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guest006
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 Posted: 01/29/07 - 23:43 Post subject: tocophobia: fear of pregnancy or childbirth |
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I saw that there were no posts about this subject so I thought I would start one.
Tocophobia: fear of pregnancy or childbirth
I mean EVERY month I think I'm pregnant.
after I get my periods I think I'm still pregnant.
and sometimes I don't even have sex and I think I'm pregnant.
and plus I'm on birth control and my boyfriend is almost sterile (he has a 10% chance of getting a woman pregnant under perfect conditions)
does anyone else have this problem?
does anyone else experience this anxiety because it is driving not only me crazy but my boyfriend and my mom crazy also.
does anyone have any advice for me? please. I'm tired of it. |
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helpisontheway
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| Posted: 02/09/07 - 21:41 Post subject: |
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We find on this website lots of younger girls terrified of pregnancy, personally I dont think they should be having sex at that age if they tear themselves apart over it. That is what sex is for, after all. Not an entertaining activity for everyone, although it can be enjoyable with someone you really love.
But in cases like yours there is a real psychological phobia, of course you know that rationally your chances of conceiving are minute. Does it stop you enjoying sex? I used to feel that.
You might want to go and see someone, I mean, professionally. You don't have to medicalize your fears, but they are trained in deconstructing the fear, if it truly does interfere with your day to day life, and your family and freinds.
Don't let it tear you apart. I suppose you could further your steps of contraception, such as medical ovulation monitoring as well as condoms, the pill and your partners fertility rate. So you weren't having sex on fertile days. Further nulling the chances of conceiving.
But of course, with a real phobia such as this, it may not help, if it is an irrational fear. all the precautions you can take in the world won't help, you need to tackle the phobia from its core.
Good luck x |
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jellymelly
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| Posted: 02/19/07 - 16:28 Post subject: tocophobia |
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| Like the lady who first posted the comment about fear of pregnancy i experience the same kind of fear. Except i actually feel pregnancy.. Like for example kicking in my belly.. sometimes its powerful and sometimes its not. In september-november 06 i took 4 pregnancy test that all came back negative.. two taken by my GP. These kicking sensations have been going on for roughly about.. 8 months and its really annoying me because i just want to forget about fearing pregnancy. Ive feared pregnancy ever since a few years ago when i was 15 and got pregnant but unfortunatly was forced to have an abortion. Im still with the same man i lost my virginity to but he's not sure himself what is wrong with me. Just about everyday i fear pregnancy.. especially with this kicking in my stomache. I know its not wind because i know the difference. It more a less feels like spasms.. but who gets spasms throughout the day everyday in their stomache? I have discussed this with my GP but i didn't exactly get much help and i haven't done anything in the hope my fear would go away. Can anyone tell me whats wrong and what i should do?? |
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jellymelly
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| Posted: 02/19/07 - 16:36 Post subject: |
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| helpisontheway wrote: | We find on this website lots of younger girls terrified of pregnancy, personally I dont think they should be having sex at that age if they tear themselves apart over it. That is what sex is for, after all. Not an entertaining activity for everyone, although it can be enjoyable with someone you really love.
But in cases like yours there is a real psychological phobia, of course you know that rationally your chances of conceiving are minute. Does it stop you enjoying sex? I used to feel that.
You might want to go and see someone, I mean, professionally. You don't have to medicalize your fears, but they are trained in deconstructing the fear, if it truly does interfere with your day to day life, and your family and freinds.
Don't let it tear you apart. I suppose you could further your steps of contraception, such as medical ovulation monitoring as well as condoms, the pill and your partners fertility rate. So you weren't having sex on fertile days. Further nulling the chances of conceiving.
But of course, with a real phobia such as this, it may not help, if it is an irrational fear. all the precautions you can take in the world won't help, you need to tackle the phobia from its core.
Good luck x |
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| Posted: 04/03/08 - 11:02 Post subject: pregnancy phobia |
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| I am terrified of giving birth but I love kids and cry sometimes because I want one that badly. I thought of my husband and I might try adoption but I really want my own. So I have decided to make the plunge I am just going to get pregnant. This way I will over come my peralizing fear. I will just have to get over this like I did the dentist. |
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