Ok, so im a virgin....sort of.... My boyfriend and I recently decided to have sex (him not a virgin). The first time we tried it, it hurt....alot, he ended up stopping because it hurt so much. I bled for about a day, and so assumed that it was partially broken and that when we tried again, it wouldnt hurt so badly. I told him to just break right through instead of going slowly because that obviously didnt work, but it ended up hurting even more. I cried, and he stopped again (isnt he a doll?) So...to the point. It still hasn't been broken (didnt bleed that much the second time), he hasnt even been fully in me. I was wondering if there is something wrong? Is there anything I can do to make it hurt less? I am at my wits end here...dont know what to do, and I hate to stop him, I dont want to do that to him again.
oh and before you ask
1) I was propery lubricated both times, we used KY and I was, well i guess the best word, although somewhat vulgur would be "wet"
2) It was totally my decision, I am been emotionaly ready and physically, everything else seams fine...he hasnt put any pressure on me what so ever...like I said, a doll!
3) I didnt go in with ideas in my head. Some friends said it hurt, some said it didnt, and some said just at first. I had a diffrent answer for each person so I knew better then anticipating no pain.
4) Ive got a pretty high threshold for pain....and so the fact that I was in tears shows how much it truly hurts.
So now that you've read my long post, please respond. Oh and feel free to ask any questions/details.
thanks a million
oh and before you ask
1) I was propery lubricated both times, we used KY and I was, well i guess the best word, although somewhat vulgur would be "wet"
2) It was totally my decision, I am been emotionaly ready and physically, everything else seams fine...he hasnt put any pressure on me what so ever...like I said, a doll!
3) I didnt go in with ideas in my head. Some friends said it hurt, some said it didnt, and some said just at first. I had a diffrent answer for each person so I knew better then anticipating no pain.
4) Ive got a pretty high threshold for pain....and so the fact that I was in tears shows how much it truly hurts.
So now that you've read my long post, please respond. Oh and feel free to ask any questions/details.
thanks a million
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hey there!
i've experienced the same thing... sort of lol with tampons/
I am 19 years old and i am not a virgin. When i was 14 i got my period for the first time... on a cruise... and the only thing my mom had were tampons. I tried numerous times to get them in and i just couldn't do it... it hurt WAYYY too much. being traumatized sorta i stopped using them up until a couple of years ago. I got used to using them by using the light ones and eventually up to the heavy loads. I guess it helped me open up and when my boyfriend and i had sex for the first time i didnt feel any pain or bleeding ( it was really spontaneous and we were fooling around for about half an hour before we did it). I realize penises are alot larger than tampons...So perhaps you can approach ur boyfriend, or do it by yourself if he is uncomfortable, and try using a dildo first... im pretty sure that they come in thinner sizes so that you can adjust gradually. But if it still really hurts you, there's no rush... i think when it happens, it happens theres no need to make it such a fancy occassion... as long as you love each other and the feeling is right :-)
hope i helped :-) remember the balloon ;-)
i've experienced the same thing... sort of lol with tampons/
I am 19 years old and i am not a virgin. When i was 14 i got my period for the first time... on a cruise... and the only thing my mom had were tampons. I tried numerous times to get them in and i just couldn't do it... it hurt WAYYY too much. being traumatized sorta i stopped using them up until a couple of years ago. I got used to using them by using the light ones and eventually up to the heavy loads. I guess it helped me open up and when my boyfriend and i had sex for the first time i didnt feel any pain or bleeding ( it was really spontaneous and we were fooling around for about half an hour before we did it). I realize penises are alot larger than tampons...So perhaps you can approach ur boyfriend, or do it by yourself if he is uncomfortable, and try using a dildo first... im pretty sure that they come in thinner sizes so that you can adjust gradually. But if it still really hurts you, there's no rush... i think when it happens, it happens theres no need to make it such a fancy occassion... as long as you love each other and the feeling is right :-)
hope i helped :-) remember the balloon ;-)
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Hey I am 19 and when I lost my virginity a few months back i experienced the same thing... it actually took me 3 days of trying and bleeding every time for like one hour until my body got used to the size and feeling. It's a good thing that you were lubricated since that always helps but good way (in lamer terms) to be able to break the hymen with leser pain is to be on top. Tell him to let you ride him ...this position lets you accommodate and penetrate at your own speed and comfort, thus making the break through less painful.
I hope this helps and try it you'll see what I am talking about, just relax and go at your own pace when you are on top...good luck
I hope this helps and try it you'll see what I am talking about, just relax and go at your own pace when you are on top...good luck
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