Hello,
I'm a 26 year old male. I, though not a recent discovery, have noticed that I have a very difficult time achieving and/or keeping an erection. I tend to masturbate a lot -- kind of became a impulsive behavior as I have gotten older and I have tried to stop, but I've had no luck with that... unfortunately.
My life has not been the easiest, so a lot of things have ALWAYS been on my mind. So, I could presume that anxiety may be one of the issues. Another factor of that would be, I was also born with several heart conditions -- having major heart surgery before I was even a year old -- adding that to the list of TONS of things to my "anxiety" list.
I've never been one to be "lucky" with the girls, but not being able to maintain myself in that area has not been helpful either. If only I could find a way to be able to maintain an erection, I could get over the social anxiety that I have and talk to more people (primarily girls) and get on with a normal sexual life... instead of masturbating so damn much. But I suppose that's just another thing to add to the list of "anxieties" of mine.
There are times where I can keep an erection for maybe 10 minutes, but after a while... well, I'm sure you could guess. After I no longer have an erection, I am unable to "retrieve" that erection once again. I am able to ejaculate without an erection, but of course that is really no fun and seems to be much more difficult to achieve that way.
The research I have done, which really wasn't much "professional" input, just pointed towards; the heart/health issues, anxiety, being tired, lack of exercise, etc, etc..
I have tried to not think, you know, for the sake of the anxiety and I've also have taken medications for E.D. -- none in which were able to help me in that area. So I can conclude that I do not have a E.D (erectional dysfunction). So maybe it is more anxiety related, or health related. So, if that is the case, how could I get over those things or maintain better health, even with a heart condition and achieve an erection? What could I do?
I'm not sure what the reason is, but just knowing that I don't know what it is, well, makes it more difficult for me. I just want to be able to perform well, for whomever I could possibly be with.
And, for the sake, if it comes up -- I'm not gay. As I am attracted to both sexes, I do prefer female over male. I don't believe the issue is a matter of my sexuality, but maybe it runs a little deeper than just that. Maybe I simply worry what others may think, just a little too much (which is somewhat of an issue I do have, I suppose).
I could go on & on with my input of my current issue at hand here, for someone to help me discover a way for me to 'fix' this. But even so, will a simple reply be the cure to my concern... I suppose we could just hope.
If anyone could give me some positive input for me, that would be great. I want to get on with my life. I want to make someone happy, as much as they could make me happy. I just want that to include, not only love, sex as well.
Thanks!!
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