Am I a Lesbian?

Hey girl, I think I can help out a little, or at least ease your mind. When I was younger and even now, I get aroused by watching lesbian porn. I am happily engaged to a wonderful man and the thought of actually having sex with a woman makes my stomach turn. I have had dreams in the past about sex with a woman and, like you, I woke up disgusted. I am a psychology major and I believe that it is the act of sex that turns you on, not the actual people. It is that or it can be that subconsciously you are curious what it would be like. Nothing is wrong with that. When I was in college this girl wanted to be with me and never in my wildest dreams would I agree to that. I loved men and everything about them. Her and I hung out more and she kissed me at one point. I didn't mind and I began to think maybe I was bisexual. One day she asked me if she could touch me down below and I nearly got sick. I couldn't even fathom that and I was so grossed out. Point is I could watch girl on girl sex and get completely aroused but when it came down to being with a girl, well it grossed me out. I really think it is the act of watching sex happen that turn you on, not that you are bisexual or anything.

Thank you so much you really have eased my mind :-D

I think you are quite normal and Bcgiesah77 has described it very well. :-D

Ok I'm 13 and I think I am a lesbian but I don't want to be. I have a friends and whenever are aroun other friends I get jelous when they go off and when me and her go to sleep we always spoon and I feel tingly around her but I dontwant to be a lesbian!!! Help me and tell me what to do!!

Only you can say whether you are or are not a lesbian.

At age 13, the fact that you like to spoon when you sleep doesn't mean anything one way or another.
And the fact that you are jealous of others spending time together doesn't indicate a sexual preference either.

As you grow older, if you become sexually active, you may have some experiences that will make you feel that you are attracted to one gender or another... or maybe both! Then it becomes more easy to identify for yourself what lable you want to present to the world.
But it's really nobody else's business.

Plus, it's pretty early in life for you to be making that call. Give yourself some time, and try to get that jealousy under control, ok?

Thank you so much for the advice! That makes me feel a lot better about everything.

if you really think you are lesbian i cant really say... it may be normal and you just want to experience new thing, but if you really think you are lesbian i cant help you on that its fine if you are or arent