Sex, too early???

Honestly, you are too young to be having intercourse. There are many other ways to show your love for one another. If you lose this guy due to telling him that you are too young for sex, then obviously this is not a guy you should want to be with. If he truly cares about you then he should understand your feelings about certain circumstances. Personally if I was you, I'd sit down one on one with him and let him know that you do have strong feelings for him but rather wait until your a bit older for sex. It only takes one time and in the end you find out that you are pregnant. What are you going to do? Are you financially stable enough to pay for a child? Enjoy your life when you can. Once you have a child your life changes dramatically. You will not be able to enjoy the things in life a 13 year old should be. Like I said if he can't wait, then he's not the one for you. He's already making a bad choice for saying no to protection. Saying "No" is your best choice. Good luck!  :) <---My personal opinion

Thanks, he has told me he won't rush it but still nervous........ I will try to sit him down and talk to him:). Thanks

You should wait at least 5 years, your way too young, how old is your boyfriend?

Chrs wrote:

Bibbles17 wrote:

Thanks, he has told me he won't rush it but still nervous........ I will try to sit him down and talk to him:). Thanks

You should wait at least 5 years, your way too young, how old is your boyfriend?

My boyfriend is 13 as well! He thinks it is time considering how long we have been together. I have alot of things going on in my crazy life, he shows me love alot of people don't! And that's why part of me says yes!

Bibbles17 wrote:

Chrs wrote:

Bibbles17 wrote:

Thanks, he has told me he won't rush it but still nervous........ I will try to sit him down and talk to him:). Thanks

You should wait at least 5 years, your way too young, how old is your boyfriend?

My boyfriend is 13 as well! He thinks it is time considering how long we have been together. I have alot of things going on in my crazy life, he shows me love alot of people don't! And that's why part of me says yes!

Thats understandable, And the time you have spent together is considerable. But i don't think you realize the health risks, If you where to get pregnant, Not only would you have to either abort or take the baby, You could possibly die due to your age. Its more complicated then that but thats just the simplest way to say it. I suggest that you tell him, That if he loves you, Then he will wait, and he will respect you and your reasons for waiting. I suggest that if you do decide to have sex with him. talk to your parents, and ask if you can be put on the pill, also, even though you are a girl, ask for condoms. Good Luck! Best of wishes for you and your boyfriend!:) Be Safe!

Chrs wrote:

Bibbles17 wrote:

Chrs wrote:

Bibbles17 wrote:

Thanks, he has told me he won't rush it but still nervous........ I will try to sit him down and talk to him:). Thanks

You should wait at least 5 years, your way too young, how old is your boyfriend?

My boyfriend is 13 as well! He thinks it is time considering how long we have been together. I have alot of things going on in my crazy life, he shows me love alot of people don't! And that's why part of me says yes!

Thats understandable, And the time you have spent together is considerable. But i don't think you realize the health risks, If you where to get pregnant, Not only would you have to either abort or take the baby, You could possibly die due to your age. Its more complicated then that but thats just the simplest way to say it. I suggest that you tell him, That if he loves you, Then he will wait, and he will respect you and your reasons for waiting. I suggest that if you do decide to have sex with him. talk to your parents, and ask if you can be put on the pill, also, even though you are a girl, ask for condoms. Good Luck! Best of wishes for you and your boyfriend!:) Be Safe!

I wish I could ask my parents or talk to them about this but that definitely won't happen..... It's really complicated!

To make things a lot less complicated, start off by making the right decision and waiting a few more years. If can not talk to your parents about it then it would be best till a date that you can talk to them about. If you choose to make the wrong decision and end up pregnant, who are you going to talk to then? Your parents are always going to be there for you. If you have thoughts about having sex at such a young age, I know talking to your parents is going to extremely hard to do but overall the outcome is going to be a lot easier than if you caught them by surprise. Please, make the right decision and wait until you are a bit older. I don't see any positive outcomes out of this situation besides abstinence. Good Luck once again!

It's not like that, my parents are different and i don't really talk to them at all, and if in make the decision to have sex, and I do get pregnant.... I have plenty if friends that would support me! I know I am to young but I really do love him and I don't see any harm..... But if I do decide to have sex, will it hurt???

Bibbles17 wrote:

Chrs wrote:

Bibbles17 wrote:

Chrs wrote:

Bibbles17 wrote:

Thanks, he has told me he won't rush it but still nervous........ I will try to sit him down and talk to him:). Thanks

You should wait at least 5 years, your way too young, how old is your boyfriend?

My boyfriend is 13 as well! He thinks it is time considering how long we have been together. I have alot of things going on in my crazy life, he shows me love alot of people don't! And that's why part of me says yes!

Thats understandable, And the time you have spent together is considerable. But i don't think you realize the health risks, If you where to get pregnant, Not only would you have to either abort or take the baby, You could possibly die due to your age. Its more complicated then that but thats just the simplest way to say it. I suggest that you tell him, That if he loves you, Then he will wait, and he will respect you and your reasons for waiting. I suggest that if you do decide to have sex with him. talk to your parents, and ask if you can be put on the pill, also, even though you are a girl, ask for condoms. Good Luck! Best of wishes for you and your boyfriend!:) Be Safe!

I wish I could ask my parents or talk to them about this but that definitely won't happen..... It's really complicated!

I understand parents can be... Well Not so understanding. Just wait a few more years, its not worth taking the risk. Trust me your 13! its not that complicated, its gets far more complicated.... Young love is an unstable thing. Just be careful, and be wise with your decisions!

don't do it ,pregnancy will mess your life up

don't do it, pregnancy will mess your life up

Why don't you speak to your parents? Tell your boyfriend to slow it down and go at your own pace. He can't rush you into anything you are not happy with xxxxx

My parents have been through alot, and have put me through alot, i have been stuck in the middle for a long time and i hate it. And i am sure he won't rush me, just need to stand up for myself if he asks or tries to do anything.

I understand that you can't talk to your parents about this, I would'nt talk to my parents either. Do you have an older sibling or someone a little bit older you can talk to. Even a close friend. You should try and find someone you feel comftorable talking about this with and get their advice before you make a decision.  When I was 13 I wasnt even thinking about sex and no one I knew was either. I know your woried about losing him but you may lose him anyway. If hes really head over heels for you, he will wait. You are so young that you might not be with him in the future. I would at least wait till your in high school maybe even up to college where you are more educated and know all about birth control and safe sex. I have so many friends that say they wish they waited. I waited until I was ready and am probably better off because of it. Sex can change your life, even if you dont get pregnat or get a STD. You might regret doing it afterwards. Sex can be awkaward your first time for both people and it might ruin your relationship instead of saving it. Also if its his first time too guesing it probably is considering hes only 13 he might not know how to be careful and put a condom on properly.  As for the question will it hurt? It might, it didnt hurt for me but when i was wondering about that same question most of my friends said it hurt for them. So chances are it will hurt for you. Again I waited till I was ready and they didn't. How long have you and your boyfriend have been going out? I mean your only 13 so it couldnt have been that long! I hope its not to late and please talk to someone you are comfortable talking about this with. Good Luck! I hope you make the right decision!