk, and it happened, and now i met a new girl whom i think may be the one, but now im stuck with this other girl who i dont like at all, and i cant afford child support. i am only 18, and i have been praying that this girl has a miscarrage so that i can go on with my life. im stuck, anyone have any advice? |
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| Posted: 08/27/08 - 22:40 Post subject: |
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| If you don't like this girl that's pregnant with your baby you do not have to be with her but I do think you should be responsible about giving her child support once the baby is borned. Get a job and if you do have a job tried to see if you can get a job that pays more. Maybe try for a higher position at your current employer by working harder or change jobs. I'm not sure if a second job is possible for you as I understand you might be in school. But you will be a father and need to work harder for that child. Even if you don't love this girl that baby is still yours no matter who the mother is. And about the girl you actually like that is fine just make sure you don't get her pregnant until you are both ready to take on the responsability and hopefully stay together. |
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| Posted: 09/25/08 - 17:21 Post subject: hi |
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| I lost my baby when I was 6 months and didn't know I was even pregnant until it was to late, I have 5 kids already, my youngest will be 8 October 13th. I want another baby and I had my tubes clamped in 2000, I was being told by my in law's that I looked 5 months pregnant and I said there is no way. well a month after that I had a major wreck Aug. 2nd 2008. I totaled my husband's truck. He is in the Military and was home for 4 days in the month of March and I had that wreck and was under alot of stress and I lost it. I was told by a doctor that I can now have a baby. Also if anyone wants to give their baby up, my husband and I would love to raise it. my yahoo id is *e mail addresses not allowed* and email same as id @yahoo.com thanks! |
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| Posted: 09/26/08 - 23:13 Post subject: |
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| I am in the same situation your in except that i am the who got pregnant by someone who didn't want to pursue a relationship and, I also didn't want a relationship with the guy i am pregnant by but i could never have an abortion. the advice i can give you though is that even though you may not like her and your not sure you want this baby it is still your obligation as the father to let this girl know what your feelings are. if she still wants to have the baby and you don't, then you either need to take a quick lesson in growing up or you need to talk to her in a respectful manner about a way that would work for you to pay child support (either way your going to have to pay her something) or talk to her about possibly giving the baby up for adoption. you can't force her to have an abortion and if you do something to cause her to have a misscarriage then not only are you putting her life at risk but depending on what you have done to cause the misscarriage you could face criminal charges as well. if you do decide that you want to be a father then no matter what you feel for this girl you need to be a supporter of her and vice versa because that is the only way you and this girl are going to make it as parents. Me and the guy i am pregnant by now are working on ways to respect each other and help each other through this time and it is making this pregnancy go about alot easier. |
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