I am in a relationship where they guy I am dating has 2 kids from a previous marriage...girl age 7 about to be 8; boy age 10 soon to be 11. He does not get to see them very often, mom lives about 8-9 hrs. away. He gets them for the summer and every other holiday. I see this is hard on him and his kids, but his 10 yr. old son always wants to sleep with him. The first time I heard this a red flag went off in my head, I was not sure if this was age appropirate? Sometimes his daughter sleeps with them too.
I feel frustrated that I not only get kicked out of the bed, but also the house. I've slowly been moving in, we have talked about things, I have been here consistently for around 6 months. Sleeping here everynight...so on. But when his kids come and visit, he says to me that I may have to give them some space and go back to my house. Lets remember...almost all of my things are at his house now...I was not expecting to have to leave when his kids came down.
Is this normal? I think the son really feels threaten, and I don't want that, and I try to give them space, I will even sleep in the guest bed if that makes them feel better so they can sleep with dad! but should I have to be pushed away because the kids "can't sleep" at night and should I be forced out of bed with my boyfriend? If this is normal, then I accept it, I understand the kids need to get acclimated, but to what extent?
I feel frustrated that I not only get kicked out of the bed, but also the house. I've slowly been moving in, we have talked about things, I have been here consistently for around 6 months. Sleeping here everynight...so on. But when his kids come and visit, he says to me that I may have to give them some space and go back to my house. Lets remember...almost all of my things are at his house now...I was not expecting to have to leave when his kids came down.
Is this normal? I think the son really feels threaten, and I don't want that, and I try to give them space, I will even sleep in the guest bed if that makes them feel better so they can sleep with dad! but should I have to be pushed away because the kids "can't sleep" at night and should I be forced out of bed with my boyfriend? If this is normal, then I accept it, I understand the kids need to get acclimated, but to what extent?
In defense of the those who still have a blanket, I'm 22 and still use a blanket, I've gone throgh manny of course but I still use it as it is a comfort ...and a pretty good pillow.
As for the child in the bed, I agree with the Super Nanny ruling, he/she is throwing a tantrum, put them in their own bed tell them they must sleep there, and if they get out repeat the procedure, eventually they'll tire themselves out and go to bed.
As for the child in the bed, I agree with the Super Nanny ruling, he/she is throwing a tantrum, put them in their own bed tell them they must sleep there, and if they get out repeat the procedure, eventually they'll tire themselves out and go to bed.
I have been married to my mew husband for almost 2 months now. i have two children from a pre3vious marriage. they sleep in there own room ofcourse. That would never go over well with me if they tried moving into our bed they know better, their ages are 5 years old and 1 almost 2 years old. His son sleeps over here most nights, he likes it better here then at his moms. But every single night he is here, he sneaks into our bed, my husband then moves him to his, an hour later he comes back, he does this throughout the night! Everytime he sleeps over. What can we do to make him stop doing this, he is 5 years old, he has a night light, he keeps his door open, there is not much else we can think of. please help!
When my son was a baby, he is now 33, he used to creep into our bedroom every single nite and made it a pointo come to MY side of the bed as he knew his dad would pitch a fit. I knew i was doing wrong by letting him cuddle in with me and i would try to baby him into going back to his own bed, it did not work my way. My husband came home sick early from work (c shift) and found our son sleeping with me, he was about 6 at this time. He woke him up and took him to his own bed, this happened at least twice during the night, every single nite. I hated it but i knew it was for his own good as it's not healthy for kids to be sleeping with mom/dad at all. It took about 2 months for him to finally stay in his own bed but i had to reinforce the rule as well. He would crawl in beside me and my husband would nudge me, meaning i had to do the dirty work. Of course i would lolly gag around, making sure he was ok in his bed, seeing if he needed a drink or had to go to the bathroom, which made my husband furious. He showed me how to do it. Wake him up, carry him to his bed, kiss him goodnite and tell him to stay put, then walk out of the room, period. It took me a while to get it right but eventually it worked.
I had to make him know that we loved him but he had to sleep in his own bed. There were nites when both my husband and myself did it together, we would put him back to bed and leave the room, nothing in between. Maybe both of you can do this together. I know its a pain in the butt but he will get it, tho it may take a while. You just have to be patient.
I had to make him know that we loved him but he had to sleep in his own bed. There were nites when both my husband and myself did it together, we would put him back to bed and leave the room, nothing in between. Maybe both of you can do this together. I know its a pain in the butt but he will get it, tho it may take a while. You just have to be patient.
At Christmas we went out of town. Our daughter had two share a bed with us. Sence we got home she has been wanting to sleep with me. Its not safe for her to be on our bed. Here recently she has been wanting to sleep in our bed. Its becoming a problem, we cant get any sleep. We have tried putting her to bed after she falls asleep. Sometimes she stays asleep and other times she flips out. When that happens ive tried rocking her back to sleep. Now when she stays asleep, she will wake up in the middle of the night screaming. I've tried waiting it out. I've tried changing her diaper giving her warm milk and rocking her back to sleep. If I want any sleep i let her sleep with me, but even then i don't get much sleep. My husband has to wake up early and he we get nerves when the alarms go off. Do you have any suggests that i've not tried. She just turned two years old. I've never let her sleep with me as a baby. I didn't want this problem and now i've got it %-) She is still sleeping in her crib too!
Sleeping arrangements turn kids to same sex relationships? Really?
My 10 year old grandson, 8 year old granddaughter, and 5 year old grandson all sleep every night with mom and dad. They state that as long as the children desire, that they can sleep with them. Maybe I'm old fashion. How am I wrong with strongly disagreeing with this?
You think 7's bad, I have a 13 year old step son (chinese) that still uses his mother like a 2 year old. I will be happy to get an answer to this problem.
Stop being so selfish You are her partner The boy is her son You should be more understanding of the bond between mother and son if you truly love this woman She needs to think twice about marrying you You obviously weren't around when this child was born Have a heart you r not the only one in this relationship There are three of you get over it if u love them both if you don't let her move on to find someone that truly loves her (and her son)
I'm with ya man. every night our kid wakes up after anywhere from 2-4 hours of sleep and comes in. if we're having sex we lock the door but then she starts on with this "you don't want me in here" shite. Well, right then, we don't but she's 4 so we can't really tell her that. I want our bed to be OUR bed. not the family bed. geez.
I've been with my fiancée for a bit of a year now, and she still lets her 5 year old daughter sleep in bed with us. It drives me nuts and upsets me to no end. I don't think its right first of all and second she's too old now. There's no place that's off limits for just my fiancée and I to have our own privacy I feel like. Plus I believe its building dependency issues with her and the mom and I can see it being a problem down the road. Any advice out there where I can bring this up with my fiancée without making it into a argument??
My Girlfriend still lets our 10 year old boy sleep in our bed when I'm not there, as I dont agree with it.
Is this wrong of me? or does she need to stand up to him, as he will start the old, PLEEEEEESE.
He doesent even try it with me as he knows it will be a point blank NO, off to your own bed. end of!
Is this wrong of me? or does she need to stand up to him, as he will start the old, PLEEEEEESE.
He doesent even try it with me as he knows it will be a point blank NO, off to your own bed. end of!
u shouldn't have married someone with kids!!!!
Yeah, I have an answer. Be the grownup in this relationship for one. Tell your 13 year old to get the hell back to his bed and now. Then get up and lock your door.
Questions?
Questions?
you need to be consistent.Explain to him ,he needs to explain to hin that he needs to sleep in his room.Otherwise your hunsband will not happy in future.....