why is love so difficult?

shea · Newbie Joined: 19 Dec 2005 Posts: 11

I am 18 and I have a 21 year old boyfriend. He is so pretty that I am in constant worry that I could stay without him. I told him that and he now says I am annoying with my fears and he would not be tolerating any jalousies. I am so desperate why is love so difficult?

phillipp · Newbie Joined: 12 Oct 2004 Posts: 3

Love is difficult because it is so sweat and easy. I understand you don't see anything easy in there at this moment but trust me it could be so if you change your approach. In other words cool it off a bit or your boyfriend might run away. That's what I would do in his place-give him some space and the feeling that he is free out of chaise. Don't ruin that love with your jealousy it won't bring you nowhere it would only make your love as difficult as you feel it now. Be positive and have fun along with your boyfriend and you will see how love could be fun and beautiful and not that much difficult. I know you love him but it doesn't mean you have control over him-having control is not about love it is about power and that's where your love might disappear and if that happens you would be in more love pain than you are now. So go ahead and instead of controlling your boyfriend try to control your feelings first.

TBUK · Newbie Joined: 16 Jul 2007 Posts: 38

i think fears are a normal part of love, i get jealous, parinoid and possesive but so does my boyfriend we totally trust each other 100% but it dosent mean we cant have fears but we both know deep down that we have no reason too, we never argue about it its just silly little worries that we talk about straight away, were engaged and weve never been happier but that still dosent mean that we cant get fears.

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