unable to get erection after first ejaculation

jonathon · Newbie Joined: 21 Jul 2007 Posts: 1

im 20 years old and after ejaculation i can't ever seem to get itback up until 20 minutes or so later when the mood is gone. My girlfriend said "your young why can't it stay up', im thinking somethings wrong...

lackofpleasure · Newbie Joined: 24 Jul 2007 Posts: 16

All guys vary, seek medical advice if you need reassurance, Im no expert but Ive slept with 3 different guys and only 1 out of 3 was able to remain hard for several ejaculations, the other two would go and that would be it.

I reckon its normal, it just varies with some guys and the two that lost erection after ejaculation were aged 21 and 28 Embarassed

the guy who stayed hard for a bit was 22 but he'd go and go floppy but if I wanted him again he'd come back up on demand.

If your having trouble satisfiying your girlfriend role play heaps and rub her sweet spots till she nearly climaxes, take your time with it, then go in for kill with your crew and hopefully she'll be happy once you go, if not get a dildo Wink

Upton O'Goode · Silver Member Joined: 30 Jul 2007 Posts: 174

lackofpleasure -

I like your approach. You sound pretty resourceful for somebody with relatively little experience. Keep it up, girl! Wink

jonathon -

There is something called a "refractory period" after orgasm during which you can't achieve an erection. Apparently your body has a little maintenance work to do before you're armed and ready for action again. If you're anything like me--and why wouldn't you be--you will find that this time varies from time to time depending on how excited you are, how well rested you are, how excited she is, and who-the-heck-knows-why. Sometimes you're going to be down for the full count, and sometimes you're going to really surprise yourself.

I'll never forget the first time I got hard again right away. I hadn't even withdrawn. I was having a great time with a great girl, our first time together. I was as surprised by it as she was, but of course I pretended it happened all the time, and after that it did seem to happen more often, especially when I was with a girl for the first time.

So don't assume that you have anything wrong with you. It's more likely that your girlfriend doesn't excite you enough. If you're getting enough sleep, eating a healthy diet and taking care of yourself, you're doing your part. If she wants another go 'round, maybe she needs to step up and do her part. You'd be amazed how much faster you can get an erection when a girl is going down on you or rubbing her breasts all over your body. And if you have a little time to kill, maybe you can go down on her for a while, or break out some sex toys. That ought to hold her interest. Wink

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