prostate stimulation

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well, first i'll tell u, that i'm straight guy!
so here's the story: i've heard, that anal masturbation feels very good so i though "why shouldn't i do that too", so at home i found a very good oil - "the johnsons baby oil" so i lubed my finger and my anus with it and i began... so it was really hard to insert a finger in the anus for the first time, but then i got used to it when i did it 2-3 times. after inserting a finger in my anus i thought, that the most pleasurable moment in my life would begin soon, but i realized, that i didn't feel anything pleasurable, not pain - nothing, it felt like i have inserted my finger in my mouth or something like that. so after that i began to look for the helpful info on the internet, because i wanted to know where the prostate is, so after finding a very good and helpful info about the prostate, i used my oil again and i fingered my anus. With my finger i was trying to find the prostate to stimulate it and i really thought, that i found it, but when i began stimulating it, i felt nothing pleasurable again. why? do i need to exercise in stimulating the g-spot or what?
thanks for the answers.

Kirk C · Moderator Joined: 28 Apr 2008 Posts: 902

You're not alone.

Many men, hearing tales of mind-blowing orgasms, have been experimenting with stimulation of the prostate. They are quick to add that they are straight, as if that had anything to do with it. It doesn't, as you will see:

Most men cannot reach their own prostate, as their fingers are not long enough by the time they curl over and have reached so far... they are just not anatomically able to do it.

So, the second best thing is to use a dildo or probe (WITH A WIDE FLANGE to keep it from becoming lost inside)... and with lots of lube, probe for it.

There are several companies who sell specialty items for this purpose... butt plugs, dildos, prostate stimulators, vibrators, etc. Since everyone's exact structure varries somewhat, it's difficult to say just what will reach your prostate or not.

You'll note that when a man turns 18 (and certainly by age 40!!!) he will have a prostate check by a doctor that involves the lubricated single finger inserted into the anus. The first time can be very traumatic, especially if the lube is not enough, and the man is not expecting that sensation of being penetrated. (I know I was shocked when my doctor first did it to me.)

Some people prefer to be penetrated by a lover or by a person with a well lubed finger while they are bent over... "doggie style" is the nickname for this position.

However, with some practice and a long enough dildo or prostate massage wand or device, most men can at least use a lubed device to enter their anus.

Some find this exciting enough. Some want to feel a compression of the prostate. Some will just not "get it", and that's alright too. I think it's a learned behavior, or associated with sexual arousal that gets them off.

Doctors are taught that the normal prostate is about the size of a walnut or chestnut, with a midline depression or valley and two smooth lobes, left and right. It is the gentle rubbing or compression that gets some men off, and certainly during a doctor's visit, a man can feel when the doctor presses upon the prostate, as there is a sense of sudden need to pee or urinate.

If you didn't find your experimentation exciting, don't worry about it. It's a learned response, that not all men enjoy. We associate this "pleasure" with gay men because of cultural association, but it isn't exclusively a gay practice.

You may find it does nothing for you. You may find that after inserting a butt plug, you can masturbate and find the contractions are more enjoyable with a plug in place. You might find that you can insert a prostate massager device, and by rhythmically contracting your PC muscles, trigger an orgasm (but I hear this takes time and practice to learn.) You might also try masturbating by hand with the prostate device inserted. Again, when the contractions begin, it is a unique feeling and the orgasm seems to be "self-propelled", more so than by hand.

But, if you're concerned that you didn't feel anything on your own, that's ok. It would have been surprised if you did. It's probably good that you're exploring your own sexuality and response preferences. A person that experiments is more able to describe to a partner what they like, and would like, and also what they don't want to do also.

So, chalk this one up to experience. (PS: You don't need to tell anyone that you've tried this. It's not required, by any stretch...)

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