i am 17yo male. As the name says... i cum during masterbation all the time but never during sex. girlfriend thinks its her fault and shes not attractive (as women feel) when its obviously not.
She said she looked up on it and found that...
1) wanking too much makes it harder to cum during sex
2) staying in same position for long time makes you cum
3) not being nervous helps too
-i.e. not worrying about parents knowing etc etc
I havent tried these yet, but am going to soon. Ive searched on other forums and people say that its just that you cant. but ive been so close to several times but havent. Is it just that i havnt yet but will soon... or do some people not actually cum.
She said she looked up on it and found that...
1) wanking too much makes it harder to cum during sex
2) staying in same position for long time makes you cum
3) not being nervous helps too
-i.e. not worrying about parents knowing etc etc
I havent tried these yet, but am going to soon. Ive searched on other forums and people say that its just that you cant. but ive been so close to several times but havent. Is it just that i havnt yet but will soon... or do some people not actually cum.
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Im 17 and i got the Same problem here.
I can masturbate and cum but when me and my gurl have sex i cant cum.
Im not sure if its because we always run out of time or if its that i masturbate 2 much.
Anybody got info on this?
I can masturbate and cum but when me and my gurl have sex i cant cum.
Im not sure if its because we always run out of time or if its that i masturbate 2 much.
Anybody got info on this?
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Try not to masturbate the day you have sex give your body at least a day to produce more sperm.
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I am 19 and all through my sex life i have only cum once during sex and that was after a whole weekend 3 sessions and many many hours... masturbation is no prob... i want to find a way to fix this.... the way i found to cum was obviously alot of sex over a long period of time and staying still not doing anything while she went on top slowly and the n gradually faster over a long period... so worth it
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If you can all cum when you masturbate then there is nothing wrong with your bodies. This is likely to be a psychological problem - made worse by anxiety. Try and relax. It may be that you are sub-consciously worried about getting your girlfriend pregnant? Make sure that you take precautions (use a condom) to help this. Try getting your girlfriend to masturbate you so that you cum. It may be that you are nervous of her seeing this very private act. If you are both willing, you can masturbate in front of each other too. I'm sure that once you have cum with your girlfriend the first time everything will then be fine. Let us know how you get on. John
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The first time my girlfriend and I ever did anything sexual together I was nervous as all hell. We were at her dads house for thanksgiving, her dad scares me. I didnt cum once that whole entire weekend. Then I became much less nervous about sexual things and a lot less self conscious about my lack of experience with sex. After I made her cum the first time my confidence went up and since then I have been able to cum during any sexual activity with her.
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I am 26 years old and in the past I have never had a problem cumming during sex. I just recently hooked up wit a girl i care really about and we have had sex like 6 times and I get so close to cumming, but I can't. Is it true if you masterbate too much it will cause someone not to cum? I am not gonna lie, I masterbate like 3 times a week, but I heard this should not be a problem. She knows its not her fault, but I know its mine and she gets aggravated that she can't get me to cum. Anyone got any answers out there?
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i have been with my girlfriend for the last 8 months and never had a problem cumming untill the last few months we have sex and not even the sensation that i might remotly cum....what can i do that will up the probability of cumming during sex. like all the other guys my girlfriend is getting the felling its her when its not...willing to try every thing
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Man i thought it was just me, ive been burping the worm since i was like 15. but was a virgin till i was 17. so i never have an orgasm during (normal sex) but sometimes drugs can make it harder to orgasm. do you drink or smoke before sex???
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Sperm is always produced on males, so it's not that you ran out of sperm.
The reasons that your girlfriend found are both true and logical for both sex; except the 1st one, which only applies to females. This is what happens with that:
Men exitation is reached faster than female. Does that matter in sex? Yes, because men that masturbate a lot are used to "solo sex" and when they reach their exitation point during "normal sex" they, to put it in a pretty way, "lose" interest thus the women don't reach their exitation point and that's why women don't cum in this cases...
Hope it helped :-)
Wish you and your girlfriend best of all luck!
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Im a med student.
The reasons that your girlfriend found are both true and logical for both sex; except the 1st one, which only applies to females. This is what happens with that:
Men exitation is reached faster than female. Does that matter in sex? Yes, because men that masturbate a lot are used to "solo sex" and when they reach their exitation point during "normal sex" they, to put it in a pretty way, "lose" interest thus the women don't reach their exitation point and that's why women don't cum in this cases...
Hope it helped :-)
Wish you and your girlfriend best of all luck!
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Im a med student.
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same here! i thought i was the only one who felt this way, my girlfriend is amazingly hot and we did it like 5 times in one day, it felt great and not even once did i come close to cumming. i smoke pot so i think that can be an issue, i heard it can cause you to take a long time of sex to cum. but anyways, so i feel like sh*t cuz i can't cum but she doesnt seem to mind because she can f**k me without a condom and not worry much. idk if i should feel good about this or not. should i try not jacking off for a week or so? i have all the private time in the world, just need the help of actually cumming.
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I recently had the same problem, and I'm just 19. I met this girl, one of the best looking girls I've ever had the pleasure of being with. She was older and had a strange way about her. Everything about her turned me on and we grew closer then anyone so far I've been with faster then anyone. And the sex with her was mind blowing. She would ask what I had always wanted to do and make it a reality. She looked like a pin up and it felt great I craved sex with her like no one else ever yet hardly came she would come a couple times sometimes and I had more confidence over that then Ever and still didn't cum. I hadn't been one to really care for a girl like I did her. I was crazy about her. Shed try to figure it out saying maybe she didn't feel right to me and I screwed with my emotions but that wasn't it. I really cared about her and wanted her to be around awhile. She was so attractive I often worried someone would take her. She'd assure me I was fine and say " you in my bed tonight no one else" I can't figure this out, she was so attractive and so sensual I got to do things with her I always wanted and still had trouble cumming. Id like to not have that awkward situation again.
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Who says you have to cum there is no rule the main problem that I think your having is lack of practice you have to move your whole body as opposed to your hand its a totally different skill I found that when I first started having sex but after a while I was able to cum every time even from mild stimulation. then when I did not have sex for a few months it was harder to cum the worst thing was because I had done it before I was impatient that's bad the best thing is to ride it out so to speak. As for not wanking sounds like the advice that I would like to give but also from experience its not that easy when you have an night on your own but I like the fact that the last time I came I was on top of a girl so I will try my hardest. Also not wanking will make you more aggressive due to hormones and not every girl likes that (I think) although evolutionary theory may suggest otherwise.
Its nice to know that there are others out there who are out of practice.
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