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strothers3
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 Posted: 05/01/07 - 22:29 Post subject: while having sex having trouble cumming |
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hi im 21 female,and married we dont have sex that much but i always had trouble cuming .the only way i can is by riding (on top of him).but now i've only came once in 5 months .the sex is great no trouble there .but i need any information on cumming while having sex with husband.please help any info would be great .thanks and doggy style dosent make me cum either sucks for me  |
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I used to have the same problem. It is a mental issue. I don't mean you're crazy, just that you're not in the right frame of mind.
I used to be so bothered about cumming that I would concentrate on it and it would never happen. Just try to relax, take it slowly and try lots of things.
Have your husband go down on you first and then try it with you laid on your back with your legs pulled back towards you. This will give you very deep penetration and if you need to, you can rub your clit.
Anyway, all it took was for me to stop putting so much thought and effort in to cumming and I just relaxed and it started to happen. |
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| Posted: 06/18/07 - 21:31 Post subject: |
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| mmS wrote: | I used to have the same problem. It is a mental issue. I don't mean you're crazy, just that you're not in the right frame of mind.
I used to be so bothered about cumming that I would concentrate on it and it would never happen. Just try to relax, take it slowly and try lots of things.
Have your husband go down on you first and then try it with you laid on your back with your legs pulled back towards you. This will give you very deep penetration and if you need to, you can rub your clit.
Anyway, all it took was for me to stop putting so much thought and effort in to cumming and I just relaxed and it started to happen. |
thanks mms i feel better that im not the only one out there .  |
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| I completely understand and that sucks! I am 19 and i have been married for 2 years, we use to have sex all the time and then for a while we didnt because I was having such a hard time, and I personally dont think it is much of a mind set, because I get turned on by just looking at my 23 year old husband, he is HOT and I am turned on all the time... when we were dating we use to grind a lot and that is the only way we could, but it helps me now if he plays with me, fingers me, goes down on me, and gets me body really turned on and then when we are having intercourse it still rubs me and I orgasm easier... Have you guys tryed using sex toys at all? We havent really used much, but we have a vibrator and he massages me with it and I go crazy, I have seen things on line that are like a viborator but you latch it onto your husbands penis and it will still have the viborating but he will still be f@#$^&* you and I think that might be something that you might want to try, I definately think we are going to buy one, i will let you know if we like it if we get it. Also, something that is great for me is when he fingers me, if you have him go as deep as he can for some reason that can make me cum in seconds sometimes, my husbands penis is really big and completely goes deep but for some reason I think when he wiggles his fingers and rubs me that can really make me feel good and orgasm, but anyways, I hope that helps, if the absoute only way for you to orgasm is when you are grinding him tell him to grind you for a change, I dont know if he knows that you dont orgasm when he is inside of you, but i would tell him, I had to tell my husband because it was so hard for me too, and he completely understood and has been very helpful, In his mind set he feels like he has to make me orgasm or it was not fun for me, which is not true but it gets me a great orgasm every time we have sex!!! |
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| kaylamiller wrote: | | I completely understand and that sucks! I am 19 and i have been married for 2 years, we use to have sex all the time and then for a while we didnt because I was having such a hard time, and I personally dont think it is much of a mind set, because I get turned on by just looking at my 23 year old husband, he is HOT and I am turned on all the time... when we were dating we use to grind a lot and that is the only way we could, but it helps me now if he plays with me, fingers me, goes down on me, and gets me body really turned on and then when we are having intercourse it still rubs me and I orgasm easier... Have you guys tryed using sex toys at all? We havent really used much, but we have a vibrator and he massages me with it and I go crazy, I have seen things on line that are like a viborator but you latch it onto your husbands penis and it will still have the viborating but he will still be f@#$^&* you and I think that might be something that you might want to try, I definately think we are going to buy one, i will let you know if we like it if we get it. Also, something that is great for me is when he fingers me, if you have him go as deep as he can for some reason that can make me cum in seconds sometimes, my husbands penis is really big and completely goes deep but for some reason I think when he wiggles his fingers and rubs me that can really make me feel good and orgasm, but anyways, I hope that helps, if the absoute only way for you to orgasm is when you are grinding him tell him to grind you for a change, I dont know if he knows that you dont orgasm when he is inside of you, but i would tell him, I had to tell my husband because it was so hard for me too, and he completely understood and has been very helpful, In his mind set he feels like he has to make me orgasm or it was not fun for me, which is not true but it gets me a great orgasm every time we have sex!!! |
yea my husband knows that i cant cum everytime we have sex and he is cool with that but this has been going on ever since my first time having sex so its not him ,he's great at what he does he knows how i like it the other night i came 3 times so i think its my g spot if im not in the same spot that feels really good i cant cum and i try so hard that makes it harder for me.i dont like toys never used them i dont want to insult my hubby i just dont like the thought of something rubber or plastic going in me i sound silly.i like to keep it real ! thanks for your info |
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