hi, iam 28 years old, unmarried. my boyfriend and i tried sex for the first time and no matter how hard he tried he couldnt insert his penis. then he fried his finger, but still it didnt go in. my vagina is too tight. after he trying to penetrate, it stinged a lot.
i come from a country where sex before marriage is a taboo. thats why i took this long to decide. both of us were so frustrated. i cant go to a doctor. am i impotent? will i never be able to enjoy sex? is it because of my masturbation? i never insert anything not even my fingers, but i press my legs together and contract the pelvic muscles a lot. is it the reason? i cant go to anyone for advise they will crucify me...please help me to understand.
i come from a country where sex before marriage is a taboo. thats why i took this long to decide. both of us were so frustrated. i cant go to a doctor. am i impotent? will i never be able to enjoy sex? is it because of my masturbation? i never insert anything not even my fingers, but i press my legs together and contract the pelvic muscles a lot. is it the reason? i cant go to anyone for advise they will crucify me...please help me to understand.
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You really need special help here.
But try doing these things in the meantime.
First you need to know your body, explore you own body, get a mirror and look at your genitalia specially your vulva what is hing under your labial, play with your labia major
go and massage your vulva, rotate your finger around your clitoris, when you feel you are getting wet try inserting the tip of your small finger into your vagina slowly, if it doesn't go in, then lie-down and relax, touching your breast or any erotic zone of your body.
When you feel hot and wet try again.
You need to know your body first, and be able to relax while doing it before you let your boyfriend penetrate you.
Good luck but if this doesn't work please see a gynecologist. It could be that your hymen is too strong and thick and needs to be surgically opened.
Hymenectomy is a simple procedure and would give you the freedom to enjoy love. Good luck and take care.
But try doing these things in the meantime.
First you need to know your body, explore you own body, get a mirror and look at your genitalia specially your vulva what is hing under your labial, play with your labia major
go and massage your vulva, rotate your finger around your clitoris, when you feel you are getting wet try inserting the tip of your small finger into your vagina slowly, if it doesn't go in, then lie-down and relax, touching your breast or any erotic zone of your body.
When you feel hot and wet try again.
You need to know your body first, and be able to relax while doing it before you let your boyfriend penetrate you.
Good luck but if this doesn't work please see a gynecologist. It could be that your hymen is too strong and thick and needs to be surgically opened.
Hymenectomy is a simple procedure and would give you the freedom to enjoy love. Good luck and take care.
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You don't need special help or any of that but you should try relaxing more.Remember that you have muscles in your vagina and once you are tnse the muscles down there would be to.So next time you try having sex take a deep breathe and relax.
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what a special help? we don't have the same anatomy, remember that. sure that there is a connection between tight vagina and painful sex. some ladies do have certain difficulties during the intercourse, maybe because they are really tight and because they are not relaxed. maybe they even are not turned on. that is why. it doesn't mean that you need some help, like having surgery or similar, at all. I would also advise you to relax next time, try to use some lubricants and remember one thing - the vagina is like an elastic muscle - so, everything is going to be ok.
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I have hd the same problem and thought the same thing. You have to get really wet for having intercourse and it hurts like hell but suck it up eventually after a few minutes you'll feel the pleasure. Every time i start to have sex the first few minutes feel like my first time because the muscles in my vagina go back to really tight. Like i said the first 3 minutes suck then eventually your in heaven. BTW fingering has never worked out for me.
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You could have an exceptionally thick Hymen, this means instead of easily streching or tearing sex or attepted fingering deeply hurts and potentially cant happen. it is an easily fixed problem simply go to a Gp or family planning clinic and they can snip it in a few days you should be fine for sex.
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You likely have vaginismus. It is real, look it up. Pelvic floor physical therapy can help.
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To me, this sounds like vaginismus, which basically means that you are nervous or afraid and that your muscles are tightening up in response to that fear.
It might be fear of sex hurting, but if sex before marriage is such a taboo my money's on that one.
It could help to try to relax; and it could help to seek out information on vaginismus, and it could help to seek out genuine information on how sex and masturbation is affecting the body.
It is fine to masturbate. That way, you learn something about your body.
Actually, inserting one or two fingers may help, because that way you'll get more used to having something inside you. And if it's just you, alone, you can take all the time you like.
A tight vigina may of course be caused by something else - it's best to seek a doctors advice on this.
Whatever you choose to do, though, it shouldn't hurt. If it hurts, either your partner or you are trying to do too much, too quickly. Listen to your body :]
It might be fear of sex hurting, but if sex before marriage is such a taboo my money's on that one.
It could help to try to relax; and it could help to seek out information on vaginismus, and it could help to seek out genuine information on how sex and masturbation is affecting the body.
It is fine to masturbate. That way, you learn something about your body.
Actually, inserting one or two fingers may help, because that way you'll get more used to having something inside you. And if it's just you, alone, you can take all the time you like.
A tight vigina may of course be caused by something else - it's best to seek a doctors advice on this.
Whatever you choose to do, though, it shouldn't hurt. If it hurts, either your partner or you are trying to do too much, too quickly. Listen to your body :]
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it seems like vaginismus my girlfriend had such problem. you can ask your boyfriend that spend more time for forplay. you should be aroused emotionally then you can have sex.let your boyfriend kiss your whole body specific in back. lay down to your belly. let him to kiss gently your shoulder , back, hips, back of knees until your ankel and then turn back and let him do it. let him to kiss your neck and continue to your boobs and belly while he toch your body.it takes 20 to 30 minut for normal
woman. but it take more time for women who has vaginismus it takes least 45 minuts
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