1- You need to stop masturbating for a while and concentrate on some other activities like sports or hobbies! and then try to sleep well cuz sleeping can play a big role in sex!
2- try to imagine how warm is your girlfriend's p***y and how great when you insert your penis inside!! that will help you a lot for prolong your errection!
3- If you feel that your penis gor sore then stop the opration, do not go further, you maybe nervous and thinking about cumming and feeling relax!! leave it for next time!
2- try to imagine how warm is your girlfriend's p***y and how great when you insert your penis inside!! that will help you a lot for prolong your errection!
3- If you feel that your penis gor sore then stop the opration, do not go further, you maybe nervous and thinking about cumming and feeling relax!! leave it for next time!
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I know this is long and people dont want to read other peoples life stories but it is important, thank you..
This site may have been a life saver, literally. Please read this and dont make judgments on me. When I was younger (jerking off 10 times a day lol) I would always imagine that I was f*****g a p***y. I then started getting into the fooling around stuff in early highschool. Then the first time I screwed in highschool it was because a girl wanted me so bad and she sucked on my penis and i told her to hop on top. It felt amazing to me, but of course after being very nervous about sex and all my friends have had sex i turned to the internet and found out about sex, where I found that it hurts girls the first time, so i asked her if it hurt and she said yeah so I took it out. I have a feeling I was more about pleasing her than pleasing me after reading this posts. No biggie to me I was still foolin around with other girls then a real experienced senior girl who was very good and giving bjs got me hard and told me to give it to her while grabbing my penis toward her p***y, my poor guy got soft right in her hands. what is wrong with me right?? I am a dude wanted by women and cant give it to them, is what I am thinkin at this time, and I know dudes that would have died to have women try so hard for them. Then to keep up in highschool with my friends, the times that I could not penetrate, I told them I did (yeah ik penis move) but I was so embarresed. Then in my junior year I found a girl that would do absolutely anything for me and I cared for her so much. We screwed a lot I would go on and off agian with being able to penetrate, she didnt seem to mind. Then I went on a stretch, after a drunken night when my girl wanted it to bad and I could do nothing to please her, where I could not get it up. It got to the point where when I was a college I did not want to even come home and see her because I knew it was going to lead to that and I did not want to feel shamful. She ended up cheating on me with one of my good friends from back home. I was so f*****g hurt I could not help thinking that this was all because of this stupid problem. Of course the relationship ended and I am over her but it has been 11 months since I had sex, im a 21 year old college student its rediculous. Of course I tried, with other girls, agian I would mess around and get hard, then agian come up short. I smoked a lot of pot in college, but I got paranoid after this one time a girl said I was gay cuz I couldnt get hard. wow what a way to kick me while I am down. I was high and could not stop thinking that everyone thought I was gay, Then everytime I was high, i would think that or become paranoid about becomming paranoid, then I would think that people thought I was gay because I havent screwed and got caught in a lie because I couldnt penetrate agian. I know I stopped smoking so much, but this idea stayed with me sober. Yeah iknow how depressed can you make a man this was the lowest of the low and nobody knew it, this depression led me to not even wanting to be around girls. at all. I went to the doctor and she gave me some sample viagra and anxiety pills. She also tested me for testosterone and other blood work that costed $500. My dad got the bill and I could not work up the nerve to tell him. I come from a family were my dad has talked about all the random poontang he has gotten when he was my age, a older brother who I have seen have so many women over, and an arising stud of a younger brother. He also wonders why I dont have these girls over (I know why but am way to embarresed to tell him). The viagra didnt work and the the anxiety pills made me more depressed because I realized I was taking anxiety pills when I should be enjoying my life. Especially because I could get rock hard on my own. I still smoked because sometimes I would relax, but other times i got paranoid agian that people thought I was gay, then I thought I was gay because I could not get it up. Yeah I am not lying. I was a straight guy who loved p***y, who thought he was gay, I am having anxiety about this as I am writting this because this is not what a striaght guy would be doing at 3 am in college. This gay thing got extreme, porn, then fantasized, so I felt like I had to try it (I know I know please dont judge) I tried it after living at the beach for the summer, and not f*****g one girl because I was drunk and afraid I was not going to get up. So yeah hooked up with a guy who was obviously gay because he was all about it. The thing is I did not get hard at all agian, I didnt like it, hated it actually and didnt know what I was doing with my life. I felt so disgusting and thought I was definitely gay no matter what I thought or who I wanted to f**k because of what I did. I got fat didnt want to go out drank a lot and thought about hooking up with guys even though I didnt want to because I thought that was who I was.
But here I am reading all these posts that I should have read when I was 15, depressed as sh*t, and thought about suicide from being so confused. I no longer think about suicide, I know I am not gay because, I actually am disgusted with gay people (I am not homophobic obviously), I did something I didnt want to do and became extremely paranoid because I thought I was forever gay for doing such a thing, I asked other people and they said if you hook up with a guy your gay no matter what anyone says. it has been so long and I want to go back to being able to f**k a hot p***y and just forget my past, but I cant, its more than just relax for me, this has become serious because I dont even get hard now when I try and fool around with a girl then I get afraid if she tries to go down into my pants because there is literally nothing to work with. All my buddies f**k all the time and wonder whats wrong with me. I just want a hot girl to ride me agian and dont know who to talk to. I def cannot talk to my parents about this, it makes me feel immasculated and ashamed. I really do not know where to turn.
Thanks to this site the helped me realized the simplicity of the issue, my unfortuantly was probably the worst case scenario, I just need some guidance.
This site may have been a life saver, literally. Please read this and dont make judgments on me. When I was younger (jerking off 10 times a day lol) I would always imagine that I was f*****g a p***y. I then started getting into the fooling around stuff in early highschool. Then the first time I screwed in highschool it was because a girl wanted me so bad and she sucked on my penis and i told her to hop on top. It felt amazing to me, but of course after being very nervous about sex and all my friends have had sex i turned to the internet and found out about sex, where I found that it hurts girls the first time, so i asked her if it hurt and she said yeah so I took it out. I have a feeling I was more about pleasing her than pleasing me after reading this posts. No biggie to me I was still foolin around with other girls then a real experienced senior girl who was very good and giving bjs got me hard and told me to give it to her while grabbing my penis toward her p***y, my poor guy got soft right in her hands. what is wrong with me right?? I am a dude wanted by women and cant give it to them, is what I am thinkin at this time, and I know dudes that would have died to have women try so hard for them. Then to keep up in highschool with my friends, the times that I could not penetrate, I told them I did (yeah ik penis move) but I was so embarresed. Then in my junior year I found a girl that would do absolutely anything for me and I cared for her so much. We screwed a lot I would go on and off agian with being able to penetrate, she didnt seem to mind. Then I went on a stretch, after a drunken night when my girl wanted it to bad and I could do nothing to please her, where I could not get it up. It got to the point where when I was a college I did not want to even come home and see her because I knew it was going to lead to that and I did not want to feel shamful. She ended up cheating on me with one of my good friends from back home. I was so f*****g hurt I could not help thinking that this was all because of this stupid problem. Of course the relationship ended and I am over her but it has been 11 months since I had sex, im a 21 year old college student its rediculous. Of course I tried, with other girls, agian I would mess around and get hard, then agian come up short. I smoked a lot of pot in college, but I got paranoid after this one time a girl said I was gay cuz I couldnt get hard. wow what a way to kick me while I am down. I was high and could not stop thinking that everyone thought I was gay, Then everytime I was high, i would think that or become paranoid about becomming paranoid, then I would think that people thought I was gay because I havent screwed and got caught in a lie because I couldnt penetrate agian. I know I stopped smoking so much, but this idea stayed with me sober. Yeah iknow how depressed can you make a man this was the lowest of the low and nobody knew it, this depression led me to not even wanting to be around girls. at all. I went to the doctor and she gave me some sample viagra and anxiety pills. She also tested me for testosterone and other blood work that costed $500. My dad got the bill and I could not work up the nerve to tell him. I come from a family were my dad has talked about all the random poontang he has gotten when he was my age, a older brother who I have seen have so many women over, and an arising stud of a younger brother. He also wonders why I dont have these girls over (I know why but am way to embarresed to tell him). The viagra didnt work and the the anxiety pills made me more depressed because I realized I was taking anxiety pills when I should be enjoying my life. Especially because I could get rock hard on my own. I still smoked because sometimes I would relax, but other times i got paranoid agian that people thought I was gay, then I thought I was gay because I could not get it up. Yeah I am not lying. I was a straight guy who loved p***y, who thought he was gay, I am having anxiety about this as I am writting this because this is not what a striaght guy would be doing at 3 am in college. This gay thing got extreme, porn, then fantasized, so I felt like I had to try it (I know I know please dont judge) I tried it after living at the beach for the summer, and not f*****g one girl because I was drunk and afraid I was not going to get up. So yeah hooked up with a guy who was obviously gay because he was all about it. The thing is I did not get hard at all agian, I didnt like it, hated it actually and didnt know what I was doing with my life. I felt so disgusting and thought I was definitely gay no matter what I thought or who I wanted to f**k because of what I did. I got fat didnt want to go out drank a lot and thought about hooking up with guys even though I didnt want to because I thought that was who I was.
But here I am reading all these posts that I should have read when I was 15, depressed as sh*t, and thought about suicide from being so confused. I no longer think about suicide, I know I am not gay because, I actually am disgusted with gay people (I am not homophobic obviously), I did something I didnt want to do and became extremely paranoid because I thought I was forever gay for doing such a thing, I asked other people and they said if you hook up with a guy your gay no matter what anyone says. it has been so long and I want to go back to being able to f**k a hot p***y and just forget my past, but I cant, its more than just relax for me, this has become serious because I dont even get hard now when I try and fool around with a girl then I get afraid if she tries to go down into my pants because there is literally nothing to work with. All my buddies f**k all the time and wonder whats wrong with me. I just want a hot girl to ride me agian and dont know who to talk to. I def cannot talk to my parents about this, it makes me feel immasculated and ashamed. I really do not know where to turn.
Thanks to this site the helped me realized the simplicity of the issue, my unfortuantly was probably the worst case scenario, I just need some guidance.
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hey fellas
im nearly 16 and came onto google the night my girlfriend and i attempted having sex and me running into the exact problem that the majority of you all have experienced as well
most of what you have said has helped, though my girlfriend and i havent actually had another shot just yet so i cant really say any of the advice HAS worked
but the main reason to why im posting on here is to just straighten things out
that what the "solution" to our problem is:
zinc & multi vitamins
not to get heavily intoxicated often
slowly make your way to it through kissing/rubbing/foreplay - whatever gets you erect
and to just relax, take it slow
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ok..but will i have to take all those druge,or use the pennis ring for my whole life evrytime im abt to have sex??or will i be good after nd have a normal sex life???
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same thing with me im 16 years old and single. last night i was with this girl i talked to for a long time now but never really hung out. so we hooked up all night and i was ''hard'' the whole time until we were ready to have sex. i was shaking and i lost my erection and no matter what i did i couldnt get an erection. i dont know why this happened the first time i had sex but after that i was fine. i do not know whats wrong with me is it nerves or erectile dysfuntion. please help.
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It's a mental prob. I used to have it. tho I don't know about @soccermad when I got drunk that NEVER happened to me. so for me it was a mind game you are not ready for sex if that's whats going on. its your subconscious mind telling you "NO" just try not to think about it. focus one the moment not the title.
-- I'm sorry about all the spelling and grammar issues I typed most of this on my phone.
I don't think that helped any.. but now you know its a mental issue.. or mine was... whatever. Hope you got something out of that.
-- I'm sorry about all the spelling and grammar issues I typed most of this on my phone.
I don't think that helped any.. but now you know its a mental issue.. or mine was... whatever. Hope you got something out of that.
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hey guys. im 20 years old and im having the same problem. i was once going out with a girl just to have sex with her but it didnt go well. once we were making out and dry humping and i got so aroused i came in my pants, later on we were going to have sex and when i was with my penis on her p***y about to penetrate her i came. this was very frustrating. now im with another girl and it has happend a couple of time that i came in my pants while dry humping but the thing that worries me the most is what happend when we were about to have sex. i was kinda hard and was puting on the condom and she started rubbing me to get compleatly hard and before my penis was hard enough to penetrate her i came. when i masturbate on my own i can get really hard and it takes me a couple of minute to come but when im with a girl i come before getting compleatly hard, what can i do?
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Hi i'm 18. i had this problem once before. Usually i would get really excited and all my adrenaline would shoot into my body, so i wouldn't feel anything. Which was a very confusing and frustrating problem. What got me through it was a girl who could tease right and who knew that i needed to take it slow. Try this: beforehand, tell her to resist and fight back a little bit. It turned me on when we were on the bed and together but she kept running away from me. Also when you feel yourself getting too excited try being on bottom and her stimulating your torso. I know it sounds weird, but when she does that, you tend to feel her fingers and then you calm down. I'm heavily ticklish, so i tried not to move when she did this, and later i realized that i was fine and could feel everything.
Also, for sudden deflation, you should try eating her out. It helps me to get hard when i play with her and see her all wet and the look on her face. Don't be afraid to eat her out. You may taste some urine, but if you do it right, you'll soon taste her lubricate. Find the c**t, and lick it while fingering her. you may get your nose rubbed into her pubs (ask her to trim beforehand) but your self confidence will sky rocket you pleasure her to the point where she asks for it. Plus it's a great way to get her turned on as hell.
Basically, you have to work through it, take it slow, and find what you like best. sometimes if you have a fetish (like my eating girls out) you can use that to get you hard. Maybe you like her breasts, or face, or butt, or feet or something, but the point is, when you're making her feel good, you'll get hard automatically. And once you focus on pleasuring her, you won't think about your penis until it's poking her in the thigh.
Happy Humping!
Also, for sudden deflation, you should try eating her out. It helps me to get hard when i play with her and see her all wet and the look on her face. Don't be afraid to eat her out. You may taste some urine, but if you do it right, you'll soon taste her lubricate. Find the c**t, and lick it while fingering her. you may get your nose rubbed into her pubs (ask her to trim beforehand) but your self confidence will sky rocket you pleasure her to the point where she asks for it. Plus it's a great way to get her turned on as hell.
Basically, you have to work through it, take it slow, and find what you like best. sometimes if you have a fetish (like my eating girls out) you can use that to get you hard. Maybe you like her breasts, or face, or butt, or feet or something, but the point is, when you're making her feel good, you'll get hard automatically. And once you focus on pleasuring her, you won't think about your penis until it's poking her in the thigh.
Happy Humping!
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Hi
I'm 16. At home, I was always kinda not into girls, because my school is very egoistic and the moment anything happens it usually winds down badly for you. So, I got all my fun overseas, on holiday etc. Then, I met a girl who made me want to risk it at home. I began dating her and we started having sex. I've messed up a couple of times, like i haven't cheated on her or anything like that, but once we were joking about stuff at her house and insulting each other as a joke and i went over the line. I apologised and it's all good, and we've moved on. So I have done things i feel bad about in our relationship. Now, when we have sex, my Johnson refuses to go hard. Like, I take her to my room and then... nothing. Like it goes hard when we make out (kiss) but when we go any further then he flops. And refuses to go up again. I'm not really worried about anything, like i'm a bright guy and i've done enough revision for my upcoming GCSEs. Neither of our families knows we are doing this, and I know my mom would be (and i quote) "furiously ropable" if she found out we were. Yes, it's probably anxiety, but how do I move on? How can I get un-anxious?
Thanks
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i was with this girl she is really hot and i really wanted to have sex with her. but i made a bad decision which was to go over to her house for the first time on mushrooms i hid the fact that i was tripping but i also couldnt concentrate on her at all, its really hard to get it up when your focusing on frogs that arent there or the birds outside sounding really loud. but we both wanted to have sex with eachother that day tried at least three times with foreplay but my mind was a mess and i couldnt make the magic happen
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I just had sex with my ex for the first time since we broke up, in the hope that we would get back together. This girl is the only girl that I've meet that can get me hard just by hugging me good bye haha. But tonight we started making out and fooling around and I became hard, and when it was time for sex it got soft inside of her... I've been embarrassed ever since I left, but I think the reason that I became soft is for one we were in the front seat of my truck which is very uncomfortable for me since I'm 6'4 and two it was very hot and I was sweating, it was very uncomfortable. But idk if that's the true reason... I feel like a complete dumb ass!
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Happened to me also.. Im 14 almost 15 and well yesterday i was with my girl and we were about to have sex my friend was in the other room i havent ate slept and havent done alot all day. So we were forplaying and well we decided to go further and i didnt know what was up but it went limp it was half and half say that and well she got off and said i cant do this without you being hard and i was like ight hold on. Came back and still coulodnt so what up with that.
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How long have you been with your girlfriend? That can have an impact on it. There is that stereotype on guys that fools with guys head that they should go hard at the very thought of sex, not always. It's actually pretty normal. My boyfriend had the same situation with me, we worked on it, you must be very stressed and afraid of not doing well. Just go with it and see what happens, it takes many try and it takes a lot of trust to have sex. Some are able to just have sex like that but some aren't and thats okay, that's normal. For the tingly sensation, normal as well, all the blood rushes to your penis and goes right back down. So don't worry about it, just work on trust and relaxing with her.
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Wow, what an old post and it is still around? Sorry for missing out on this for the past years.
What you are experiencing is sexual performance anxiety given your age. Nothing to worry about. When you have more experience, you can learn to relax and let go and the erection hardness will come back.
Cheers!
What you are experiencing is sexual performance anxiety given your age. Nothing to worry about. When you have more experience, you can learn to relax and let go and the erection hardness will come back.
Cheers!
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