teen relationships?how serious can we be?

norrie · Veteran Joined: 16 Sep 2005 Posts: 510

My question is: Do teen relationships carry the characteristics of how real mature love should be when you're a grown adult? How serious can we be? I didn't think of it until recently. Now I am married for 2 years and I think of my high school sweetheart constantly. Is that wrong???

latrena · Silver Member Joined: 09 Jan 2007 Posts: 348

I think that teen relationships should be taken much more seriously by parents than it is. Just because she/he is a teenager and not ready to settle down and get married doesn't mean they can't share a special bond with another person. Many high school sweet hearts get married later in life and have a successful marriage, so very serious...I know a few from my school. They have children and a home, I guess the bonds formed in high school are ones that should be shrugged off and taken lightly.

DavikHavok · Newbie Joined: 23 Aug 2008 Posts: 5

I ask myself the same question. At only 14, while staying in Germany for a year, I met this girl named Erika (same age as me) in Hamburg. She has long blode hair, blue eyes, a deep caring personality, and a very athletic body. We started to become friends, and I asked her out on a couple dates. Her parents really liked me and my parents liked her. We grew fonder and fonder of each other, and our relashionship became like that of a married couple if you can believe it.

We went to the same school and had classes together as well. One day while doing homework together at her house she asked me, "David, how much do you love me?". I replied, "Erika I love you enough to do anything for you, even if it means my life". She then whent on explaining that she felt the same way, and it was enough that she thought I was the man she wanted to marry. I told her I was only in Germany for a year, and I had to go back to the U.S. in 3 weeks. Erika said she knew and started crying. I told her everything would be ok and we'd see each other again soon.

So finally the day came when I had to fly back to the U.S., and I left Germany with a heavy heart, thinking about Erika the whole flight. 6 months later I got a call from a number I didn't know. I picked up the phone and said "Hello?". I heard an all too familiar voice say, "Look outside, your dreams are now a reality". I opened the front door of my house to see Erika Surprised

standing outside! We hugeed for what must of been 10 minutes, and we both had tears in our eyes. She explained that she told her parents how MUCH she loved me, and that I loved her on the same level. So her parents paid for a MOVE (yes, a MOVE) to my neighborhood in California, so that she could see me again (and my parents were close friends with hers).

We're now 15, and we have grown in our relationship since then and we have become very committed as well. We both lost our virginity to each other, and our bond is even stronger now. We both plan to go to the same college and hopefully get married. Shes starting to talk to me about kids, and she wants 3, lol.

I love Erika so much. I would die for her, and I thank God every day for finding my solemate. Also, she is my FIRST and ONLY girlfriend too and I'm her first boyfriend too, its amazing how far we've come scince Germany. So think of this story whenever you hear someone say, "teenage love never lasts". Hope this answers your question, Wink

-David

zoeangell · Posted: 08/25/08 - 12:22 Post subject: love

i understand the theory that young love is only for experience for the real thing but with this modern world and how so many people are cheating and not understanding the true meaning of marriage it is really hard to believe that a love at say 16 can last till your 65 ?? but i think that giving it a go if you believe love is there and you feel it that it could last a long time never patronise young teens that say there in love because for all we know they could have it all in 10 years the house the car the mortgage kids , marriage !!!! it could happen Very Happy

shintarou · Newbie Joined: 27 Aug 2008 Posts: 2

I love being in relationships but my last one was to wierd, I'm 15 my gf was 16 there was 5 months between our birth so our age was practically the same I finish school next year and I want to do good and pass my exams then move on to college pass my a levels then uni to get my JLD and I work as a Cadet and volunteer now My girlfriend after two months wanted to settle down not go to college and start a family my word were "I haven't got one qualification and I just did work experiance last month I'm not settleing down until I have a well paying Job and is over 20 years old" I loved her but the employment in our area sucks so it would be debt debt debt for a start and I only want to have kids if I know they will have no problems in life. But now its the spite of her her words "if you get with any other girl I will split you up", my words "taking it well I guess" Rolling Eyes

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some of the people that we were once with and no longer are can never accept we have moved on or even accept the fact that starting a family is not a good idea because of age ! you obviously have a very good idea about your future and i can see you want to have a good job in order to suipport your children in the future if you have any so well done !!! you know best and rushing into the whole settling down thing is too much too soon you may be in love and if you realkly are you will be together long enough to have children in the future sounds like a fear that she has to have it all now in order to feel secure that the realtionship would last forever !!! you are very smart & keep it that way xx

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