my girlfriend says she was a virgin when we met however intercourse was quite easy

lovemybabygirl15 · Guest

My girlfriend has no reason to lie to me and I would not care if she were not a virgin but curiosity has me in its grip here. The first time we made love I noticed not only was she not "virgin" tight but quite loose and well lubricated, she experienced very little, if any, pain whatsoever and her relaxed mood. Is there any type of "evidence" at the time of intercourse that would support her claim ?

hyzmarca · Newbie Joined: 24 Jul 2007 Posts: 34

Her receptivity indicates nothing about her experience. There is no reliable way to tell if someone is a virgin or not and, really, why should it matter.

Just trust her. As you stated, she has no reason to lie.

VirginGirly · Newbie Joined: 01 Aug 2007 Posts: 29

It sounds weird, but it's possible for her hymen tissue to have been broken, from a tampon, if she uses them. That way, there wouldn't be as much pain, during intercourse... I've.. heard of it. It's a possibility?

But, just trust her x) If you've had intercourse, it means she trusts you..

agent10ve · Supporter Joined: 27 May 2007 Posts: 580

The hymen can break in tons of ways besides intercourse. Just trust her.

rexman87 · Newbie Joined: 11 Jul 2008 Posts: 2

Look man, no person is relaxed on their first time. Were you relaxed on yours? Dude that's like throwing someone into a hockey game, if this person is comfortable, NO DOUBT he/she has played hockey before.

Look aside from that example, I had an ex girlfriend who told me she was a virgin, she slept with me on the second day, and she was loose, and relaxed while it happened. I couldn't believe the lie the first time it happen. I tried to doubt that I doubted for a long time, after four months the relationship obviously didn't work out because of all the lies that continued on afterward.

rexman87 · Newbie Joined: 11 Jul 2008 Posts: 2

How would you like it if you got thrown into a game you've never played before? You'd be scared. Even if you wanted to play the game, you certainly wouldn't be comfortable because YOU'VE NEVER PLAYED.

Look nobody picks up a tennis racket and all of a sudden plays like Roger Federror, or picks up a basketball and starts playing like Michael Jordan. Okay, people have to be practicing a long time to earn that confidence and ability, otherwise this world would be unfair and anyone could do anything.

Look aside from this logical reasoning. I did have an ex-girlfriend, who I regret calling my ex because of the very fact that she did lie about her virginity the very first day we met. She told me she was a virgin, and on the second day she slept with me, she was ultra calm with everything, she tried to act reluctant to take her clothes off, but they went off anyways, and she wasn't tight as you would expect a virgin to be. Look I don't care about biological stuff, the fact is that all the factors count, if all the checks and x's go to you don't think with the actions she made could ever possibly lead to it. Look man my relationship lasted for less than 5 months, only because I was holding up the other 95% of the bargain showering her with gifts while she probably slept with other men, it was long distance and I had no way of knowing anything. I find out later she's engaged to some guy and caught her at the club after we broke up with some guy. Look I know my story is sad and shit, but just saying, if someone is going to lie about their virginity, there is absolutely no limit or standard to follow after that, so I'm just saying be careful okay.

Rex

timemachine · Newbie Joined: 10 Jul 2008 Posts: 48

If you love her so much you should trust her. Only a girl knows that she is virgin or not no one else can make out the truth. And about doing sex normally. She was doing sex normally because she loves you and comfortable with you.

Guest · Guest

Dude - If she's had some sexual experience, but not intercourse, she could be very relaxed about it. Maybe she was just ready. I waited til I was older and had very little bleeding when I did it. The hymen is pretty easily damaged with tampons and pelvic exams (or even fingers and toys). Why would she lie about being a virgin? It's not what it used to be.

Guest · Guest

Well, I think the lack of bleeding can't prove she had had sex before. BUT I guess rexman87 is right about the calm and relaxation.

You said she has no reason to lie. But you've came here to ask our opinion. That means you aren't entirely sure.

Just tell her you think she wasn't virgin.

wrathofjade · Supporter Joined: 03 Aug 2008 Posts: 55

That rex guy was an idiot. My first time I was completely relaxed and I was a virgin. The sex did not hurt because i had previously masturbated. Perhaps she is just comfortable with herself and her body.

my girlfriend says she was a virgin when we met however intercourse was quite easy

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