I tried to lose my virginity, but it hurt...BAD!

Vaginal spasms, or vaginismus, is more a psychological than physiological one and can be treated. First, however is to become as familiar with your genital area as your are with your face. This can be done with a mirror while lying on your side or sitting on the edge of a piece of furniture. Learn the locations of the mons pubis, outer labia, inner labia, clitoris, urethral opening, hymen and vaginal opening, and explore these areas physically. Sometimes the hymen has to be released surgically, but the original writer mentioned her bf was already halfway in, so this doesn't sound to be a physiological problem. Suggestions for a drink, plenty of foreplay, gentleness on the part of the partner, may also work. It sounds as if he is rather large, but believe me, it's "not how long you make it, but how you make it long!" (The old cigarette ad is very appropriate here). Large or small, the vagina adapts perfectly and pleasure will come.

Older thread, but I'm betting the problem will still be around.  I saw a couple of references to "half way in."  Folks, the hymenal ring is no where half way into the vagina; it's just a bit further in than the clitoral hood and urethal opening, and even allowing for the compressibility of tissue there just ain't no way.  You need to see the GYN doc if you're having a "halfway" problem, and you are certain you are just not mistaken.

Forget vaginisimus.  It's not common, and in virtually all cases the spasms of the pelvic floor muscles are not severe enough to stop penetration even though you may be aware of them.  And if you are one of those handful of women who have the true "no can do" condition, penetration of any depth isn't possibly --- it is literally like trying penetrate a brick wall.

Your problems boils down to one thing --- the as****e you are cocking a leg for (it's an old Limey saying).  He either is ignorant, doesn't care; or both (And yes, you'll defend him now, but when you are older you'll look back and know what I mean).

And Mom even said just force his way in?  Where did she get her education?

And, I'll bet in every case your first time occurs when your privacy isn't completely assured.  Right?  And here's another --- time is an issue; one or both of you need to be somewhere later.  You may not have to watch the clock, but you've got other things you have to do. I'll bet your not even in your own bed, or one you are comfortable with.  You are tense and nervous to begin with and the last thing you need is some id**t jackhammering you.

Two words === "safe" and comfortable."  You need to feel safe with your partner, your surroundings and what you are do.  You have the key; not him.  You don't have to be anywhere and there's no chance anyone will walk in on you or even phone.  Your comfort must be mental and physical.  You are under no pressure to perform or satisfy anyone but yourself, and you've made no promises beyond "we'll see."  And, you practice that --- call anything off anytime you have the urge to.  If they guy breaks off the relationship because of what you won't do, be happy that he's gone --- he had no interest or respect for you beyond you being a life support system for a vagina; just a masturbation toy.

There are not 8-billion people on the planet because it hurts to have sex --- homo sapiens would have long since been as extinct as the Dodo.  There's more to sex than you just giving in, or even wanting to.  You have to be ready emotionally and physically with no pressure to perform or satisfy, and without needing a clock or worrying about being "caught."  

Guess what might happen then?  :)

U should hold ur breath and let him go in real hard and quick , to break ur hymen then go slowly from there

same problem here. still, he put his 2 fingers and it wasn't uncomfortable (just a tiny bit) but felt better though, with time. anyway his penis won't fit in. i know i am nervous but i want it really much. i don't know why