no testicles since birth, we are married for 10 years

are you able to have sex still?

My boyfriend doesn't have any at all. It doesn't change my love for him. The sex is different, but we manage, and in my opinion, it's more pleasurable anyway.

I have a two yr old boy who also was born with them like that. I was wondering what the future holds for him as far as psychological effects. Any advice on how to explain this to him as he gets older?

just don't lie to him & let him know that there'll be women out there that'll care. let him know he's not alone & miracles do happen but not to think about having children much. give the truth to him slow & try to answer his questions honestly. he will discover how to deal with it soon enough. in the meantime just support him and be there for him.

My husband doesn't have them either. His were taken at birth by the dr who delivered him. Told his mom they were too small and might as well get rid of them. He is taking a testosterone shot every 2 weeks and it bothers him like crazy that he can't have any of his own children. It's not easy but he is the love of my life. He is still very active and "manly" he is an awesome hunter and great at outdoor activities. IE: hunting, fishing, trekking, bow hunting etc

I have had this condition since early childhood, but I always thought that size doesn't matter. But then I had a kidney transplant last year and one of the doctors examined them and he asked me with surprise, "Hey, you don't have testicles ?"



I was really surprised with his remark. I didn't pursue it after that but reading the posts here are making me rethink. I am seeing someone and I believe she must know about this condition. And, you wont believe, she is a doctor !!!

I was born with this condition as well. I take androgel and my sex life, body, ect is all normal. I have no problem with erections, I ejaculate, ect. It was hard growing up with sports/locker room type stuff, and it was very hard on me to learn at about age 10 that I would not be able to have children. At the age of 14 I had testicular implants which helped my confidence but I never felt the need to have another surgery to upgrade to "adult" size. I am 31 now and hardly think about it anymore. I wish I knew someone like me growing up, I know exactly how the OP feels and its nice that the internet can provide that for people now.

I don't know if I was born this way, or if it was due to a inguinal hernia a had when I was very young. My parents never talked to me about it. I am in my mid 30's, have a scar on each side (left and right) from the hernia surgey, no testicles, and a "child like" penius. I had a hard time trying to figure all this out on my own. My teenage years were spent alone, as I'm sure the rest of my life will be. I do not take any testosterone and don't want anyone to see me. I can't grow facial hair, but do have some pubic hair. My life is very difficult because of this, and often I think of suicide because I can never be "normal". I feel as though I had been butchered at birth. I thought I was the only one like this. This is the first time I have even spoken of this, only because I can hide behind the internet.

When my son was born, the doctors felt and documented that he had 2 testicles. Every weekly and monthly checkup afterward, the testicles were still felt and documented as normal. Until about 4 months of age, at a regular well child checkup the doctor could only feel 1 of his testicles. She told us not to worry that the testicle would come down on its own. She told us that every month after and said that they would not be concerned until he turned 2 years old, even after she could no longer feel any testicles present. I had an emergency appointment one day for a totally different reason, fever I think, and saw a different doctor. When he could not feel the testicles either, he became very concerned and sent us almost immediately to the Children's Hospital, where we saw a urologist who was also very concerned but told us not to worry that all he had to do was go inside our son and "drop" the testicles. At 10 months of age, my son had surgery. The doctor came out and let us know that our son had no testicles. He only found remnants which he believed the testicles twisted up, cutting off blood supply and then dried up. This could have been prevented had we gone for surgery much much sooner. We went to an attorney to try and sue the original doctor who was "not concerned". Our surgeon then decided to change his diagnosis, stating that this all occurred inside my stomach before my son was ever born. So, we had no case. He is almost 8 now and we've told him only the part that he does not have testicles and is therefore a bit different than other boys and that someday he will have some treatments to help him grow normally just like the other boys. I had to tell him because at this age boys start and get curious. He didn't even know what testicles were and that he didn't have any. He already knew that something about him was different though because he has 2 younger brothers that are already "bigger" than he is. I dread the day that I have to explain to him that he will never be able to have children of his own. He already loves kids and talks about his "future" family. It is a bit comforting to hear of adult men saying that they have turned out alright with the hormones and such. I'm glad that I found this site. Thank you.

My story is much like the last. At 10 months, my son had surgery and we had hoped they would simply "pull down" the testicles. However, there was not a left one and the right one "dried up." He is 10 now and we are taking him to a specialist next week about implants. We are trying to be very open with him because we do not want him to think we kept things from him.

If you have gone through this, please let me know how you wish your parents had handled it.

THANKS!

Hi im only 15 years old and dealing with this situation. I am young but curious. My parents told me about this when I was 10 years old. Since I was around 12 i have started to see a urologist. My dad recently died and my mom is currently giving me the testosterone shot ever 4 months. In a couple of months I am going to get adult sized testicular implants. I am scared for what the future holds for me. I am also happy that i found this site it shows me that im not the only one out the with this problem. Hopefully I can find someone like me in my future.

hey, my case is different, all normal until last year when cancer was discovered in my testicles so i had to have them both removed.
i have an muscular injection every 3 months and everything is reasonably normal, sex life, erections, ejaculations (glands produce this-testicles just add the sperm), run & cycle etc
obviously cant have kids, but there are advantages, like being able to cross my legs, not being kicked in the gonads, no slapping!
thought my friends might look at me different but absolute no effect that i have noticed

I always thought i was the only one on this planet with this condition. when i was 7 years old, the doctors took away both of my testicles because, later on they would have given me some type of cancer. At the age of 14,i had another surgery, and i had some protesis inserted where my testes go. I live a normal happy life, and i take 1cc of depo testosterone every two weeks. you are not alone.

Well i truly am suprised that i am no tthe only person with this shadow.. im 18 and ive not since i wa 7 or 8 and didnt really understand till the age of 12 when i was in high school. I cried like a baby, sometimes it gets the better of me. everything is as it should be though, i use to tae sustanon injections every 2 weeks, then ever month and now im on testo gel a satch a day every morning. ive had sex a couple of times, i was nervous as hell. probably 10x more than an average kid. you all probably understand....what if she thinks its small or what if she notices my testicals arent as others....well thats still a fear because ive never slept with a non-virigin so to them im the average joe...and i hopefully will get married to a virgin so she wudnt expect much....ive given orgasms ormybe theywere faked :S
Life only gets hard when i think of gettin that perfect girl then telling her i cant give her babies...that kills me.....I failed my GCSE'S because of this issue and i had prosthetic(dunno if i sed it right) testicals implated...so basically fake ones. im 6ft4 and weight about 180kg im pretty toned and play rugby,did a bit of kick boxing......i experience some weird muscualr pains at times...when i stp takign medication though......thank God for leaving some humane, humans in my life...ive been able to tell my best friends and all of them support me....i even managed to tell the first love of my life..and she saw past it. obviously theres no love like a mothers love.... my brother has been a huge support and my twin sis to...

so no..your not the only ones out there...and ill glady give you support and tell you all i know......is an email i jus created so i may find people like them and tell them to add me..possibly get a facebook...lool...lets get connected......so many of us think there the only ones...they ilive with tears for comfort.....no more.....lets give and share support.....obviously....if yo wsh to keep who you are private, do so.....jus like i wil be doing, till i am 100% trusting.
much love and God bless