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u shouldnt have sex u will regret it. if u get urges u can do 2 things talk to an adult you trust really well like a close cousin or parent. u can also masturbate its easy and u dnt have to use fingers with some techniques. but trust me u dnt wanna lose ur virginity u will feel bad after it,and once u have sex u will never get another first time. save it for some one u will love like ur husband. just try masturbating it dnt hurt if u do some techniques and it will help. good luck!
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Hi Briana5,
the urge to have sex can feel overwhelming as you go through puberty, as can the feeling that everyone else is doing it. Those urges are very real and very strong. But you need to question why you want sex. Is it because you want the physical sensation? Do you want to feel loved or desirable? Are you just curious to know what it feels like? are your friends all doing it? Are boys putting pressure on you to do it? Any of those things are not good reasons to have sex. Sex is supposed t be something you share with someone you love and trust. It can also make you feel very vulnerable and leave you open to unplanned pregnancy and sexually transmitted infections. Before you do have sex learn all you can about sexual health and healthy relationships so that you can keep yourself safe. It is your body, only you have the right to decide who you have sex with and when and how.
Sex is much more special when you do it with someone you love. I am not saying wait until marriage or don't have sex as a teen. But I am saying wait until you are in a loving, trusting relationship with someone who cares about you. That will make it a more wonderful experience as they will care about your pleasure rather than just using you for their own pleasure and then dumping you. And when you do find that person take things a step at a time. Don't rush into intercourse. Explore each other's bodies and get to know each other. Intercourse is only a small part of sex. Especially for girls and women much of the pleasure occurs in the foreplay. Take time to enjoy that.
Personally I do think 14 is too young for sex, but if you are going to do it make sure you keep yourself safe, use condoms and do it with someone who cares about you, not some random boy that just wants sex. You wont feel loved you'll just feel used. And that can be really painful and confusing. In the meantime, explore your body through self pleasuring. This can help curb the urge to have sex. But importantly, it allows you to get to know your body so that when you do eventually have sex you will be able to communicate your needs to your lover.
All the best
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