okay so, i've been with my boyfriend for over five months now. he wants to fingerbang me as the "next step", but i'm not totally ready for that. but lately, he's been playing around down there over some spandex shorts i have. it's not legit fingerbanging, but i don't know what else to call it. it's close enough. anyway, this has been going on for a bit and it's been fine. but last week, i had to ask him to stop because it hurt. he said he felt bad but i told him it was alright. then when he got home, he texted me telling me he felt really bad, because he found dried blood on his hand. i figured i got my period or something but i had just finished a few days before.. so we waited a week or so, and today we did it again, but this time he had a lottt more blood on his hands and i got some on his pants too. he wasn't grossed out or anything, but now we're worried as to why that was happening.. help?
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2 things can be the culprit from this 1. He tore your hymen 2. you have had vaginal bleeding from increased in hormones! I think because he has been aggressive it is probably the 1st one! I also want to mention something to you! JUST because your boyfriend wants to take it further does NOT mean you need to! IF you feel uncomfortable it just does NOT happen OK? This is your body and he will just have to control himself! And don't placate him for tearing your hymen or causing bleeding - he obviously didn't feel bad enough NOT to do the same thing after the 1st blood OK?
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haha, trust me, he's not an as****e. i'm fine with how far we've gone and i know how to say no, and he respects it. i think i might have portrayed him wrong here.. :P but thanks for the concern. i appreciate the help too.
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Glad to hear it honey! I have just counselled MANY young girls and even a couple of guys that didn't know how to say NO! And felt pressured, so I just immediately went there! Anways The best thing to do for the blood and the pain is to wash it away - if you have a squirt bottle you can squirt cold water onto the area - this helps with inflammation and of course rinsing away any residue - NEVER douche with a scentred product - as this can cause infection! Good luck honey! And IF you decide to take it further then ALWAYS make your boyfriend use protection OK? NEVER take the chance as you can get pregnant at ANYTIME even if it is for only a second - there are 1 million sperm in 1 ejaculate, 10,000 in a drop, and all it takes is 1 to make a baby! As I'm sure you are aware!!! ;-)
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