ive been going out with my gf for aobut a year now we're both 17......we're both virgins and we both agree that its okay if we tried having sex...whenever we're in intercourse, im fine....but when it comes to actually inserting in her, i get soft...and then i loose my drive.....why is this soo different then when masturbating? can anyone help?!
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hi there it is common in people who have never had sex before, its most probly down to nerves. the more nerves you get the less chance off an erection stayin up as the blood has to go the body, you could always try viagra, but if you do make sure to take the right amount and that it is given to you by good source and not someone of the street. to calm your nerves you could try your girlfreing massaging you before you start to have intercourse and all thiswilldo is calm you muscle down which will calm you down, hope this info is helpful.
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I reckon this is because you are too nervous regarding sex and because you are new at this. I had similar problems with my first girlfriend. The problem was that we were both inexperienced and I would start inserting when she wasn’t wet enough. Then I wouldn’t be able to enter immediately, she would start laughing and my erection and enthusiasm would go down the drain.
The reason it works with masturbation is that you are confident about what you are doing while during first sexual attempts, you are not. This is the key.
First of all, make sure she is well lubricated before you get in. Trust me, it makes a difference. Even now, when I have no problems entering I prefer lubrication because it goes so smooth; it enters on its own. Try finding water based vaginal lubricant that won’t irritate her skin and during foreplay rub it either on your penis, or onto her vagina and then enter just a little bit on the surface (opening) to make her and your self more interested. You can masturbate all the time while you are trying to enter in order to keep your erection. When you think you are both ready, then enter. Don’t push things, experiment, see what works best and go slowly. There is no rush! You shouldn’t be embarrassed since you are both new at this and don’t get confused if she starts to laugh because this is what girls do-they laugh!Good luck mate!
The reason it works with masturbation is that you are confident about what you are doing while during first sexual attempts, you are not. This is the key.
First of all, make sure she is well lubricated before you get in. Trust me, it makes a difference. Even now, when I have no problems entering I prefer lubrication because it goes so smooth; it enters on its own. Try finding water based vaginal lubricant that won’t irritate her skin and during foreplay rub it either on your penis, or onto her vagina and then enter just a little bit on the surface (opening) to make her and your self more interested. You can masturbate all the time while you are trying to enter in order to keep your erection. When you think you are both ready, then enter. Don’t push things, experiment, see what works best and go slowly. There is no rush! You shouldn’t be embarrassed since you are both new at this and don’t get confused if she starts to laugh because this is what girls do-they laugh!Good luck mate!
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