PLEASE!
I am 13 years old and because my uncle had touched me in my private areas when I was 5 years old I have been addicted to touching there myself.
I feel a pleasure and can't stop while I'm doing it but when I do it for too long I get this weird feeling and have to stop because it hurts. Please I am a girl and so young and most people say it is pleasureable but I hate it. Please, is there anything I can do to stop?
Please just give me the smallest bit of advice. I stopped for a few weeks once but that's the most I can do. It's addicting. I will look at porn online and I feel so guilty afterwards. I know people say it's a good thing and healthy for you but if it gives me the feelings that I get when I am done and the regrets and pain afterwards. Well, I don't find that healthy. And doesn't it usually only occur in guys? So i want to know why I do it? And I want to know how it is possible that because someone else touched me before I touch myself now. I hate it, and i never want to get caught. Please help me. :'(
I am 13 years old and because my uncle had touched me in my private areas when I was 5 years old I have been addicted to touching there myself.
I feel a pleasure and can't stop while I'm doing it but when I do it for too long I get this weird feeling and have to stop because it hurts. Please I am a girl and so young and most people say it is pleasureable but I hate it. Please, is there anything I can do to stop?
Please just give me the smallest bit of advice. I stopped for a few weeks once but that's the most I can do. It's addicting. I will look at porn online and I feel so guilty afterwards. I know people say it's a good thing and healthy for you but if it gives me the feelings that I get when I am done and the regrets and pain afterwards. Well, I don't find that healthy. And doesn't it usually only occur in guys? So i want to know why I do it? And I want to know how it is possible that because someone else touched me before I touch myself now. I hate it, and i never want to get caught. Please help me. :'(
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Is there something that onsets your urge to touch yourself? If there is try not to expose yourself to this feeling (being alone, bored, etc). Also if the porn is addicting you can set an porn filter on your computer and have someone in your house or a friend set a password that you don't have access to. I think you should overcome the porn and it will help you to ease away from touching yourself so frequently.
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Hi...my opinion for you...
First - I am sorry that happened to you so young - that is a very tough thing to get over! I hope you took the steps to get help with dealing with the feelings that has left you. If not - now is the time to do that.
That being said though - there may be no relationship between that happening to you, and your desire to masturbate. You are at the age now when most kids start masturbating. It would be VERY normal for you to begin masturbating now even if that had never happened to you. As far as the porn - what you have been told is true - that is also something normal at your age. It is not just limited to boys.
I understand the concerns you are feeling - but most of them seem to be related to you believe all of this is happening only because you were touched inappropriately as a child - and I honestly don't think that is the cause!
Good luck!
First - I am sorry that happened to you so young - that is a very tough thing to get over! I hope you took the steps to get help with dealing with the feelings that has left you. If not - now is the time to do that.
That being said though - there may be no relationship between that happening to you, and your desire to masturbate. You are at the age now when most kids start masturbating. It would be VERY normal for you to begin masturbating now even if that had never happened to you. As far as the porn - what you have been told is true - that is also something normal at your age. It is not just limited to boys.
I understand the concerns you are feeling - but most of them seem to be related to you believe all of this is happening only because you were touched inappropriately as a child - and I honestly don't think that is the cause!
Good luck!
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I agree with taz. If you look around this forum, stories abound of girls finding this pleasure on their own from a very early age. They begin touching themselves almost from birth and later learn to masturbate for real pleasure. I don't think you can blame your desire to masturbate on what your uncle did. That may simply have been your awakening to it.
There is nothing wrong with doing it, 99% of us do it and the other 1% are liars. It's a great stress reliever and it's pleasurable. It's also how you learn exactly what pleases you so you will able to instruct your lover about how to make love to you later on. Us guys don't automatically know exactly what pleases you. Partly because we're more interested in what pleases us but mostly because you girls are all different.
It's not addicting, it's what our bodies are built for and our minds are programmed to like and want to do it.
If you feel guilty about it you need to understand there is nothing to feel guilty about. If it's because of what your uncle did, it was wrong for him to do that to you but it's not wrong for you to do it to yourself or to let your boyfriend do it when that time comes. It's a vital part of adult sex.
Guys like porn because their initial arousal is more visual than girls, but many girls like it too.
When I was your age, us boys were quite open about masturbation between ourselves but we were led to believe girls never did it. I think it was the girls themselves who made us think that way. Years later we all realized ---- they lied to us. Most of them were having just as much fun as we were. If they didn't, how did my wife know to show me exactly where and how to touch her to bring her to orgasm?
You're not alone, most of us didn't want to get caught because we were taught it was dirty and the people who are most likely to catch us (our parents) are the ones who taught us that. I was lucky, my father found me once and he didn't comment about it at all. He just told me what he came to say and left. My mother walked into my room where me and two cousins were masturbating each other. She said "dinner's ready" and closed the door.
So don't feel guilty about doing what your body was built for. If you are religious, do you really think God would have designed a body that can give us so much pleasure just so he could say don't enjoy it? Do you believe God is that mean?
Please stop beating yourself up.
There is nothing wrong with doing it, 99% of us do it and the other 1% are liars. It's a great stress reliever and it's pleasurable. It's also how you learn exactly what pleases you so you will able to instruct your lover about how to make love to you later on. Us guys don't automatically know exactly what pleases you. Partly because we're more interested in what pleases us but mostly because you girls are all different.
It's not addicting, it's what our bodies are built for and our minds are programmed to like and want to do it.
If you feel guilty about it you need to understand there is nothing to feel guilty about. If it's because of what your uncle did, it was wrong for him to do that to you but it's not wrong for you to do it to yourself or to let your boyfriend do it when that time comes. It's a vital part of adult sex.
Guys like porn because their initial arousal is more visual than girls, but many girls like it too.
When I was your age, us boys were quite open about masturbation between ourselves but we were led to believe girls never did it. I think it was the girls themselves who made us think that way. Years later we all realized ---- they lied to us. Most of them were having just as much fun as we were. If they didn't, how did my wife know to show me exactly where and how to touch her to bring her to orgasm?
You're not alone, most of us didn't want to get caught because we were taught it was dirty and the people who are most likely to catch us (our parents) are the ones who taught us that. I was lucky, my father found me once and he didn't comment about it at all. He just told me what he came to say and left. My mother walked into my room where me and two cousins were masturbating each other. She said "dinner's ready" and closed the door.
So don't feel guilty about doing what your body was built for. If you are religious, do you really think God would have designed a body that can give us so much pleasure just so he could say don't enjoy it? Do you believe God is that mean?
Please stop beating yourself up.
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can i ask a question? why did your uncle touch you in that area? was it be an accident or something? :?
i know what you are talking about when you say you cant stop. im 13 too and i always find myself looking at porn. when i go on the laptop i never mean to go onto that. i would give you my email but it never comes up when you write it. ***this post is edited by moderator *** *** private e-mails not allowed **
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i find it easier by writing about it. try an online diary. its cool! hope this is helpful!!! jennifer xxxxxx
p.s. good for you for trying to stop!!!
i know what you are talking about when you say you cant stop. im 13 too and i always find myself looking at porn. when i go on the laptop i never mean to go onto that. i would give you my email but it never comes up when you write it. ***this post is edited by moderator *** *** private e-mails not allowed **
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i find it easier by writing about it. try an online diary. its cool! hope this is helpful!!! jennifer xxxxxx
p.s. good for you for trying to stop!!!
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Hello,
I am 13. I started to masterbate at about 10 I think. I just did this thing in the shower. But after I started doing the real thing I also felt guilty and didn't want to be caught just like you. I did try to stop numerous times but I never could do it, but after I a few failed attempts I just gave in and after I found this site I felt a lot more comfortable doing it after I found out I am not alone in all this stuff. Also experiences like you discribed could have also discouraged you from doing it, I atmire your openess to that subject. So as you mature you will probally become more comfortable with it. I hope this helped. :-)
Sincerely,
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I am 13. I started to masterbate at about 10 I think. I just did this thing in the shower. But after I started doing the real thing I also felt guilty and didn't want to be caught just like you. I did try to stop numerous times but I never could do it, but after I a few failed attempts I just gave in and after I found this site I felt a lot more comfortable doing it after I found out I am not alone in all this stuff. Also experiences like you discribed could have also discouraged you from doing it, I atmire your openess to that subject. So as you mature you will probally become more comfortable with it. I hope this helped. :-)
Sincerely,
Guest
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okay well im 13 and i masterbait but I HATE IT. im so afarid of getting caught and my parents arent easy to talk to .and they would be so upset with me and i feel like they would never get over it .And i know "its normal"and "everyone does it " but during the day im all alone so what can i do .plus i dont really know if im in to girls or guys or both but like i said my parents arent easy to talk to and plus i have never had a real relationship with either gender and i afaid to say that i do have more feeling for girls then guys because theres this bi girl at school and everyone picks on her inculding me but thats becase i soooooo afaird to tell someone .
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I think you should only masterpait in the tub so you don't get cought. Also masterpate until you reach orgasim acople of times and it will stop hurting and it will feel so good. Also tyy to masterpate more often I did all of that and now my needs are satisfide after I masterpate
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It is normal to masterpate at your age so be normal and keep masterpateing and a fyi i started masterpating when i was 7 and now i'm 13 and I still do.
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