so frightened- pregnancy possible?

jane1234 · Newbie Joined: 05 Jan 2008 Posts: 3

Thank you for opening this
i'm in desperate need of some advice.

[this is the 5th of january 2008, my last period was on the 14th of december and my last menstrual cycle lasted 32 days although it is usually irregular, i am 15 years old]

on the 21st of december 2007 my boyfriend fingered me
he washed his hands before doing it, either that or he touched me before anyone touched him
i think this is the case, but it is possible at one point that he may have had dry semen on his hand, it would have at least been wiped.
there would have been a waiting period between him or me touching him and either of us touching me.
other than this i have had no sexual contact since my last period and i am still a virgin.

on new years eve and perhaps a day before i felt tenderness in my breasts and had been noticing slightly more discherge than normal, although i never kept track of discharge and the breast tenderness could have been due to ovulation and may have lasted until now because of my constant checking of them.

i only thought about this possibility as i had a similar problem last month and it turned out ok

but at the minute i feel so confused
i feel like i would rather die than go through with an unwanted pregnancy
and i've been having depressed thoughts and i've been thinking alot about death Sad

what do you think the chances are that i've gotten pregnant this way?
and if i am what can i do, i live in a country where abortion is illegal and i CANNOT go through with a pregnancy if there is any possibility of one

thank you for your help, it will be greatly appreciated.

hibachi · Newbie Joined: 06 Jan 2008 Posts: 3

hi...i am 25 yrs old. there is no way u can get pregnant by just touching or inserting ur bfs finger in ur vagina. don't be so hard on urself. u are ok. just don't try doing the deed when ur not ready. but if u do...have it protected. again, u are ok. take care of urself.

jane1234 · Newbie Joined: 05 Jan 2008 Posts: 3

i just feel so terrible its really awful
if i'm not pregnant what would explain the discharge and breast tenderness?

i priced how much it would cost me to travel to get an abortion and it would be aroud £900

neither me or my family can afford that or afford to care for a baby

this is so scary, i feel like crying

any more help would be really good too

does anyone know alot about this subject?

thank you

achampagne · Moderator Joined: 06 Jan 2008 Posts: 711 Location: Texas

I'm sorry that you are so scared, but seman can not live unless it is a moist warm envoronment. so, even if he had dry seman on his hands, he could not get you pregnant that way. if there was not even any penitration, it is really doubtful that you are pregnant. it is possible that all the stress you are feeling is causing your trouble with your period.

jane1234 · Newbie Joined: 05 Jan 2008 Posts: 3

i'm not actually having any trouble with my period
its not likely to be due for at least another week

its the breast tenderness and the (possible) increase in discharge that is worrying me

would you experience these symptoms BEFORE a missed period?

and there was no penetration wth his penis but he did penetrate me with his fingers, did you only mean intercourse by that

my boyfriend says i'm being very stupid and i think i should be able to take his advice because he was there

i just can't help but freak out

thank you to the two of you who have posted so far by the way
i know it doesnt seem it but you have been reassuring

i just can't bear the thought of a pregnancy its killing me

does anyone else have any input?

so frightened- pregnancy possible?

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