Honey! You ARE a virgin! Being a virgin means that you NEVER had a penis inside your vagina! IF you mess around with your hymen it might break and then you will have some answering to do! IF you fear for you life - and your boyfriend is SO insecure that he is calling you a "LIAR" this is a TERRIBLE SCARY VIOLENT relationship you are getting into! He is obviously VERY insecure, and puts that on you! And to think he might kill you IF you don't bleed is RIDICULOUS! To be married means you trust each other, you DON'T abuse one another, you don't FRIGHTEN the other, you don't INTIMIDATE one another, you are just happy to be together! I have a feeling that he is NOT a virgin, and has probably not broken any womans hymen - thus him mentioning about your "virginity" IF you press down on the hymen it could break! IF you have never used tampons, you should be fine - breaking the hymen can happen right away, days later, it can be partially torn, or it NEVER tears! It ALL depends on lubrication, the girth of the man's penis - IF he is small, it WONT break the hymen!
This is NOT about YOU being a virgin honey! It is about how frightened you are of him! I would NOT go further with this relationship! He WILL rule you and you will be a mess thinking if you have bled or not! And IF you don't he WILL make your life VERY tough! It is 2011 not 1800's and it's time for him to get into the year! NO woman - in this day and age - should have to take abuse! There are THOUSANDS of women ALL over the world in every country, every religion, every culture that has stayed with a JEALOUS, VIOLENT, ABUSIVE - in EVERY way, man and some have NOT lived to regret it! And once you are in such a horrible relationship it takes a LOT too leave! He WILL be jealous, he will watch you EVERY second! And he WILL blame you for any problems! And IF you don't bleed - which would be HIS problem, I guarantee he WILL call you horrible names! You need to look at him and say "Is this REAL love - of caring, and honoring, or is it that I am AFRAID of him?" NO Man/Woman who is a threatening person, changes after marriage! They do NOT get better, they just have more control! You will have NO money, NO friends, NO family, and he WILL austrasize you from everyone, so you are answering to him! I PROMISE you this! I want you to hold off the wedding, and tell him that you ARE a virgin and IF he doesn't believe you then that's HIS problem, and you don't want to be with a man that does NOT trust you! Also a doctor can tell him you are a virgin! It's a disgraceful thing to have to go through and IF you have children with him - which he will insist on right away! Then you are even more a prisoner of him!
Once again you ARE A VIRGIN! NO Test needed! You ARE - don't mess with ANYTHING or put your finger in NOTHING! And REALLY look at this relationship and REALLY HEAR what I have said! IF you look on Steady Health - there are TONNES of women who are Raped, Abused, Threatened by their husbands and they are STUCK and can't move - some are stuck for over 20 years etc. So I wish you good luck and to stand up to him!