masterbation killing me...pls help

sohailgagai · Newbie Joined: 16 Mar 2007 Posts: 3

Im 37 yrs old and I think masterbation/sex is affecting my mind.i use to masterbate alot in teenage,Ive been jerking off since I was 12 about twice every single day.I wish I could stop but I cant. I feel really low self esteem,shame and guilt after I ejaculate.I also get frequent headaches and need more sleep.I also experience lots of depression,anxiety and compulsiveness.I sometimes feel like I dont want to speak to anyone and just stay in my room the whole day.Is it something to do with the chemicals dopamine and serotonin imbalances in my brain(Ive been doing quite a bit of research as you can tell)Im always thinking about what things I have done wrong and ways on how to improve my life.It is a feeling hard to explain like if Life is passing me by,Like Im lm lost in life.Sometimes I feel that Life isnt worth living.Im not the same person I used to be. Is masterbation killing me slowly?Im tired of all this.I wonder if other people feel like me?PLEEZ NEED A REPLY ASAP Thanx Smile

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I'm 47 and feel the same as you

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Soul Walker · Newbie Joined: 24 May 2007 Posts: 100

i feel pretty much the same and i'm 19, although i try my best not to masturbait as much as i used to, i try to exercise everyday and i feel better, i still dont get out as much as i should, i but i still have of scars which i can never get rid of so that sucks, but yeah, just try to fight through it, find a hobby to keep you more occupied and you can enjoy

Naruto 1115 · Newbie Joined: 17 Jun 2007 Posts: 27

its in ur head. this happens alot, it feels like a cheat right? after u ejaculate? well its normal, happens to everyone, and like 95% of the people in this world masturbate and its fine. i think u should lay off the masturbation, set a schedule perhaps. i do it on saturday, and sometimes during the week.

Jad1 · Newbie Joined: 19 Jun 2007 Posts: 44

This is normal. Masturbation can be used to relieve stress/anxiety/depression and a host of other conditions. It is also normal to masturbate frequently.

I believe you should seek counseling (psychologist) and get a referral to a psychiatrist if need be.

KALI · Newbie Joined: 27 Jul 2007 Posts: 1

I am not a doctor, but I think you should seek professional help. You have done a good research and come to the conclusion that you are suffering from a depression, which is most likely due to lack of dopamine in your brain. Because your brain is deficient of dopamine, the neurotransmitter which our brain uses for pleasure, you are eliciting the release of dopamine through masturbation. Masturbation itself is not what's the problem, but it seems that your emotional state is.

You should talk to a psychiatrist about the possibility of depression in your case. You might also want to look into bupropion, an anti-depressant which inhibits the uptake of dopamine and norepinephrine in your brain. Once your chemical imbalance is fixed you won't have to rely so much on masturbation to feel positive and calm your anxieties.

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I am also 15 and feel the same way...........that there is no hope of changing and that whats the hope of living? First of all, i started masterbating around the age of 6, or 7............the biggest thing ive every done wrong in my life. However people, im learning that there is something to live for.........God. Im trying to find him and seek him, and i beleive i am finding him. Its hard getting into a personal realationship with him but peace comes after this is found. Dont give up.............im feeling a bit helpless but maybe someday i will get out of this god forsaken habit.

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i have experinced all the symptoms that you have and my vision got messed up. My pschloglogest put me on 5-HTC or something like that and my urges haven't been as frequent. Thank you for posting your symptoms, it really seems that maybe that was my problem as well

Desperado · Newbie Joined: 02 Jan 2008 Posts: 2 Location: DENVER

Hi, my names nick .
Heres my situation, for the better part of my life (im 23) ive been mastrubating on weekly to daily basis without much of a stop ever i mean there were a few breaks i guess here and there but generally always. I know as a teenager it caused me to become irritable and antisocial to a degree and i guess it sorta developed some of my character back then. But nowadays througout the years ive been morbidly depressed and pretty much lived my life in an unmotivated, mastrubation to mastrubation type cycle. Recently with a night shift job that contributed to body stress levels, virtually no excersize and a really bad psychological experience with overconcentration that cause a series of ongoing panick attacks and dissociative experiences
I HAVE DESIDED TO LIVE LIFE HAPPILY
my panic attacks are gone and dissociation is moving off, but i notice its best when i feel good, which is still rare because after every mastrubation session, im always fatigued, exteremly depressed, unmotivated and have bad headaches.

I also notice if i dont mastrubate for at least 5 days, i have more people confidence and am not so shut in! I have better chemicals in my brain and life is more livable and enjoyable. I want to know, what are some more chemical-physical types of things you can do to recover happiness from mastrubation post trauma long term and short term.

I know excersize gives endophins, and occupying the mind raises serotonin levels maybe meditation would be useful too....

I wanna climb out of my hellhole without professional help, im afraid of some of those anti depressants

Nick,

happy to be alive

masterbation killing me...pls help

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