I'm in a little bit of a... Predicament

You raise a number of issues.

1. "If i masturbate too much, can i possibly make my orgasm come quicker?"
   1. What do you mean by 'too much'?
   2. It might come quicker, or might take longer - different people react in different ways
      • Why do you want it to come quicker?
      • Quicker is not necessarily better!
      • How long do you take now?
      • It might come quicker for a while, then take longer
      • It might depend on how you do it.
2. "I really want to have sex"
   • That is quite natural - that is how you are made. But you seem to want it for its own sake, and who you have it with seems to a secondary issue. You need to value yourself more than that.
   • Why particularly do you want to?
     • Is there something that you know has generated this desire? Something you have been told, or seen?
   "but I'm too scared"
   • What are you scared of? "Because girls can't lie about their virginity like guys can"? Don't even think about lying about your virginity. It is important, not just to satisfy another boy, but for its own sake.
     • Are you prepared to lose your virginity to someone, and then pretend to lose it to another?
     • You can only lose it once in reality.
     • You'll not be the same thereafter.
   "and i have a boyfriend who lives in New Jersey while i live in Illinois"
   • A long distance relationship limits how much you can get to know him. How often do you meet face-to-face?
   "and i have a crush who lives in Canada."
   • So you are cheating on your boyfriend. You can't keep both going. You clearly haven't decided who you want to be with long-term.
   "I'm love my boyfriend to death"
   • No you don't, or you wouldn't have a 'crush' also.
   • You are only 14, and have not had a chance for your feelings to mature.
   • How long has he been your boyfriend?
   • How old is he?
   • How much does he love you?
   • What do you know about his hopes and fears; his dreams for the future? His beliefs?
   "and we talked about me and him getting together and having sex for the first time."
   • Who raised the issue?
   • Are you getting together just for the purpose of sex?"Is it a good idea..?"
     • No it's not. It's a bad idea altogether
       1. It is probably illegal
       2. Depending on his age, it could be considered rape
       3. You will lose your virginity, which you already have said would be something you would subsequently lie about.
       4. You will create a soul-tie, which you will be unable to break. You will take that into a future relationship.
       5. You have not hinted at his 'love' for you. That is significant.
       6. Any time you have sex there is the risk of pregnancy - even with 'protection'
       7. What are the religious or cultural implications?
   • "Cause I'm afraid to tell my mother."Why are you afraid?She will probably find out sooner or later.You will always be hiding it from her, and it will create a barrier.
3. "Is it bad that i get sexually excited often" Not necessarily, but it depends why you do.
   1. What causes you to "get sexually excited"?
   2. How often?
   "and that it happens a lot in school too?" - Again not necessarily, but it depends
   1. What at school causes you particularly to "get sexually excited"?
   2. How do you deal with that at school?

"girls can't lie about their virginity like guys can" So what have you found out about that? Is your boyfriend a virgin? Do you trust him?

"I'm frightened" What is really frightening you? If you are frightened, that is a clear indication you shouldn't be doing it. However, I think there is something more in your mind that you haven't altogether expressed.

I hope this helps as a start. I'll look out for your response, but maybe it would be a good idea to become a member, and you can maybe chat about it more easily.