born without testicals

guys i have also this kind of condition,i was born without testicles and im turning 22 yrs old now.I need someone or future friends who have also this kind of condition to give advice and build my confidene.i never been tell this to anybody even my family, regarding my condition because i was ashamed and i dont know how to start with.(Im sure my parents they know about my condition and we never been talk about my condition).please email me guys heres my email.

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i need someone to talk to..and advice of what you guys did to solve/overcome this kind of situation.

Here might be some hope for guys who never had or lost their testicles...

http://www.everydayhealth.com/sexual-health/0119/fake-testicles-the-male-infertility-cure.aspx

http://www.kpho.com/story/17180348/fa

you need to be checked by a doctor. You for SURE need to have your testosterone levels checked.
If indeed you are missing both testicles you will have to take medicine to replace the missing testosterone in your body. This SHOULD have been done before you started puberty. There are a number of different medicines you can choose from, I use a daily topical medication called 'axiron'.
There is an abundance of information on the affects of testosterone deprivation in males, research 'eunuchs' for more information on that.

If you are interested in looking more 'natural', check out prosthetic testicles. They come in a hard/solid kind, and a soft kind. I recommend the soft kind as the hard ones will look natural, but won't feel natural to the touch.

For me, the biggest issues are problems with intimacy and the fact that I can't father children. The sexual partners I have told about this don't seem to care at all, the one's I didn't tell never seemed to notice, so keep in mind that a lot of this is in your own head....I know that probably doesn't help much.

If the inability to father children is a big concern for you (as it is for me) I highly recommend seeing a good therapist. Also, keep checking medical journals and modern medicine, they are making break-throughs every day in male fertility.

Thanks to you all for posting your stories! My son was born without testicles almost 10 years ago. He received three testosterone shots as a toddler to "bring him up to speed" with his development. We are told as you attest he doesn't need to do anything until puberty. He is a great and perfectly happy and confident young boy. His doctor from when he was a toddler told us to have him checked out when he turns 10. That is around the corner and I am a bit concerned. I want to be open and honest with him although I am worried this is too young for him to understand. I want to tell him just enough he will understand, don't want to withhold info but don't want to give too much either. What are your suggestions on age and how to bring up the whole topic? I think the fathering children conversation could wait until he is maybe 12 or so? Tough call, don't want to disappoint him, trying to deal on my own. Any professional I have spoken to assure me he will be fine so long as I treat him as such. Still tough to deal with as a parent.

i think you should had started preparing him long before now. ten year olds are pretty bright. i think you should give him all the facts. he probably knows more than you think.

there are several reasons i think you should tell him the facts. hes at the age that puberty can start at anytime. they will be teaching this in school at anytime and hes also at the age boys start talking about these things. i think its best he find out from you first.

for the love of god don't wait for him to find out in the gym showers at school!  Because the other boys ARE going to notice, and they ARE going to say something.

when  you have the 'birds and the bee's talk, is when you bring this up....that's my suggestion.  

Thank you both your responses, greatly appreciated. Definitely want to discuss sooner than later. 10 years old is only 4th grade, they do not shower together so no one will see...just yet. Also in this town they do not have sex education until 6th grade which is another two years. Lastly puberty does not start at 10 years old. I would say I need to have the testicle "balls" conversation within the next six months. However, I think the ability to reproduce is not necessary for another 1-2 years. Certainly prior to learning the testes are responsible for the male portion of reproduction. That will not be taught for another two years in this school system. I agree kids are smarter than what we think but boys are not talking about sperm and fertilization if anything. Thanks again for your concern and for taking the time to assist. It is greatly appreciated!

want to bet puberty cant start at ten? sure can. i started at nine. yea, it could start at anytime now.

also, by the time my school got around to teaching sex ed i already knew all about it from my buddies. dont do that to him in his situation.

how about researching puberty? think youll be surprised that it can start as early as nine.

I first learned about sperm and the egg at 11 by a friend of mine that was told about it by his mother. I'll bet he already knows something is wrong because about all boys by that age know there are suppose to be "Balls" there. In his case you need to watch him closely for signs of puberty. The first thing you'll see is peach fuzz around his penis. No way to predict when he'll start. Could be anytime or 5 years from now. The range is fairly wide. Just don't let him find out from some other way about what's going on. It's going to be bad enough coming from you, but even worse coming from somewhere's else. He's going to need support dealing with it. Don't close him out.

I would not wait on physical signs of puberty because unless he has been on testosterone, odds are he will not START puberty,...period... My doctor ran xray's on my hand and wrist to determine if my body was ready to start puberty. That's when they started me on testosterone. I would advise having him checked out by his doctor...you can put 'the talk' off till after that. His doctor may say he can wait a year or two more. But yeah, like the other posts, I found out everything way before my parents and school told me. Mostly from friends, the game truth or dare, and even porn (saw my first at 9). I would suggest taking him to get his skeletal maturity checked by his doc. They will determine when to begin hormone therapy. After they begin his hormone therapy is when his puberty will begin.

ravorboi wrote:

Proud Father wrote:

Thank you both your responses, greatly appreciated. Definitely want to discuss sooner than later. 10 years old is only 4th grade, they do not shower together so no one will see...just yet. Also in this town they do not have sex education until 6th grade which is another two years. Lastly puberty does not start at 10 years old. I would say I need to have the testicle "balls" conversation within the next six months. However, I think the ability to reproduce is not necessary for another 1-2 years. Certainly prior to learning the testes are responsible for the male portion of reproduction. That will not be taught for another two years in this school system. I agree kids are smarter than what we think but boys are not talking about sperm and fertilization if anything. Thanks again for your concern and for taking the time to assist. It is greatly appreciated!

I would not wait on physical signs of puberty because unless he has been on testosterone, odds are he will not START puberty,...period... My doctor ran xray's on my hand and wrist to determine if my body was ready to start puberty. That's when they started me on testosterone. I would advise having him checked out by his doctor...you can put 'the talk' off till after that. His doctor may say he can wait a year or two more. But yeah, like the other posts, I found out everything way before my parents and school told me. Mostly from friends, the game truth or dare, and even porn (saw my first at 9). I would suggest taking him to get his skeletal maturity checked by his doc. They will determine when to begin hormone therapy. After they begin his hormone therapy is when his puberty will begin.

let me also add:
No matter how bad you want to put this off, and no matter how hard you try, once his doctors tell you his body is ready, you can't put it off...you HAVE to begin hormone therapy. What you tell him after that is up to you.

The consequences of foregoing the hormone therapy can be severe, so DO NOT put this off...if his body is ready, there's no stopping it.