Hello, this is the first I've ever told anyone this; that I can't "Cum".
Ever since I started having sex I always have the same issue of not receiving an orgasm. My first time has an excuse though; the guy I was with came before he got the 3rd stroke in.
But after that I gave masturbation a try, I couldn't bring myself to do so, so my current boyfriend at the time assisted me. Whenever he would do it it felt great and once I thought I felt one coming on but nothing happened. For about 3 years I went cold turkey without sex or masturbation (I figure the wait had to build up something!) until I met my current boyfriend who has the same issue as me. We gave sex another go about a 3 weeks ago but nothing. We went on until I got tired and asked to stop.
Is it me? I want it to happen but I dont want to masturbate (It doest feel right)
Comments please, Thank you.
Ever since I started having sex I always have the same issue of not receiving an orgasm. My first time has an excuse though; the guy I was with came before he got the 3rd stroke in.
But after that I gave masturbation a try, I couldn't bring myself to do so, so my current boyfriend at the time assisted me. Whenever he would do it it felt great and once I thought I felt one coming on but nothing happened. For about 3 years I went cold turkey without sex or masturbation (I figure the wait had to build up something!) until I met my current boyfriend who has the same issue as me. We gave sex another go about a 3 weeks ago but nothing. We went on until I got tired and asked to stop.
Is it me? I want it to happen but I dont want to masturbate (It doest feel right)
Comments please, Thank you.
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It's not unusual for women to report they are not climaxing.
Most all women climax from direct clitoral stimulation, rather than vaginal stimulation alone.
You can learn to orgasm, and the basis is to relax and let it happen.
The fact that you've enjoyed a boyfriend stimulating you and felt like something was building is a very good sign.
You may want to pursue whatever he was doing with you.
The other thing would be to read up on this. May I suggest "Sex for One" by Betty Dodson.
Keep in touch and let us know how it comes out for you.
Plus, some other women here may have some suggestions.
Most all women climax from direct clitoral stimulation, rather than vaginal stimulation alone.
You can learn to orgasm, and the basis is to relax and let it happen.
The fact that you've enjoyed a boyfriend stimulating you and felt like something was building is a very good sign.
You may want to pursue whatever he was doing with you.
The other thing would be to read up on this. May I suggest "Sex for One" by Betty Dodson.
Keep in touch and let us know how it comes out for you.
Plus, some other women here may have some suggestions.
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Really? I didnt know it was normal not to come. I feel better now for sure! I'll read up on Betty Dodson too thank you so much! I'll keep in touch!
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Ah, what I meant to say is that it is not unusual to hear from women that they were not experiencing a climax or orgasm.... not that women don't climax.
The expression "It's normal not to experience orgasm" is NOT correct.
I think I'd better let an experienced woman field your question.
The expression "It's normal not to experience orgasm" is NOT correct.
I think I'd better let an experienced woman field your question.
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