Hi i am a 16 year old virgin, i have a problem i couldnt erect, i belive its because i was very nervous just before having sex with my girlfriend, and its just when i know im going to have sex that this happens, im really confused about whats going on, is there anything i can take? Please help
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Its perfectly normal to be nervous for your first time. Heck, I couldn't keep up an erection with my first. But all you have to really do is talk to your girlfriend, relax and most importantly FEEL COMFORTABLE with the situation. Take deep breaths prior to it if you think it'll help. Keeps the oxygen in your penis. Maybe even a little bit more fore play will help. And I don't suggest using any pills at the age of 16.
Don't forget about contraceptions, safe sex is good sex.
Don't forget about contraceptions, safe sex is good sex.
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i found that i became extremely nervous when applying the protection :-( . How can i deal with that problem.
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I have this same exact problem. I'm 17 and i get really nervous b4 tryin to have sex, and i go soft as soon as i think about sex while were messin around. I've tried like 4 times with the same result and am at the point where i'm just frustrated, idk what to do
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i have a same problem, when im hanging out with my girl and kissing i get hard, but when we are alone in the room and about to have sex i get nervous and my heart starts beating hard, i feel like i dont even know what i am doing, i kept thinking what if i dont get hard cuz i fail b4, just ...but there is few things that can help, ...talk to the person how you feel, you will def feel better after you tell her its of your mind. biggest thing is you need to get comftible around her and comftible about your size...so good luck
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I think the problem is that you simply aren't compfortable about the situation. Easiest way to know if that is your problem is asking yourself whether you would feel compfortable if your girlfriend saw you naked.
You cant just go rushing into sex. It is a big step. My last girlfriend wanted sex but I was not ready at the time. I just didnt feel close to her enough. We didn't do anthing with one another apart from kiss. So to move from kissing someone straight to sex is a big step. Sex should not be rushed.
My current girldfriend at the moment I have been with her for a year, She does not want sex yet and I respected her and I do not force her into anything she doesn't want me to do and I think that has helped us to grow stronger because we have done other things instead to pleasure one another and it's easier in different situations not to feel embarassed as your so close to that person.
I know I can confidently talk to her about anything I want to.
Hope this helps! Take care! x
You cant just go rushing into sex. It is a big step. My last girlfriend wanted sex but I was not ready at the time. I just didnt feel close to her enough. We didn't do anthing with one another apart from kiss. So to move from kissing someone straight to sex is a big step. Sex should not be rushed.
My current girldfriend at the moment I have been with her for a year, She does not want sex yet and I respected her and I do not force her into anything she doesn't want me to do and I think that has helped us to grow stronger because we have done other things instead to pleasure one another and it's easier in different situations not to feel embarassed as your so close to that person.
I know I can confidently talk to her about anything I want to.
Hope this helps! Take care! x
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i had this same problem from when i was 15-16 i am 17 now. more to the point i found it a lot easier to get naked in front of my girl-friend after i felt getting naked so every time i went out and had a laugh with some friends i always decided to get naked after a while i felt realy comfortable being naked full stop when it came around to the bedroom my clothes was straight off i dident feel nervouse at all and i lasted alot longer and enjoyed it a lot more.
so the main point is find a comfortable time then it should all fall into place:D
so the main point is find a comfortable time then it should all fall into place:D
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From a psychological point of view. If you are nervous and unable to perform, I would believe that it's a good indication, that your not ready for it.
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yea i tried before with my girlfriend but its also kinda hard when he mom is trying to sleep in the room next door pressure + nervousness = o.O but were gonna wait cause we got caught x.x
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yea me and hannah tried but it obviously wasnt the right time with her mom nextdoor so were gonna wait until a later date and NOT get caught o.O :-D
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i am in relationship with this girl and, she perfect. the last two times we got ready to have my heart started running a 100mph. i get nervous as hell i cant stay focous on her. i feel really ashamed and, i dont know what to do. she keep asking whats wrong also, she thinks its her. :-( :-(
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haha i got a problem sex has went really wel for me and never has been a problem but with my current gf i have had sex a couple times but all of a sudden im getting nervous and really is starting to frustrate me when i cant even get a hard on when masturbating
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Yea I have similar issues with my girlfriend. When she gets close to me and I'm holding her I start to get a little nervous. But once we start fooling around I feel comfortable. But we tried once to go to her room and have sex but both of us were too nervous. But I was glad that we were both open about it. Once I become more comfortable the sex will be more special.
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I had a girlfriend for a year and we had lots of sex with almost no problem.
We have been broken up for a while now, almost a year; and now every time I try to have sex with someone I get nervous before I'm about to go in and I can't keep it up.
I've tried breathing and relaxing but every time I'm about to go in, in my mind I'm going, "DON'T GO DOWN, DON'T GO DOWN, DON'T GO DOWN." And then it happens.
I'm sure it's because I'm putting too much pressure on myself to have sex. Catch 22
I don't know what to do, girls aren't that understanding.
We have been broken up for a while now, almost a year; and now every time I try to have sex with someone I get nervous before I'm about to go in and I can't keep it up.
I've tried breathing and relaxing but every time I'm about to go in, in my mind I'm going, "DON'T GO DOWN, DON'T GO DOWN, DON'T GO DOWN." And then it happens.
I'm sure it's because I'm putting too much pressure on myself to have sex. Catch 22
I don't know what to do, girls aren't that understanding.
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yea this exact thing happened to me a lot. then i got a gf and i felt really comfortable and then it just happend. then me and her broke up and i thought i was gna go have sex with a bunch of girls but now im right back in the same boat it sux im tired of it.
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