Feeling depressed after stopping the birth control pills?

Guest over a year ago

I stopped having sex completely lol so I agree. Most of the reason is anxiety about getting pregnant only using a condom now that I'm off the pill. I'm 23 and started birth control 3 years ago before having sex with my now fiancé (first time with having sex ever and wanted to be prepared so I got on the pill). I use to feel a stronger connection during sex and also just towards everything and life in general. Like I just look around now and everything is what it is, I don't feel excitement or anything. Everything use to be amazing to me and now I feel nothing, no true enjoyment, going through the motions so to speak. I just moved into my first house and I feel nothing about it. I'm grateful but I just don't truly feel happy, ya know? Like normal me woke up excited for the day every day. Normal me would wake up in this new house and walk around excited about everything like - look at that new couch it's amazing! The way I describe this state I'm in is that it's like a sheet is being held in front of me and everything is just less clear, vivid, enjoyable, and lively than usual. Not sure if this is depression or not? Does anyone else feel that way? I'm in the beginning of month 5 being off the pill, just got my first period last month since August.

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Guest over a year ago

Yes I relate to this 100%, I could not have said this any better myself. It gets me upset for example I’ve always dreamed of becoming a mother and now I’m like so emotionally flat I feel like I don’t have that aspiration anymore and then the thought of that brings even more anxiety and sadness because deep down inside I know how badly I want that.

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Guest over a year ago

Same here. I've always wanted to be a mother. Another reason I will not have sex is that I would not be able to handle being pregnant right now - I don't want to feel like this if I get pregnant. I wouldn't want that dream stolen from me too - like finding out and being genuinely happy, announcing it to family, picking out clothes and decorating the nursery and such. Sometimes I get down about how I feel like I missed the day I got the house, or the day we got engaged because I didn't feel like myself when it happened. My fiancé proposed in front of family and someone commented on how they were surprised I didn't cry in excitement, and that made me feel so bad because I felt weird that I couldn't be excited like I should've, and I wanted to be and I new I was but I just didn't feel it?? I get worried about things changing too much between before I got off the pill and getting off the pill, because I don't want to look back and miss my whole life. I will say that the panic and anxiety attacks are gone, things have gotten better. I just wish I had zest for life and all of my dreams again. This isn't you, just know that your dream is still your dream it's just stupid hormones, ugh.

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Guest over a year ago

I am so sorry but I completely sympathize with you, I would not be able to enjoy any of that fully either, feeling how we are feeling. I am also with you on feeling like you can’t feel excited properly. Everything you said about expecting a baby are my thoughts exactly. At the beginning I was scared that if I got pregnant I wouldn’t love my child and that would freak me out even more. I will say this. Once you get bettter and you start feeling that excitement once again you will feel the joy of having your own home and being engaged to the love of your life. You may not have felt it fully at the time it happened but you will feel it all. We will live our lives fully again!!

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Guest over a year ago

My boyfriend is on vaca right now and it’s seriously bothering me that I don’t miss him that much. It’s only been like 5 times but I used to miss him immensely when he would go away and right now I don’t seem to care. It says making me upset that I don’t and it’s all I keep thinking about

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Guest over a year ago

Thank you for the support! It’s nice to hear from someone who’s been through the same thing.

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Guest over a year ago

Hey, I would say try to consider that you do care, that’s why you’re feeling guilty. The thing is that because of the hormonal issues it’s hard to feel the way we do, but know that you DO that’s why it’s bothering you. I know it can be hard to separate what’s true and what’s not at this time.

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Guest over a year ago

Of course! It’s nice to hear from you as well, i’m sorry you are going through it but it is nice to hear from someone who understands.

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Guest over a year ago

I hate this I feel like i am not allowing myself to live past this because I’m just always thinking.

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Guest over a year ago

Move past this*

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Guest over a year ago

I’ve convinced myself that because i’m sometimes not in the mood something is wrong with me. My mind is chaos!

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Guest over a year ago

Im exactly the same. Like today i was feeling quite good an then someone is work was nasty to me and it jus knocked me right back an made me start thinking of everything again an then i came home an accused my husband of somethin stupid an it caused a row :-( all because i jus feel so paranoid an insecure cos of this :-(

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Guest over a year ago

My only problem is that i can now feel really good about everything except my boyfriend. I know I love him I just can’t get over some physical features and also just the thought of not being into him anymore or him not being right for me. I just don’t know if this is real or not. It’s been 9 months and I’ve tried so hard to be happy but I feel like I shouldn’t continue a relationship if I’m not happy but I also don’t think I will be happy without him. I just constantly doubt everything so it’s really confusing to differentiate the the effects from the pill or how I actually feel.

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Guest over a year ago

Hi everyone, has anyone else had a random sharp pain in their head? And then some soreness after?

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Guest over a year ago

^^ I’m at the beginning of my 5th month off and just ovulated a few days ago if that matters?

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