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BeautifullyBroken016
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 Posted: 07/17/08 - 15:03 Post subject: sex painful first and second time |
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I just recently lost my virginity and the first time hurt a lot. It was almost unbearable so I told him to stop. Then we did it again that same day and I just took the pain. He was kinda going a little hard and he said I was really tight. Plus I kept tightening up on him because it hurt me so bad. Then the next day we had sex again and it felt the same, a little bit better but basically the same pain.
It's weird because I never masturbate with my fingers because when I do when I get to a certain point, it hurts. I was sore for about a day after the second time we had sex. It's like it hurt constantly when he was doing that and I'm worried. I think I might have vaginismus but I also dont think I have it because this is just my 2nd time having sex and I never used tampons and things like that before. I'm really worried that it is going to hurt forever when I have sex. The point is not that it hurts when I have sex it's just that it still hurts and the pain doesnt just wear off or stop when we're having sex, it's really constant. I didnt bleed the first time we had sex but the second time I bled just a little, not even really noticable though.
Can somebody please tell me what is wrong |
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bbfeet9
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| Posted: 07/17/08 - 16:27 Post subject: |
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Sometimes when we have sex for the first few times, it can hurt somewhat, but it should start feeling better. Your tightening up on him says that you were not relaxed and therefore you may not have been sufficiently wet enough.
Try some KY Gel. They have it for him and her now in a combo pack.
When the pain starts at a certain point even when fingers are inserted further in, you may have a tipped uterus. I have it and when intercourse reaches a certain point for me, i have to switch positions.
What works for me is when i am on top. I am able to control the thrusting and when i feel uncomfortable, i just switch gears a little. Also, side by side works too. These positions sort of allows you to control the action.
Missionary style bothers me, as he is in control and so does doggy style.
I will do it, but i will always change mid way thru. Just make sure you are real wet, that comes with good foreplay. Don't be nervous. Have a few glasses of wine and relax, set the mood a little. Make sure you are not going to have any interuptions. And make sure you are fired up to the point where you just have to have it.
Explain to bf that he has to slow down a little, just until you two figure each other out.
It does sound like a tipped uterus tho, i know, it's a real downer. But you can work around that. Maybe i am wrong, but i have the exact same problem.
Remember to be on birth control. |
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Kirk C
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| Posted: 07/17/08 - 16:58 Post subject: |
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In my opinion, what was wrong is that your boyfriend was insensitive!
Despite his eagerness, and anticipation of his pleasure, he should have realized that you were in pain. He should have backed off until you were more ready...whether it was that night, or next week, or next year!
bbfeet9's suggestions are very good, but I was concerned with your first few statements especially at how many times you and your bf were having sex despite it not being comfortable for you.
I'd look at that more closely and see what it says about your relationship.
Good luck. |
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