Feeling depressed after stopping the birth control pills?

I've felt like this for around 3 months now. The first month coming off of it I was fine and the after my first period is when I got all of these negative thoughts. I do have moments of clarity but the negative thoughts about my boyfriend will usually take over my head.

It's amazing to know I am not going insane and that I am not going through this alone. I was only on the pill for 2 months and wow, I didn't expect I would feel so imbalanced and depressed.

I was only on the pill for two months as well! I didn't think that taking it for that short of time would completely change the way I feel about everything.

I'm sorry that you have those feelings. I know it is not the same magnitude, bit I have been afraid to book vacations out of fear that we won't last either. But here I am still pushing through this 4 months later.

Exactly. It is so aggrivating. I feel like I have to relearn how to live normally after going through this.

Im about 10 months off now an i still feel uncertain an irrational. Has anyone else been off this long an stil struggling?? I never thot it wud be this long but it is slowly killin me an my marriage :-(

Having another bad day. I'm feeling really discouraged like I am never going to feel like myself again. I've been suffering from this for almost 5 months now and I'm just so so tired. I start school Tuesday and my daughter starts day care tomorrow and I'm just overwhelmed with anxiety. I tried to do a little homework today and ended up feeling really anxious and dizzy thinking that this is going to be too much for me. My first time trying to juggle full time school and being a mom. And then I have my days where I feel like superwoman and I know I'm capable of doing this. I just hate that now when I have a good day I know it's going to be followed by a really bad day and I'm just tired of the up and down. I want my mindset back and my zest for life, and my outlook on life. I'm just so so tired y'all. 

 

Sorry hust needed to vent. Please send good wishes my way. I really need them today. Hope you all are doing a little better than me today. 

I still have my days like today where I don't believe me being on birth control for 4 months could be making me this bad off for so long. I know all this was triggered after I stopped taking it because I was absolutely fine save for the days I would be depressed about things here and there but never where I felt like I have just completely lost myself. I know some of it is circumstantial as well because I've been dealing with a lot in my personal life but there was a time I could deal with those problems and not feel overwhelmed with life. I do not want to be on medication but some days I feel like that's the best option for me. I'm holding out hoping by the time I reach that 6 month mark I will start feeling better. 

I just miss feeling love the way I used to. I feel like I will never feel it like that again. The question of "do I love him" is constantly on my mind because things feel so different. I know I love him it's just not that content feeling I used to feel when being with him.

Hi Iris, sorry to hear about your slump! But do not let this discourage you! Wishing you the best on this new chapter. Remember these things are all new to you which is why it's probably getting to you so intensely but know that deep down you can handle this, for your future and your daughters as well :)

I haven't been having a good couple of days. I think it may be because I ended my period about a week ago??? That's they only reason I could think I'm having these negative thoughts because this all started after I had my first period. I just feel so weird about life. I can't explain it but feeling like this makes it so hard for me to see a future. It makes it hard for me to see a future with my boyfriend because of all of these constant thoughts! In my head I just think of how things used to be and I know they aren't like that anymore. I'm not happy anymore and it Kills me to say that because I have always been so happy with everything I chose to do in my life. Most importantly, I want to be happy with my boyfriend. I see him in a different light now. I view his flaws and those things will bother me more than ever before. I think about the future and think about how long we have and the thought of not being with him pops into my head, I think about not lasting, him boring me and so many other things. Before I went on the pill I was so happy so this is all very weird to me. I think that since the process takes so long we all get very discouraged and don't know what to do. At this point, these feelings have become apart of me. I hope to get better soon so I can see a future for myself again.

I started my period a few days ago and found myself very emotional than most days in regards to the relationship anxiety. I feel very odd about life too; how I relate to everything, not just my bf. I used to get really excited about the future, and not even just solely in regards to my relationship. About work, starting a family one day, going back to school, social life. That all has been muted. Coming back piece by piece but overall muted. I used to be so happy and just content with life, and now I find myself wondering how much longer my relationship will last. I see my boyfriend in a different light too. He is a great guy, we never fight; he has always been my best friend. Even when we hang out, there is always something inside of me that says he is not right for me and I should move on. In the past I always valued how caring, supportive and nurturing he is and knew I could not get rid of him. Now I can't even feel the appreciation. I just "know" that under rational thinking that I can't seem to do right now, I have a great guy that I cannot get rid of. When I think of breaking up, I can't help but get upset about losing him.

The boring thing is a VERY big problem for me. I never thought my boyfriend was overall boring in my relationship; it was only until after the pill that I started to associate "boring" and my relationship in the same sentence. Boyfriend is not big on going out to bars and drinking alcohol in general. That has never been a big problem for me given that I am very exercise/health conscious and don't like going out anyway. And, when I went out anyway to bars, my friends would always go with me and it was fine. However, now I am feeling "fear of missing out" and my brain tries to put up a wall saying that I am missing out on fun activities and my boyfriend is overall boring. Now, every activity I do with him I put under a microscope and wonder if I will be bored. I used to always just enjoy his presence. I also feel like I need to go out more, even though that has never been me? It is exhausting. I tried going out with friends a few months back to a bar. I started crying hysterically from anxiety at the bar. I saw attractive guys and that was it.

These thoughts are unfortunately a part of me to. It absolutely stinks. However, I feel like the anxiety and depression makes you feel very little in general about everything. Thus, we develop such a high perception of feeling to the point where we can't feel anything anymore, and assume that our relationships are doomed. Nothing feels like a connection or love at all anymore, when really our relationships did not change. The love did not change, and we did not finally leave the honeymoon stage. The way we think unfortunately has been altered. It has been a long road and a bad year for me because of this. But I know I am getting stronger as are you.

I am dealing with a very similar situation, how long have you been dealing with this?

I am dealing with a very similar situation, how long have you been dealing with this?

4 months I have.