had sex didnt bleed, still hurts alot during intercourse how to break the hymen?

If you think your hymen is still intact, which sounds like it is, you may need some professional help.
Your Doctor can solve your problem in a minute. A quick in office procedure where the Doctor just snips the hymen and your done.
I wouldn't suggest having your bf give one hard push, that would hurt like hell, unless you can stand it, and that might not even work.
Are you well lubricated? If you are scared and nervous, you may not be well lubed. Plenty of foreplay in a relaxed atmosphere will make you wet.
Try some KY Gel for a little help.
There is really no position for pain free penetration as long as your stubborn hymen is still intact.

just the thought of having the doctor "snip" it off scares me.. ive tried vasiline and that helped a little.. tried foreplay but i dont seem to get wet because i kno whats going to happen and that its going to hurt.. its stressing me out.. i dont want it to bleed but im guessing it has to .. :S

Have a few pops, (drinks) put yourself in a calm area with no interuptions and let him play with you for a while. The key to successful penetration is to be really wet. Vaseline is no good and you really shouldn't use that. Get some KY as i said earlier. They have a kind that warms you up down stairs, and they have it for him too.
If you do go to the Doctor, he may give you a quick local anesthesia, just to numb things a bit. Don't be scared. The snip from the Doctor is less painful that what you are feeling trying to do this on your own.
BF may get you so hot that it won't hurt when he penetrates you.

I guess ive been doing it wrong.. ive been having sex in a really bad place where i could easily get caught .. i guess thats not the best way to do it.. and the ky jelly.. well unfortenetly were both sorta odded out my going to the store and getting it.. were old enough im turning 18 n my boyfriend is turning 20 .. also telling my doctor that ive had sex stresses me out because then im thinking she'll want to give me a pap test.. but i dont want anything up there that hurts even more then sex especially since i havent broken my hymen yet.

Some people can really get off on the "getting cought" thing and find that to be an excellent form of foreplay. Being your first time, i would lean toward a quiet and secluded setting with no chance of being cought or interupted. First time sex is sometimes stressful enough with out the thought of someone walking in on you.

When you become sexually active, you must visit your Gyno, at least once a year. There is nothing difficult about it and that is part of womanhood and sex. She could even take care of the whole hymen issue for you. A pap test is very important. This test determines if anything life threatening is going on. It is important to know so whatever it is can be cought in early stages. It consists of a gentle scrap of the cervix and a look see under the microscope. It shouldn't hurt and it is very much necessary.

You are almost 18, this makes you adult. BF is 20. Two adults.

Are you practicing safe sex? Birth control and or condoms?

The reason i am asking is if you think it hurts now just trying to break your hymen, it is no walk in the park if you accidently get pregnant. In my opinion, there are very few accidental pregnancies. Having sex without protection and knowing that the risk is ALWAYS there for preganancy is not an accident. It may not be intentional but it could happen. Knowledge of many kinds of birth control is something that you should know as an adult.

You sound intelligent. Maybe a quick trip to the Doc wouldn't be a bad thing for you. Take care of the hymen issue and look into some bc.

You didn't mention if you were taking precautions so that's why i kinda got on that issue for a sec.

im on tricyclen lo and we use condoms.. i would never dare do anything different ..being pregnant at my age. not my thing.

That's great, i was not sure of the birth control end of it.