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 Posted: 02/16/07 - 05:28 Post subject: physical deformaties and sex and boyfriends |
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| in my 20 years ive had some physical health issues that have required many surgeries and i have reeeeally bad scars. im lucky because i can cover them up with normal clothes but people on the beach or other places stare and point and get their friends to show them that girl with scars, yes they're that bad. i look very normal and if people didnt know my history they wouldnt know anything was wrong with me. i'm thin, fit and i have a pretty face but im too scared to get close or intimite with anyone because of my scars. i want to know, are scars that important to guys? |
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| Posted: 02/16/07 - 08:43 Post subject: |
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With some men it would matter but think of why it would matter to them and ask yourself if you'd really want to be with that person in the first place. If a man cares more about whether or not you have scars then he is either worried about what others would think, cares too much about his "idea" if physical beauty, and would be a bit immature to boot.
It would be better off showing the scars and being happy with yourself fully. If the man has any integrity then he would care about you and be mature enough to understand why you have scars and that it's not a big issue. |
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| Posted: 04/16/07 - 18:07 Post subject: |
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In a one night stand, its not gonna matter, because the guy just wants sex. Unless its something like a penis growing out of your back - he wont care.
In a relationship, generally the guy will care for you, and not mind the scars, heck - he may even be turned on by them.
My only real advice is to avoid pretending they dont exist. Tell the guy upfront, and express your fears. I'm sure he will comfort you and let you know just how beautiful you are to him.
Good luck. |
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| Posted: 04/19/07 - 23:50 Post subject: |
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Im a 24 yr old guy, hurm scars... well to be honest, they dont really bother me that much. I find myself all the time compairing my scars to others scars and some of them are female. A scar to me is nothing more than a story from your life to tell.
(I have a few small scars of my stomic from surgery and a nice one on my left knee from a car's licence plate >.< )
I do understand that you mentioned that your scars were horiffic. well im not sure if there that bad or if you are just so self aware of them that you make them out to be. But my advise is that most of the time, if a man relaly likes you. something like a scar isnt going to stop him from wanting to show you a whole new world   .
Accually now that i think about it there is probably one place a scar can be a turn off. On the face. Since Attraction is USSUALLY started from first glance. A scar on a face will at first glance turn me off from trying to have a relationship with you. However it would not nessisarilly stop me from being civil and nice to you, wich might later turn into something more real. Love itself is like a blind fold. I have met several women in my shorter lifespan that i didnt at first think that they were attractive. But after getting to know them i found myself several months later teying to figure out why it is that i cant find anything wrong with them as i first did when meeting them..
So keep that in mind.
one Humble Guys opinion. |
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