mariage,Family life ruined by Methadone

papabear5704 · Newbie Joined: 10 Feb 2007 Posts: 1

I got ran over by a semi truck pup trailor with 34,000 pounds on it.I survived that.I've been on methadone for6 years now.I have no life I have no sexual feelings no emotions and no desire to be close to my wife who I've been married to for 23 years now.She told me she's at the end of her rope with me.She said that she hates herself for even being with me because I have shown no intrest in her.Its time for me to get the hell off these pills.But scared to because of the withdrawls.Seeking despertly info on how to begin?I take 5 methadones a day.they are10mgs tabs.Can anyone out there help me.I love my wife to much to continue down this path.Stressed out in Wa. Crying or Very sad

mstblu · Newbie Joined: 01 Apr 2007 Posts: 1

For someone who is going through the exact same thing right now, except I'm on the other side. I am the wife. I am young only 22 my husband only 24. We are not the norm; young couple struggling to make it on the right path. We are not the partying type. He was taking 4 10 mg a day, continuously for only six months. He started taking these after loratab were no longer working for a back problem. I know you have used for a much longer time, but you have come over one big hurdle: Acknowledging the fact that you need to get off the pills. My husband checked into a facility for help with detox and to receive medications for withdrawls. He actually went about everything the wrong way. He up and quit cold turkey without telling anyone what was going on. I strongly suggest getting some type of professional help or advice. No one in the family even knew he was taking Methadone. After the third day he hadn't slept and was driving himself crazy, literally. Thats when everything hit the fan and we decided to enter into a program. This has been the most difficult week of my life and I don't know where things will go from here. But I do know that if he had chosen to not get off the pills and continued to lie, I would have left him eventually. I know your situation is different, but I want you to know that people go through this everyday and homes are restored when the right steps are taken. It is obvious that counseling would probably be beneficial for both you and your wife, individually and as a couple. Hope that this helps and you realize this is possible, not easy but possible. Good Luck.

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Im shocked to see there was only 2 post on this topic. I am only 26 and have been dealing with my boyfriend of 10 years taking these methadones. We have a 7 year old daughter that is crazy about him but he pays no mind to her (& I) and its caused our little family to go into flames. I tried to get him help and offered to pay for everything but he thinks he doesn't need help. He takes methadone everyday more than 10mg for 6 years and I HATE IT! Im so depressed bc of my daughter always crying for him but he'd rather be somewhere else high on Methadone. He will not listen to me and I dont know what to do. He's not been paying his bills and not paying our mortgage payments (we dont live together anymore bc of this & I left him the house) I just found out the other day that my house went into forclosure & its bc of his addiction to methadone. Its going to kill him & Ive cried for help but no one will listen. I just know it's going to be the death of him...I finally broke it off the other day bc I can't deal with this anymore but now I can't sleep at night bc Im worried to death. How do I get over this????

reddog · Newbie Joined: 18 May 2008 Posts: 1

Wow....Interesting to read of the destruction. I experienced it first hand. I just recently weaned myself off of methadone after taking up to 120 mg's/day for the last 5 or so years (other opiate's prior). I have two kids (8 and 5) and am married. It was prescribed after a few back surgeries and diagnosis of chronic leg/foot pain. In fact I was scheduled for a 3rd surgery -a fusion, but decided to wait.

In any case, that stuff put me in another world. I lost all sexual interest (after always having a healthy sex drive prior) and started to detach from my wife and kids both emotionally and physically; I was just THERE---barely. Nothing really mattered anymore. I knew I HAD to get off the stuff but really feared the withdrawal. It is hell. Finally, about 6 months ago now, I had made it down to 20 mg's/day and cut off. It was tough for a few days and I felt weak /drained for a few weeks but today.....I feel 10 years younger (I am 42). The sex drive is back. I can look at my kids and feel connected; I notice things that for several years were just a blur...My daughters laugh, my wifes continued love despite years of detachment on my side (something I don't deserve), sunsets. In any case, we have had our problems; I had even tried treatment before but went back to the methadone.

As for the chronic pain...two things to say about that...first, my body's own pain killing system kicked in some once I got rid of the synthetic stuff...also, alot of my pain neuropathic (nerve damage) and new drugs such as Lyrica really help. Believe me...the pain must be dealt with on some level; it is a quality of life issue. I started exercising and swimming...huge help!

Finally, Speaking as a guy who had been on some opiate for about 10 years...vicodin, oxycontin, perc's -- It was like losing 10 years of my life. My message to those on this stuff is...there is a light at the end of the tunnel and allow yourself to have the life you deserve with your family (or just yourself). That stuff robbed me of who I was. Best wishes...

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