HI, in a nut shell; I'm a 21 year old virgin who hasn't even gotten to 2nd base or above (i.e. no hand / oral action) so its a whole new ball game.. mainly because I have always been uncomfortable with myself (low esteem) and wanted to find someone I could trust
well now I've found him (a v-good friend of mine, who just thinking about him makes me tingle ;-) ) and we get along great and spend most of our time flirting / gropping; i've planned to go and see him in & would really love to get more intimate with him....
but should we go all the way or are these bases set for a reason (i.e taking it slow) also I'm worried that he'd expect to much off me he knows I'm a virgin but his not and what if I'm no good :$
please help
well now I've found him (a v-good friend of mine, who just thinking about him makes me tingle ;-) ) and we get along great and spend most of our time flirting / gropping; i've planned to go and see him in & would really love to get more intimate with him....
but should we go all the way or are these bases set for a reason (i.e taking it slow) also I'm worried that he'd expect to much off me he knows I'm a virgin but his not and what if I'm no good :$
please help
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you should have confidance in yourself girl! if you feel comfortable with this guy then u shouldnt worry, no one says u have to have sex, and im sure if hes that luvly then he wont expect you too either. bases are not set to follow like rules, sex and intimacey is however you make it, and dont worry about gettin it wrong when it feels right you cant go wrong, it should come natural to you.
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Don't put awhole lot of pressure on yourself otherwise when you guys to end up having sex it will become very uncomfortable and frustrating for both. Talk to him and let him know how you feel and let him know that you are a virgin. Find out as much as you can about his sexual past because not knowing can put you in danger of getting and STD. MAke sure he is clean and if he hasn't been tested ask him if he would. Be smart and educate yourself about the pro's and con's of having sex.
As for the whole decision to have sex with him. That is completely up to you. If you feel ready then go ahead, but if you have any doubts at all regardless of how small then you should defnitely put it off for awhile longer. It is a lot of responibility both emotionally and physically.
As for the whole decision to have sex with him. That is completely up to you. If you feel ready then go ahead, but if you have any doubts at all regardless of how small then you should defnitely put it off for awhile longer. It is a lot of responibility both emotionally and physically.
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