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gilmore
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 Posted: 08/22/06 - 23:00 Post subject: obssessive jealousy |
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Hello, I have a problem with jealousy. I am married to my wife for six years, and I still can’t learn how to trust her. She never cheated on me, but I have a constant urge to follow her everywhere and to check her messages. I know I am obsessively jealous, but I can’t help it. Any similar relationship problems?
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muire
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Hi, I don’t know what to do. My girlfriend is sick of jealousy. We can’t go out in the restaurant as normal couples, because we always end up the evening fighting. She thinks that I look at every girl that walks near us, but I’m telling you, that is ridiculous! My girlfriend id obsessively jealous and it hurts me that she doesn’t trust me at all. If I look at the other girl, that is for the same reason I look at anybody else on the street. At first, it was cute. I thought, ok, she loves me and wants me only for her self. But this became unbearable. I tried to talk to her, but she has a real problem in her head. I’m not the only victim of her jealousy, she is too. I thought that love was enough for a happy relationship, but I guess I was wrong. It just can’t work out without mutual trust and understanding.
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angel87
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| My bf and I've been together for 5yrs now. The prob is..he has TOO MANY girls as friends. All of them come to him to solve their problems. He talks to them late nights, goes out with them and all that. I'm a very possessive person. I've told him a million times that I don't like all this, but he doesn't seem to change. Recently, I overheard him talking to one of his female colleagues. And they were talking like they were a couple. But he tells me there is nothing going on and that he likes her. They are even planning to get married. I called up that lady and screamed at her, which he obviously didn't like. He tells that he loves me most. He still continues to talk to her. I'm very hurt. I love him a lot. How should I handle this? Somebody please help me out. |
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| Posted: 01/06/07 - 03:15 Post subject: |
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gilmore, you seriously need to stop doing this, otherwise you'll drive her away! There's nothing more offputting than a jealous partner. My boyfriend is on the road a lot and it's hard but there is total trust there - i'm not denying i don't think sometimes 'ohh what if ...' but I know deep down he loves me more than anything and never ever would. If you love this person enough to marry and share your whole being with then you should be able to trust that they would do the right thing towards you.
angel87... | Quote: | | Recently, I overheard him talking to one of his female colleagues. And they were talking like they were a couple. But he tells me there is nothing going on and that he likes her. They are even planning to get married. I called up that lady and screamed at her, which he obviously didn't like. He tells that he loves me most. |
I'm kind of confused... you're saying your boyfriend is planning on marrying his work colleague while going out with you? If that's the case and he's saying 'he loves you the most' he is a total loser and I advise you to run as far away as possible!!! |
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my2cents
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| Posted: 05/03/07 - 04:25 Post subject: |
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| Both of you seem to be experiencing some degree of insecurity. One person is jealous of a girl, thats being insecure on your part. You can't follow her all over. And the second person is feeling the effects of jealousy from another person, who is obviously insecure with herself. Either way, jealousy can lead to a lot of problems in a relationship. A jealous person can often times be a controlling person. A person who is on the other side of the coin can feel resentful as time goes on. Either ways, jealousy can easily destroy a relationship. Its a very unhealthy emotion, and its very hard to deal with someones insecurities while in a relationship for any length of time. |
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