stepchildren problems

blair2050 · Newbie Joined: 25 Jan 2006 Posts: 2

I have become a stepmother about a year ago and ever since than I have serious stepchildren problems-those are fine kids one is 16 years old girl and he is 14 years old boy and no matter how hard I try to please them my stepchildren problems persists. And the thing is I really do care about them and would like to create some healthy relation towards them but I don't manage to do it right somehow-I feel they are blaming me for the divorce of their parents but it is not the truth, I came into their dad's life after their parents got separated and at first time I didn't even new he has got kids. Anyway the whole story ended up with our marriage but I never thought I could be having these stepchildren problems especially regarding the fact that I am a friendly person and would try everything to have healthy and happy relations.

tova · Newbie Joined: 05 Jul 2005 Posts: 2

Well, one of the main parts of creating healthy relationships especially when it is about stepchildren is patience, trust me I was also stepmother and still am with the same stepchildren problems and years were needed to pass to fix whole bunch of stepchildren problems I had to deal with but now after whole the stepchildren problems I had we have a great time together. You know those are teenager kids having their own problems besides this and her mother is the one they are missing –which is normal I guess so just have a patience and keep an eye on them for this is a difficult time for them too that may result in serious depressions and some drugs or similar problem. Anyway I bet when they turn 25 or maybe 30 you would get what you want. My stepchildren are now about 30 and I am a young almost 50 years old step mom having great time with them and in about 5 months or so I will become step grandmother-with no more trace of stepchildren problems.

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