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 Posted: 06/30/07 - 03:51 Post subject: masterbate with girlfriend? |
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| hi i'm a 14 male and have been going out with my girlfriend for a little over 3 months, and we are very comfortable with each other. i have felt up her chest a couple times and she is comfortable with it, but it seems she is afraid of going any farther, i wouldn't force it on her, but sometimes i feel like seeing what its like. she is afraid of sex and is scared to use a tampon, it seems like she is uncomfortable with that part of her body and anything like that. i dont know if i should wait and see or talk it over with her. but i want her to feel comfortable, i dont know what i should do. i wouldnt leave her over this its just something im wondering. |
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| Posted: 06/30/07 - 04:58 Post subject: |
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| This is not your area, the parents should talk to her about this. I suggest you dont take her to wild (disco) places, she might fell uncomfertable there. The longer you date, the more she trusts you. |
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| Posted: 06/30/07 - 06:56 Post subject: |
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Hay m8,
Well if I was you I’d sit down with her & have a chat to try & find out what she is uncomfortable with, as the only way to be sure is from her telling you, & then when you find out what it is you can go from there, But I can’t Stress this Enough! Be sure She Knows There is NO Pressure On her from You & that you Understand That She is Uncomfortable & you want to help her!, Even if you are Sure She Knows Tell Her as it will be a comfort.
Is She a Virgin? As 3 months is not that long if it’s her 1st time, It Is a Big Deal for A Lot of People,
Maybe she is Uncomfortable with Sex This Soon, Have You Gave Her Oral or Fingered Stimulation?
-AJ- |
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| Posted: 06/30/07 - 16:50 Post subject: |
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| AJ88 wrote: | Hay m8,
Well if I was you I’d sit down with her & have a chat to try & find out what she is uncomfortable with, as the only way to be sure is from her telling you, & then when you find out what it is you can go from there, But I can’t Stress this Enough! Be sure She Knows There is NO Pressure On her from You & that you Understand That She is Uncomfortable & you want to help her!, Even if you are Sure She Knows Tell Her as it will be a comfort.
Is She a Virgin? As 3 months is not that long if it’s her 1st time, It Is a Big Deal for A Lot of People,
Maybe she is Uncomfortable with Sex This Soon, Have You Gave Her Oral or Fingered Stimulation?
-AJ- |
well im not talking about sex, but yes she is and i think she is uncomfortable because she thinks it will hurt her, which is why she is afraid of sex. i was talking about oral and other stimulation like that. |
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| Posted: 06/30/07 - 20:40 Post subject: |
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| AJ88 wrote: | Hay m8,
Well if I was you I’d sit down with her & have a chat to try & find out what she is uncomfortable with, as the only way to be sure is from her telling you, & then when you find out what it is you can go from there, But I can’t Stress this Enough! Be sure She Knows There is NO Pressure On her from You & that you Understand That She is Uncomfortable & you want to help her!, Even if you are Sure She Knows Tell Her as it will be a comfort.
Is She a Virgin? As 3 months is not that long if it’s her 1st time, It Is a Big Deal for A Lot of People,
Maybe she is Uncomfortable with Sex This Soon, Have You Gave Her Oral or Fingered Stimulation?
-AJ- |
im not talking about sex i mean oral and other stimulation, she seems to be afraid of it and it seems to scare her, but i want to show her that it isnt something to be afraid or scared of, i think she thinks it will hurt her and be uncomfortable. |
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| Posted: 07/01/07 - 02:40 Post subject: |
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| Like AJ said just have a talk with her, maybe talk to some of her girlfriends that have had experiences with vaginal stimulation and have them talk to her and comfort her. The more comfortable she is with you, the greater chance that she will be comfortable trying new things. |
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| Posted: 07/01/07 - 11:46 Post subject: |
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| well another thing is even when i mention anything like orals stimulation (not between the two of us) she says something like ewww or gross, because she seemed fine about the other things we do but then anything past feeling up she thinks is gross, i don't think her parents ever talked to her about sex and just gave her a book, she even asked me what an orgasm was.... and much more. |
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| Posted: 07/01/07 - 13:00 Post subject: |
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| You might consider that some people do not enjoy giving oral sex. However, she may be fine if you go down on her. Try not to put pressure on her when you ask, but she may be okay with giving a handjob or something like it. Try discussing it straigt up with her...don't go around and around the subject. Just ask, and I'm sure she will give you some type of response. If she is embarassed, try offering something personal about yourself so she will feel better about opening up. |
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| Posted: 07/01/07 - 21:10 Post subject: |
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| wonderinguy wrote: | | You might consider that some people do not enjoy giving oral sex. However, she may be fine if you go down on her. Try not to put pressure on her when you ask, but she may be okay with giving a handjob or something like it. Try discussing it straigt up with her...don't go around and around the subject. Just ask, and I'm sure she will give you some type of response. If she is embarassed, try offering something personal about yourself so she will feel better about opening up. |
Now i definatly agree with that. |
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