I waited the suggested 3 weeks after the surgery, (plus a couple extra) before attempting to have sex with my bf again. it still hurt, but it was more of a pressured pain when he tried to put his penis in. I was not nervous at the time and was fine with everything until the initial pain hit. We’ve tried several times since then, only to have to wait for a few seconds to try more or stop all together because the pain is so excruciating.
My GYN had given me a estrogen cream to try rubbing on the hymen to soften it, thinking maybe it was still not stretching enough, but it doesn’t feel like the pain is from the hymen, it’s more like the hole is not there and when we try to have intercourse, there is nowhere for the penis to go in. but the GYN has no problem doing a pap, aside from my pain so I know that something can go in. However, I cannot even get a finger in when trying to masturbate or whatever. I never had tried tampons and I still cannot use them even now.
I’ve heard about the process you can use by using dilators or something to stretch the vagina out more to make it easier to actually have sex and was wondering if anyone has tried this and if it was helpful? Or if anyone else has found any solution to this because it really sucks!
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I'm not a doctor so I actually don't have any idea about this but I think you should keep on meeting with your GYN. Maybe there's actually something that might be a blockage that's why it still hurts.
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Okay. First of all, please don't ever use baby oil as lubricant, ever.
My advice is a lot of silicone or water based lubricant (from a pharmacy). I had a similar problem, its simply because your vaginal canal is not used to being expanded. It will hurt a bit the first time, just keep adding lube. Also, the more aroused you are, the more "open" you are, so try not to put pressure on yourself and just relax and enjoy the moment. If you feel nervous or pressured in any way, your vagina will stay contracted.
The first time your boyfriend tries to enter you, it will require some force. Honestly, this happened to me too. It sort of hurt a little, but just bite the bullet and do it. If it hurts to an unbearable degree, stop and see your doctor, but a little bit of pain is expected. Trust me, it WILL fit. As the intercourse progresses, you will "loosen up" and it will feel less like pain and more like pleasure. For the next while it will only hurt when he initially enters you, and then after that not at all.
Hope this helps!!
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Sounds as though you have Vaginusmus. You can google it and compare it to you symptoms . i believe i have that same problem as well........
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