Why can't I have Sex? It hurts...

What the doctors don't tell you about this subject or are just to stupid to realize! Go to your local pharmacist and ask them for a tube of Dibucaine Ointment. They may have to special order it for you. It is not something you need a script for. What it is normally used for is for woman after they have a baby and they have rips and are healing. It works like Novocain.<?xml:namespace prefix = o ns = "urn:schemas-microsoft-com:office:office" />

Put this on about 15 minutes around the vaginal area, not inside, before you begin your love making. You only need a small amount; however get every spot where the penis will touch. What happened to me was the pain was from the ripping of the tissue in the begining of entry, and once I had penetration I still hurt because the ripping still hurt but with the Novocain effect I could enjoy the penetration. It actually felt great!  The ointment should last about one hour. It should not bother your partner. If you are dry, have your partner wear a condon so it will slip out easy.

I am shocked and upset that no other doctor I went to or OBGYN ever told me about this product and I heard about it on TV "How I met your Mother" when the group was in the baby store.

My doctor told me I had Vaginismus and I have an appointment with him tomorrow. Can wait to tell him he was wrong and show him my product.

I now can have sex again with no pain and then after when it wears off I use some more every so often when I pee, because it will burn, but eventually it will heal on its own and just like flying when I took my motion sickness pills, one day I forgot them and I was fine!

Good luck ladies!

we haven't had sex much because I get pain during sex. I don't like to do anything sexual anymore because I always fear the pain now. I have pain when entering the vagina and deep inside. What could this be? What should I do? this is our 4 time having sex together .My Husbands is getting irritated because of this can yo please tell me anyone is there any cream or oilt to be used to enjoy sex please suggest me i cant show my face to mu husband

First, go see your doctor - to rule out any infections. If all is negative:

Inquire if you could have lichen sclerosis or VVS (vulvar pain). These are often misdiagnosed and I personally went years not knowing I had lichen sclerosis. My doctor kept saying everything was fine (it was a gynecologist who finally diagnosed me).

It may be a muscle spasm problem and there are some physical therapists who specialise in pelvic and sexual dysfunctions. Also, you can buy a small thin vibrator and gradually use it until it feels comfortable and you can work your way up to a larger vibrator. Find an oil, or vaseline that helps soothe your itch and pain - nothing with perfumes. Avoid using lubes with flavour or warming sensation.

You could also consider seeing an acupuncturist or naturopath doctor, they have been know to work wonders just by getting in tune with your body and prescribing certain herbs and making certain changes to your diet.

Don't give up hope, do lots of research, be persistent (especially with drs), and be patient. It may take time to figure out what your problem is and to get yourself back to having a sex life. Be very very honest and informative with your doctor - the more details you can give them, the better. For some, antibiotics and birth control can make the problem worse (depending on what the problem is). Here are some sources that may help:

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