I am a virgin but have tried several times to have sex but it hurts so bad its almost unbearable. I have talked to several people and their advise to me was to try using a vibrator to prepare myself for having sex. I have three of them a 1 inch, 1 1/2 inch, and a two inch. every time it hurts. the pain is the same every time and i get extremely frustrated with myself. I am getting married in two weeks and just want to be able to enjoy my honeymoon any advise?
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Perhaps someone else can be more helpful on this.
I am unclear what/where the pain is.
Are you saying the diameter of each of these is too wide for you?
Are you saying there is a lack of natural lubrication for you?
Have you had any sort of penetration before, possibly opening the hymen?
I would think that an exam by a OBGYN wouold be in line to answer the question of whether you need some surgical assistance if you have a tough or thick hymen which might be blocking/preventing some entrance.
Have you been stimulating the clitoris, or just the vagina?
Have you ever masturbated before? Have you ever had an orgasm before?
What age are you? 16, 18, 24, 36, 50?
The answer to some of these questions might help us help you.
I hear your concern and applaud you for trying some things before you get to the wedding night. A counseling by a doctor, nurse or medical counselor might be in order to assure things will go smoothly.
There are several books that could be suggested, including "The Guide to Getting it On" from Goofy Foot Press... it's light and irreverent and funny and factual. "Sex for One" by Betty Dodson is very good to help explain, teach and loosen you up.
And, any basic marriage manual might be helpful to get a basic understanding of what happens and will be going on.
I'm wondering if have you discussed this with your groom yet?
I am unclear what/where the pain is.
Are you saying the diameter of each of these is too wide for you?
Are you saying there is a lack of natural lubrication for you?
Have you had any sort of penetration before, possibly opening the hymen?
I would think that an exam by a OBGYN wouold be in line to answer the question of whether you need some surgical assistance if you have a tough or thick hymen which might be blocking/preventing some entrance.
Have you been stimulating the clitoris, or just the vagina?
Have you ever masturbated before? Have you ever had an orgasm before?
What age are you? 16, 18, 24, 36, 50?
The answer to some of these questions might help us help you.
I hear your concern and applaud you for trying some things before you get to the wedding night. A counseling by a doctor, nurse or medical counselor might be in order to assure things will go smoothly.
There are several books that could be suggested, including "The Guide to Getting it On" from Goofy Foot Press... it's light and irreverent and funny and factual. "Sex for One" by Betty Dodson is very good to help explain, teach and loosen you up.
And, any basic marriage manual might be helpful to get a basic understanding of what happens and will be going on.
I'm wondering if have you discussed this with your groom yet?
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